Worst insult from your partner?

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Not sure that thread will survive

My abusive ex insulted me constantly for the 5 years we were together.
Vile specimen
Fat and boring
Ugly
A whale
I'm with you because no one else would go near you
A joke
Disgusting
Pathetic
Worthless
In need of punishment
Disobedient
The reason he gambles
The reason he cheats
Embarassing
Frigid

And many many many more. I'm now well shot of that twat but years of counselling later, I'm still very damaged. I was 16, and finally left when I was 21.

I haven't read the full thread but wanted to post my input as it's actually a bit cathartic.

Too many to mention my weight mainly !! Lost loads when I kicked his arse to the kerb 😂

Usually unintentionally during a conversation that hits an unknown sore spot, a badly explained opinion or with a ill thought out joke.

I don't count unintentional "insults" as insults. Not that I could recall any.

I honestly don't remember any of my close female friends ever insulting me, and we have meaningful conversations all the time.

Of course there's some variation, I know I am a sensitive person and make friends with sensitive people.

There may be people who can call each other idiots and not mean anything by it - and I admit to sometimes calling my siblings idiots when they were being exceptionally stupid.

But a lot of the insults mentioned on this thread are just inacceptable in any possible context, and those who quote them didn't feel like it was funny when it was said.

Too many to mention my weight mainly !! Lost loads when I kicked his arse to the kerb

Healthiest way to lose a lot of weight.

"You're a cunt & you don't deserve to have normal children."

I have 2 children with disabilities. He is their dad. I am no longer in a relationship with him.

From my D?H.

A few nuggets here:
You are a cunt
You are a cunt-bitch
Everyone who meets you hates you
All of your friends tell me they hate you
You are the worst mother
You are toxic
If anyone could see what you are like they would hate you.
My friends all tell me how shit you are.
You hate me, don't you? DON'T YOU? DON'T YOU?
You are having an affair? (I wasn't he was)
The police will side with me? They will take the children away? You are a shit mum.

Yeah it's been a joyless marriage. It's only since the middle of the year that I've finally been freed from this situation.

It's going to be a o

For all his faults I can't recall a single insult from exdh in 30 years. We had our share of arguments but neither of us had such little self respect that we'd have been with someone who insulted us

@Deedee0208 Sending you so much love for your cancer treatment. Please reach out to your friends, even if they’ve not been there and distant, people will want to help if you tell them you have no help. I hope when you’re recovered you can leave him.

To all the other women on the thread my DH has never insulted me. We argue sometimes but we always make up soon after and it’s at times of stress and we are both upset that we argued over something stupid.

knittedjest this thread isn’t about jokes, or unintentional insults though. DH and I have a very healthy relationship. We argue. We resolve arguments. We don’t tread on egg shells round each other at all. We would never ever say anything intentionally that we know would hurt the other. I don’t see how that’s unhealthy.

Maybe I should rape you
Fat.
Slut
Liar
And Lots more in a similar vein- he’s long gone now.

He called me a fat obnoxious bitch. I've had so many insults. :(

Knitted, you think it's unhealthy that some people don't choose to deliberately insult their partner to belittle them and hurt their feelings? There is literally nothing unhealthy about that. Not insulting each other doesn't mean there are no arguments or disagreements. It means that instead of saying "you stupid fucking useless fat bitch, why did you do that? You're so pathetic" my dh would say "Wooooman, I'm really annoyed that you did such and such because....". There is disagreement and discussion and it can get heated at times but it never becomes insultingly personal.

Exactly, Woooman. My partner has (a handful of times) maybe said something that makes me go ‘hey, not cool!’ and he’ll say ‘you’re right, sorry, what I meant was...’ And vice versa. That is definitely not the same as being ‘insulted’ by your partner in the manner of most of these responses. The two aren’t even remotely comparable.

