To think vodka shots at home are unacceptable?

[lilliem]

Me and my friends think so! DH thinks it's fine... both DDs have bought shot glasses and 40% vodka!!! Planning on having shots tonight, isn't that something you really don't do at home?

My mother encourages shots.

No, it hasn't, but I've had eldest drunk at home before and she was just very OTT singing, etc.

Just pre warn them to keep it down

It is totally unreasonable. Vodka is vile. Now I'm going back to my third whisky & soda.

Pre-warn about noise. Remind about need not to be hungover. Have a drink with them - even a shot. Don’t expect the worst - it is entirely possible to have shots and not get blind drunk.

I'm about to have an oyster shoot with my first breakfast ( in Australia)

shot glass
oyster
vodka
lemon juice
tomato juice
tabasco

Tip-top

Merry Christmas.🎄

If they’re going to down shots, surely it’s better that they do it at home, where they’re safe?

I'm 40 and I did tequila slammers at home with my best friend and her husband last week

I understand the point about being safer at home, but I do think it’s a shame that we discourage younger people from social drinking in pubs, bars and restaurants with massively high prices. (Clubs are different I suppose: there’s probably nothing good about them, socially speaking.)

Young adults should drink with older people and get used to norms of behaviour. Pre-loading at home seems so furtive and unregulated.

I wouldn't like that Op. Its a family night if theyre home and unless ye drink lots yourselves it will be a pain for ye. 18 is young. I know they drink while out with friends but knocking back shots in your family home on Christmas Eve is awful l think. Fine if they wanted to have a few glasses of wine with ye.
Sounds like your oldest is trying to impress her younger sister with how cool she is since she went to college. My gang are all home from college and do the shots thing there but wouldn't dream of doing it here unless they were having a party here with their friends. ( Possibly will happen over the holidays)

You sound so miserable, nothing has even happened yet! And singing? Yo have a problem with singing on Christmas Eve?

You say you won’t be drunk...since you’ve decided you won’t “beat” them into a sober quiet not-the-fun-they-want Christmas Eve, why don’t you unclench and join them?

Last year, my 40 yo brother, his 40yo partner and my husband and I ( in our thirties) drank champagne and sole gin cocktails and sang a wobbly rendition of “The Stately Homes of England” and “Adeste Fidelis”, complete with descant at 2am. It was great.

@junebirthdaygirl
Why is alcohol with you different to alcohol with her sister?

A few glasses of wine is say 3, right? Three standard pub measures of wine, 175ml, is 6.8 units roughy.

That’s 6 almost 7 shots of vodka.

I do shots of vodka all the time at home. I hate my drinks mixed together (it’s weird, I know), but I like how light like a vodka tonic is. So I do a shot of vodka and then drink the tonic. Nothing wrong with that unless they’re planning to drink the whole bottle and end up in A&E.

I don't think I'd be over the moon about them getting wasted on xmas eve so they'll be hung over and grumpy tomorrow. That said when I was a teenager I used to go out to the pub on Christmas eve and get wasted, stumble in drunk and fall asleep on the sofa so I'd be a bit of a hypocrite!

I feel its just out of sync with what the rest of the family is doing. On Christmas Eve in their own home l would expect them to fit in more. And really all of us did things when we were young that we wouldn't have done with our parents around and knocking back shots falls into that category, l think.

OP sounds like a right tight arse. Her eldest won't come home again at this rate! I don't even like shots. But unacceptable? Oh purlease.

So so many ticks being added in the “clutches pearls” column on my MN spreadsheet with this thread. Thank you OP.

I think getting pissed quickly on vodka shots at home is a safe place to find out just how shit it will make you feel. I can see some Technicolor yawns in your house tonight OP.

It sounds a bit daft but it's better than going out and getting shit faced leaving you to worry what they're up to.

OP, I got absolutely ratted with my friend who was staying for Christmas on Christmas Eve at my Mum's ONCE, I never did it again because it buggered up Christmas.

That was the one and only time I EVER got pissed on Christmas Eve. 25 years later I've only ever got a bit 'relaxed' on Christmas Eve as Christmas Day hangovers are shit. See it as a learning experience.

I think it's pretty normal, especially at that age. And don't worry about tomorrow, they are 18 and 20, it's years before they'll know what a hangover is.

I'd be glad they were at home safe while doing it, especially if they weren't used to it. I'd be happy they weren't hiding it and not seeking out other substances also tbh.

Christmas isn't proper Christmas without getting bladdered and making a dick out of yourself according to MN, donchanow?

Sounds like something I would absolutely hate to witness, it's not my idea of fun at all. YANBU if you ask me but our opinion is not popular.

@lilliem In my eyes YADNBU Op, Vodka makes people extremely messy- especially a lot of it! And if your youngest hasn't really drunk before I would be seriously worried about her being pressured by her sister.

Why is everyone going off on the OP? Would you want 2 daughters the next morning pissed off because they're hungover and not participating in Christmas and causing unnecessary stress? And potential vomit everywhere, loud music?

20 year old me would be taking 18 year old sis down the pub. Your girls have chosen to spend Christmas Eve with you so try and not spoil the night by worrying about something that hasn't even happened yet. And which won't do you any harm at all. No one died from a bit of singing on Christmas Eve. Go chat to your girls and enjoy yourself.