Boss demanding me to tell them in pregnant

[Motherwell91]

Work in a high pased office enviorment. We have had a change of managment in the last few months. She was promoted from our sector and has gone.. as you could say power mad. Shortning and increasing targets... changing deadlines etc. And generally being rude and obnoxious to everyone. Ive kept quiet and just got on. (Like to go to work do my job go home) well this morning i recieve a text from her stating. ' i know your pregnant you need to stop keeping it a secret and confirm it. Im gobsmaked for one im not... but this seems such an unprofesinal manner to do things. Im yet to reply aibu to egnore it ? Wwyd? How would you reply should i reply.?

I wouldn’t reply, I’d just send it straight to HR

HR need a copy of that message.

Definitely send to HR.

Send to HR and your union if you have one. Keep a copy for your solicitor and the media should you need it

Send to HR

Ey?? She's bananas! Send it to HR. The kindest explanation is that she's had one too many tonight and meant to send it to someone else.

She's insane.

As above, send directly to HR and don't respond to this lunatic.

I agree that you should send this text to HR and your union if you have one. Don't reply to her.

Omg even if you suspected that, you would keep your mouth shut until you were told officially. That is unreal. HR no question.

I havent replied.. but she sent me another message sorry but its been bugging me for ages lol.... its 10 past midnight...

Also sorry for all the typos im knackered... up with an 18 month old refusing to sleep.

She's messaging you at midnight about this? Don't reply.

Send it to HR even if she is "sorry" it so not an LOL message and I take it she isn't on your "Bestie- first to know" list to account for her second text.

She has behaved appallingly and is way out of her scope mailing you that late in the night

Totally inappropriate. Definitely involve HR.

She sounds unhinged. Definitely send to HR.

Don’t reply make a copy and see HR so much wrong with it.

I think the bit that has irratated/upset me the most is... i havent had any sick days shown any symptoms etc... so this is clearly a weight thing... ive been trying really hard to loose weight (had a c-section which i think has made it harder to loose baby weight) i keep loosing a couple of pounds and then putting them back on. The idea ive got so fat i look pregnant mortifies me.

It's not a weight thing. It's that your first born is 18 months which is sometimes a good age to start trying for number 2 (it was for me anyway)
Send to HR and assume she's had a glass of wine

She's drunk. Either ignore or ignore and forward to HR

Send to HR and assume she's had a glass of wine

I hope it takes more than one glass to make her act like this!

Only normal explanation would be for her to have gotten the wrong number and meant to text a close friend, otherwise that's so weird, I can't imagine she is not either completely bonkers or had much more to drink than a glass of wine. Bottle more likely!

"The idea ive got so fat i look pregnant mortifies me."
You mentioned she'd gone a bit power-mad. I wonder if deliberately mortifying you is a power trip for her.

Regardless, I'd be onto HR first thing. She needs to be reined in.

Ignore it completely and await advices from HR/union. Appalling on her part! How bloody rude!

Harassing someone because you think they’re pregnant is not acceptable from a colleague, let alone management. If you were, you wouldn’t need to tell them for a very long time. As it is, it’s still incredibly rude.

I’m so sorry this is making you feel self conscious. Many of us have similar post baby bodies. Don’t let your (misplaced) embarassement put you off from reporting this. She is so out of order, I almost can’t believe it!