My ex and I used to scream at each other practically every day, as well as all the awful things he would say to me, and I used to look at couples who ‘never fight’ and think that they were either lying, or that their relationships were dull and joyless. Now I’m actually in a healthy relationship and we have never once raised our voices to each other or called each other names, and I can’t quite believe I used to think the previous situation was normal or acceptable.

Not saying that it’s unhealthy to ever fight, of course, and every couple has their own way of communicating and resolving things. But the whole ‘we fight because we care’ mentality can sometimes lead people to stay in toxic relationships (like I did) because we tell ourselves that it’s just ‘passion’ rather than abuse.

My current DH nothing.

My ex all sorts of awful stuff. He was abusive in just about every way possible.

I got pregnant despite being on the depo shot and when I had a termination, he called me a baby killer. Probably not the worst thing he ever said to me, but it's the one that sticks in my mind.

'Fat, lazy bitch' - I was pregnant, actually underweight, sole breadwinner and did all housework, cooking, childcare plus helped him run his own 'business'!

'Junkie scum' - because I ran out of painkillers for my chronic very painful health condition and asked him to collect my prescription that day when he wanted to go to the pub instead.

Yeah, there's a very good reason he's an ex

You genuinely can be happy alone, far happier than with someone who's cruel to you- even just some of the time. I hope at some point in the future I meet someone nice, but my standards are so high now because I'll never accept this kind of bullshit again

I agree 100% with this. My ex scoffed when I asked him to leave and said no doubt I'd be shacked up with someone else within six months as I couldn't cope on my own like a normal adult. I'm still single by choice five years later. He however had to get married very quickly due to having a new baby within 12 months (def not planned!) !

"You always spoil everything"

"You can't cook"

"You have the breasts of a teenager. You are not a proper woman"

"I only married you to help with childcare (of kids from a previous marriage)"

LTB a couple of years ago.

Huge hugs to all of you who have suffered such awful abuse.

My DH is very far from perfect but after 30 years the worst I can think of is that a faff too much and the jumpsuit I was wearing didn’t flatter me. Two separate occasions obviously.

So glad that many of these bastards are exes.

You're an unmitigated misery to live with and I have never loved you.

Additionally the oinking noises and poking me in the stomach if I ate anything remotely unhealthy for years (I was size 14).

You're just a fat fucking pig. When he knew my problems around food and had eaten the remaining kinder egg from a 3 pack. I was size 8 at that point and really struggling around food.

And not an insult, but when he tried to shove me through a glass door in front of our daughter and then said "well you didn't go through it" when I was upset by this. That I will never forget. I was trying to leave him and he didn't much like it.

Nope. I am not sorry I had an affair. Never will be.

Oh. And "fucking you is like being a vet". That one really did sting.

But my favorite insult of all time was from my 4 year old brother when I was 16. "You're just a manky pigeon!". Screamed at me in small child fury. I still call him a manky pigeon sometimes.

Oh yes - you don’t cook, clean the floor or look after the children properly - in addition to all the stupid bitch / thick cow / fucking lazy bum / fat arse comments that I mentioned up thread.

He was annoyed that I was divorcing him. That’s putting it mildly.

Though life is not easy now, it is like this compared to being “with him” but hated and ignored by him 🛀 🏖🧘‍♀️.

From DH? None, he doesn’t insult me.

First serious boyfriend insulted me almost every time he opened his mouth. Everything from stupid to whore.

You're just a stupid shop girl. You'll never be anything.

Fuck you. I'm doing an access course and I've already been offered a Russel group place with one year fee waiver aand a 4k per year bursary because they liked me so much. Just fuck you. My only regret is that I ever married him. And that when I did, I didn't leave faster.

"I only married you to help with childcare (of kids from a previous marriage)"

Been reading the whole thread, these bastards make me ashamed to be male. That said, as a bloke who got together with a woman with a 2yo the one above made me gasp. It's not only rude, offensive and nasty, it's a purely evil thing to say. If the kids had heard it too, it's the kind of thing that leaves emotional scars. Utter evil bastard.

I'm saddened and so sorry that you've all suffered this kind of shit.