Worst insult from your partner?

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Not sure that thread will survive

Imbecile

That I’m exactly the same as his ex wife ‘narcissistic psychotic cunt’. My reply was that wasn’t it unusual that out of all the women in all the world that it was strange that he ended up with 2 of us and maybe it was him that was the common denominator. We’ve been through a lot of shit, and he has been physically abusive in the past and yes I’m still with him (don’t flame me, it’s not as easy as LTB) but the words are harder to take than the hits

Too many to mention! (We've split now).

More of a fun one here!

Yesterday was my work Christmas party and the theme was black tie. I had a beaded full length ball gown, full hair and makeup and looked pretty damn good.

Had my fairytale moment walking down the stairs to my husband, to be greeted with:

"You look lovely... Because you are wearing something that fits."

Before you stake the guy, to put it into context it was because his mind was on the fact his suit was a bit tight.

I still gave him hell for it though! (and will never let him forget...)

'Most women would be grateful' when he was drunk and I was trying to gentle his approach to sex.

We do take the mick out of each other sometimes, but we are never mean to each other. And DP would never be violent towards me.

It's incredibly sad that some of you go through this, especially if you can't LTB for whatever reasons

Deedee0208 Hope you make a full recovery (and LTB!)

Don’t be ridiculous. I’m in no way blaming women for being abused. I suffered horrendous abuse as a child and ended up in an abusive relationship, when younger. Stop your nonsense. I’m simply saying how sad it is that some women know no better life for themselves. I know women and children’s ideas of what is normal can be influenced by past experiences, so that can make them stay in bad relationships. There are good men, and that’s coming from a kick ass, irrationally outspoken feminist.

I thought what my boyfriend said to me was bad but some of these comments actually make me sad as to why you stick around with someone like that?
Me and my boyfriend are swearers and shouters, I’m occasionally called a bloody idiot and he’s sometimes called the occasional dickhead, but that doesn’t mean we’re an awful couple because we swear at each other.

I find it healthy that me and OH argue, we get it out in the open, I’d be miserable if We kept it all pent up inside and pretended we were perfectly happy when really all we needed to do was voice our opinions or stresses.

People who basically say they’ve been married for 10+ years and never argued or shouted at their partner are surely on another bloody planet! My parents have been together for over 30 years and my god have I seen some rows between them!

13 years together and never insulted each other.

I agree with @PositivelyPERF

Of course it’s not anyone’s fault for being abused. But it’s tragic there are people on here who think it’s unusual to be treated with respect and kindness as the default.

That I'm like pamelaaaah from Gavin & Stacey 😂 sorry if that's too lighthearted for the thread, but Iv been very lucky.

Hope whatever has been said to you hasn't cut too deep

When I asked why he seemed less keen on sex, when I was trying to help our relationship:

That he only had sex with me a lot in the beginning as he hadn’t had it for a while and ‘needed to get it out of his system’.

This crushed me and caused major physical issues for years afterwards, more often seen in rape victims.
Basically, I would become so anxious and unconsciously tighten up, nothing was getting in. It was only years later, long after I had left that I realised the cause of my physical problems and was able to work through them and enjoy a sex life again.

Throw away comments can cause massive, lasting damage.

@shootingstar20

Why do you think arguing is good?

I’ve been with my husband for over 13 years. Plenty of disagreements, differences of opinions etc but no slanging matches, insults, shouting and swearing.

My mum and stepdad shouted all the time. I used to sit upstairs with my hands over my sisters ears to protect her from it. It’s awful and damaging and people who routinely shout and swear at each other lack the tools to deal with them problems healthily.

I’m not on another planet - I just knew there was better out there and refused to settle for anything less than a healthy, kind, calm relationship.

Am single, but a man who courted me actually tried to advise me on how to get rid of my wrinkles.

Needless to say, he did not become my boyfriend.

My tolerance for insults is rather low.

But it’s tragic there are people on here who think it’s unusual to be treated with respect and kindness as the default.

Indeed. I don't think it is asking too much to be with someone who doesn't insult you.

