Boss demanding me to tell them in pregnant

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Work in a high pased office enviorment. We have had a change of managment in the last few months. She was promoted from our sector and has gone.. as you could say power mad. Shortning and increasing targets... changing deadlines etc. And generally being rude and obnoxious to everyone. Ive kept quiet and just got on. (Like to go to work do my job go home) well this morning i recieve a text from her stating. ' i know your pregnant you need to stop keeping it a secret and confirm it. Im gobsmaked for one im not... but this seems such an unprofesinal manner to do things. Im yet to reply aibu to egnore it ? Wwyd? How would you reply should i reply.?

OP are you actually pregnant?
She says she isn't in her orignial message.

As well as pregnancy another protected criteria in employment law is sex discrimination, ie something that happens to you only because you're a woman and would not happen to a man.

This fits with that criteria, nobody would mither a man about revealing their 'pregnant status'.

If you fit with ANY of the protected criteria you can raise a tribunal before 2 years. Once at a tribunal the outcome all depends upon how the panel view the events.

Look at it as a gift .
Do not reply or acknowledge in any way and use it to hopefully get rid or at the very least clip her wings.
What an unpleasant person she is.

Hope you ok OP - agree this needs to go to HR

on the other hand.

It's difficult when a "mate" is promoted to a management position, and the relationship changes. What would have happened if someone new had come in and acted like this? Maybe some changes were necessary, but not as much as it sounds like is happening. Do all your co-workers feel the same? If so, could a few of you talk to her together?

Oh yeah she does. I'm not actually sure whether it can be pregnancy related discrimination if you're not pregnant. There are some areas of law where it's effectively recognised as being mistreatment on the basis of a trait even if the mistreater is wrong about you having it, don't know if employment is one of them.

OP font mention or show messages to any colleagues, only HR. Stay totally professional and take direction from them. If ask for an immediate meeting with HR to discuss as you work together and need advice straight away

I'd say going to HR over your boss's head is usually a very tricky thing and not to be done lightly, but in this case and because of her other behavior you'll have to take it to them. You're unlikely to be the first to have had issues... but this is ridiculously unprofessional, and bullying.

Well, isn't she a peach?

I'd say "sorry, you've sent this to the wrong person. Don't worry, for data privacy reasons I will delete it and not tell anyone" then just ignore her.

Please send it to HR. This is totally unacceptable.

I would send it to HR with covering suggestion that you are concerned such an unprofessional message suggests that the new role is proving too stressful for manager.

What everyone else said. This is one for HR to deal with. So sorry you have had to deal with this harassment.

Could you respond by saying even if I am pregnant, at this point it has nothing to do with you. Then if she answers you have proof that she mistakenly sent it to you in the first place.

Pregnant or not, this is totally unprofessional. If she suspected you were pregnant due to tiredness/sickness and struggling with work, then she should have spoken to you in work hours. If not, this is insulting. Also, she shouldn't be contacting out of hours unless you're oncall or perhaps an emergency.

Don't say " I think you meant this for someone else" as a PP suggested! That will be her get out clause, give her enough rope she will do the inevitable herself

That's so many shades of wrong!

Send straight to HR. Then reply to the boss saying "It looks like you've forwarded one of your emails to me by mistake, thought you would want to know".

How long have you worked there? If under 2 years or in a call centre, don't rock the boat.

Don't rock the boat with the awful, unprofessional, power hungry boss. Keep quiet like a good little girl.

I'd reply " Hi boss. Just to let you know I got a text from you clearly meant for someone else in case you're wondering why you haven't had a reply from them."

Shockingly unprofessional

Don't get into games with her. Just send the email to HR. I also wouldn't include any message saying you're concerned that she's finding the job stressful. Just state that you received this email at midnight and find it intrusive and unprofessional.

If you want an internal mobility, this might be a good way to get it?

But think long and hard about what you want to achieve before sending to HR (though I agree that text is totally inappropriate)

Oh that's completely bang out of order. I hope you have contacted your HR dept.

Do not reply. Pass this on to HR and lodge a formal complaint about her harressment. Messages at midnight, accusations of pregnancy and deceit.

Ignore her as much as is humanly possible at work.

Good luck, I know it’s awful when your manager is a cow.

Ugh what a dumb message for her to have sent. What if you had just had a miscarriage or something.

I think I'd report it to HR or to a manager because it's such a weird and unprofessional thing to have done.