Worst insult from your partner?

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Not sure that thread will survive

I’m harder to deal with than the baby. That i need to grow up and that I’m not fit to be alone with his son.
This was afternoon nights of barley any sleep looking after our ill one year old and me finally breaking down and telling him I’ve been having suicidal thoughts.
This happened about half an hour ago.

My husband has never insulted me, after 15 years together.

We exchange witty banter from time to time, and he once called my soup 'gloopy', but we have never insulted each other in earnest. I've had mental health problems and I've put on weight, and he's never called me 'crazy' or done anything except make me feel loved and accepted, and I hope I've given him nothing but love and support too.

Women whose partners are insulting you and calling you names - please leave them. This is verbal abuse, it's not normal! I've had about 8 boyfriends, 6 of the 8 managed not to insult me, 1 short-term boyfriend called me a 'slag', after we'd broken up, so dodged a bullet there, and the other one made demeaning comments. That relationship didn't last long.

Decent men don't do this. Please women, give yourself the respect you deserve.

@ethelfeda Have you spoken to your doctor? This is serious and you can get treatment for depression and yours sounds pretty severe. You can't get treatment for having a dick of a husband unfortunately.

I've been with this guy a year... we've had a few arguments and he's called me a bitch, told me to fuck off, told me I'm emotionally abusive, manipulative... I have a real issue with it because, after being in a marriage for 15 yrs where there were no insults, I just don't want this to become my norm and acceptable because I don't think it is. It destroys me. Yes, I know - why am I still with him? Because I'm a divorced and damaged and vulnerable middle aged single parent who clearly has issues 🤷🏻‍♀️

I was recently told "you are a horrible horrible c**t and you think you're something special" - I burst out laughing.

'No wonder your dad hates you'. We'll soon be divorced.

These are horrendous- I was married for 33 years until his untimely death. We had our moments of arguing then silences but I can honestly say he never insulted me or belittled me and even tho he drove me crackers some days I never said anything derogatory towards him. He boosted my confidence daily, praised me to his friends and our sons and I miss him so much.

There's a difference between arguments where the issue (not the person) is sensibly discussed, it doesn't turn into personal insult, and the really cutting insults people here are mentioning.

As mentioned before, in 15 years DH hasn't insulted me, but we've still argued about things, the difference is, we respect each other and that runs through all our communication.

And there's a difference between "you're a useless bitch" and "I can't believe how often someone so intelligent keeps managing to set fire to kitchen equipment."

Too many twat ‘partners’ here, it’s heartbreaking

Yes, sadly, there are far too many women living in abusive relationships. And every week, 2 of them die at the hands of their "partners" or ex-partners.

ethelfleda please speak to your doctor, and ask your health visitor if there's a Surestart/Homestart centre near you. You might be able to get some help.

Happyinheels come on, don't put yourself down! No wonder you're with an abusive man if you don't even care about yourself. When I met my husband, I was 35, just out of a long term relationship, and before that, a marriage, and had 3 kids by those 2 men. We've been together almost 20 years now, and he's been nothing but good to me.
You can do better, but you're not going to meet a nice guy while you're with this dickhead. Dump him and give yourself the chance of a better relationship.

Nope my DP has never insulted me or put me down in 12years.
Even if I am a dick at times, he is always kind.
My ex otoh I still think of some of the horrible twisted things he has said under the veil of fake concern. He said I was mental many times. I am not.

We’ve been together 15 years and he’s never called me names though I may have called him a nasty shit when he’s really upset me he has the patience of a saint. I suppose the worst he’s ever said is that I’m being pathetic or need to get a grip when I’ve gone off on one about something - he’s usually right. We respect each other immensely though.

They all use the "You're mental" line. No imagination, they all follow the same script.

("They" being abusive men, of course.)

Toyboy has never insulted me, why would he? In the same way I have never insulted him, there is no reason and why would I?

"I think you're a lesser person for wearing a football shirt" - text to me at a family gathering to watch a big football match. He wasn't really into football, I'm a big fan. Broke up with him the next day. Not sure if he was trying to be funny but it was such an odd thing to say.

I possibly said the worse thing to my DP ever said. I had severe Post natal depression. My poor DP looked at me with so much hurt in his face it killed me instantly.
Right after, I have no idea how, he told me he loved me and knows I am poorly and wants his Iput back, but then said, if that is your honest feelings I will walk away now, whatever you need.
5 years on, I still hate the words I said to him. He has totally forgiven me. I will never forgive myself!
Insults he has said to me...none, I think the worse thing he has ever said is 'little miss duvet hogger'

Iputthescrewinthetuna (fab name btw)

He sounds an amazing man who loves you very much. Thats lovely.

Haha Thank you!

I am a lucky lady! PND is hard for all involved, but I believe my DP really put up with more than I could have coped with...had it been the other way round!

I think, what makes him more special, he has never told a soul what I said to him, and he has never thrown it back in my face!

However, if he has issues with my Duvet habits he should buy a bigger duvet! King size is clearly not enough

Jesus. Some of these are abhorrent. It’s very disturbing that there are so many vile men out there. I feel really lucky to have a husband who makes me feel good about myself even when I’m at my worst.

I hope all women enduring such abuse can realise that they deserve to be loved. Nobody deserves to be spoken to like a piece of shit. You are worth so much more

My ex split with me as “the sex isn’t all that”. Thanks you twat.

When you’ve had your hair and make up done and to be told you look like Kim Joy off of bake off

Or you Need to put on make up post c-section and blood transfusion or you will scare your visitors

he told me drunk one night my friend was a 9.5 out of 10 (she is pretty). I left it a while that night and asked him later my marks out of 10, he gave me a 9. NOT A 10 PEOPLE, NOT A TEN, and doesn't have to be, BUT still behind my friend - he still denies it to this day. Luckily enough, said friend got a 5 on personality and I did get a 10, but it still rankles, 15 years on, you couldn't just lie?

Of OW:

"She's just as attractive as you are, but in a different way."

Oddly enough, 3 days later, we had a dinner to attend with people who'd been on the same residential where this had happened. And there they were, passing around photographs, with OW featuring prominently.

Who knew his taste at the time was for someone 20 years older than him and > 2.5 my bodyweight.

He said nothing. On the way home, "How dare you!" just exploded out of me. He pulled over and started shaking. He had no idea what to say because, No. Just No.

And, yes - a vortex of catastrophe of the first order who was trying to set him up to be caught in her room with her. All with his unbelievably stupid collusion.

'adultchildofalcoholicparents ' what a stupid bollocks. Did you feel it instinctively beforehand to was it the photos you saw?

Some of these remind me of my arsehole ex from before I met DH. He was fond of insulting me and putting me down.

DH and I take the piss out of each other - I call him a git, and he calls me a knock-kneed knackered old horsebag. We don't mean it though and we rarely argue as such, we just bicker. Neither of us would insult each other in order to cause hurt or upset.