If calling each other an idiot is your way of communicating you are upset, fair enough.

But snide remarks that aren't said in anger but with calculated intent to lower someone's self-esteeem, I have zero tolerance for, and I don't think anyone should.

Your face is hairier than a Chewbacca. I was 18 and just diagnosed with pcos. Stayed with me ever since. I am paranoid and keep tweezers in my purse.
Bastard. It wasn't even that bad.

My ex told me that I was the fattest woman he had ever had sex with, I was a size 10/12 at the time. We were away for the weekend at the time and he refused to get into bed with me. He also said I had hobbit feet because all his previous partners had small feet , I actually have very nice feet. There was also the time I had on a short black dress and black heels. We had gone to visit his sister whom I had never met. I was at my thinnest then_ a size 8-10 and in front of his sister He told me that the clothes I was wearing didn't suit me, just like that.He was an abusive bastard and begged me to have him back when I dumped him.
My friends hated him.

That he will give me 5 days of help with our children including Sunday, Christmas Day and Boxing Day, I'm having daily radiotherapy so need help over the Christmas period,
He hopes I die then said it was a joke!!!

Did you dump him yet?

I don't put much stock in theories that cancer can be psychosomatic, but I have to say, in your case, it would be worth a try to get rid of this shitty excuse for a human being and see if the cancer improves.

Considering that he thinks he is generously "giving you help" with HIS children, it doesn't look like he contributes much, anyway.

I acknowledge it might be difficult with so much on your plate right now, to get rid of him and organise your life without him, but rest assured, you do deserve better.

near:
Dh has said so many things to hurt me. Where do I even begin. The other night he threatened to break my eye socket. He has never hurt me physically but to say such horrible things really hurts.

WTF? Get away from him in an instant. Normal people don't threaten such things. Not even averagely shitty men. He sounds dangerous.

I don't want him to speak to me like this and vocalise this to him. He still does it.

He still does it because you haven't left yet. I do advise caution in leaving him as I suspect he might be violent, so better to do the break up in relative public (park or cafe) and have your most important belongings already elsewhere.

You deserve better.

Wallflowerfire:

"You have no self-respect"

Prove that you have plenty self-respect by leaving him? I know it might be difficult to do so while suffering from depression, but ... you deserve better.

Merryoldgoat, apologies, must be me on the other planet.

Oh I’ve a few,

“I don’t usually go for girls as big as you... but”- I was at the time the slimmest woman he had ever been interested in.

“I really liked that you had drive when we met, but that seems to have disappeared in you, I wouldn’t have been with you if you were like this when we met”- that feels like something that’s still hurtful, considering at the time I was in the midst of depression and any money I had which was before meeting him earmarked for the betterment of me and DDs life was used to prop up his business, and at that point I’d opened up a new business of my own and worked on his actually gutted me.

and the wonderful “ and you’re surprised I’m not attracted to you?” Because I didn’t wear high heels or have my boobs out all the time.

Wow. Such a twat.

His was “yes, you do look like a mum. Know why that is? Cause you are a mum”

Oh and he told me that I deserved to be cheated on,
And that I remind him of my mother. Who he knows I hate for being an abusive witch.

Spanielmadness I suffered similar symptoms after years of DH constant pestering me for sex and his anger when I didn’t want it. On one particularly memorable occasion he called me a whore. He’s also called me mental ( have been on antidepressants for years), a sponger (because I earn less than him), selfish, nasty etc. He never remembers saying any of this. Happens every few months. He thinks things are great between us. I just keep plodding on.

I’m horrified at reading many of these.

The only one I can think of was before we were living together and he criticised the lack of variety in my kitchen cupboards. He’s right. I never experimented because DD just moaned.

Other than that...nothing.

My ex husband...destroyed my self esteem

“Dumb cow”. And I’m still with him

Dds father said to me I was the biggest girl he'd ever been with.
I was a (UK) size 12 after giving birth to our dd 2 months previously.
Before that I was a size 8~10.
Glad he walked out on us when dd was 3!

Posted too soon. I was 26. He knew I d battled an eating disorder through my teens.