Worst insult from your partner?

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Deedee0208

Deedee0208 I’m so sorry I hope you make a complete recovery.

Ive actually never been insulted by my husband its strange i never thought of this before

I was called a c**t today by a work colleague.

It probably speaks to the state of my self esteem that I just stood and smiled, couldn't think of a comeback and agreed with him.

None! He has never insulted me. He loves me.

Ummm my partner has never insulted me? He does nothing but build me up and make me feel better.
I’ve been in relationships where my partner ground down my continence, it turns out it doesn’t have to be that way.

Wow the fact that so many posters are saying that their partner has never insulted them is making me question everything. Is this really true..
My ex repeatedly called me 'crazy' and a psycho bitch when I was suffering from severe depression. That really hurt.
Dh has said so many things to hurt me. Where do I even begin. The other night he threatened to break my eye socket. He has never hurt me physically but to say such horrible things really hurts.

"I've changed my mind. Get rid of it or I'm leaving."

When I told him I was pregnant (planned).

near yes it’s really true. We’ve had arguments of course but he’s never insulted me and I’ve never insulted him. Why would I? I love him. I can’t imagine saying anything to deliberately hurt him, and vice versa.

Anal psycho
You have mummy issues
You've let yourself go
Why don't you just get over it
I don't know how to love you
Most damage done by the unsaid though, the PA mind games.

I'm still a wreck, not as much as I was, but I have a LONG road ahead.

Insults are just horrible

Truly, my husband has never insulted me. Not once, in 22 years together. He compliments me. He supports me. We do argue occasionally but, although we might upset each other then, there would never be insults thrown around.

My husband would have been horrified to read what some of those horrible husbands/partners say to you women. I nursed him through an agonising cancer and even in the depths of pain he never took it out on me. He was always a gentleman. It’s so said that you women set your bar so low that the men can insult you and you find it hard to believe that other men wouldn’t. Do you let them speak to your children like that? If the answer is yes, then you should be ashamed of yourself. If the answer is no, then why do you think you deserve less respect than your children?

I hate these comments. Either say what you mean or stay quiet.

I did say what I meant! I asked OP if this was a TAAT, because it read to me she was talking about another thread, so I asked for clarification. And her OP is very brief.
Not sure that thread will survive so does she mean "Not sure that thread

DH and I insult each other quite often but always in a joking/affectionate way and never seriously. For example, my wake up to him this morning was "oi, shithead, want a brew?". He tells me that his next wife is going to actually do housework and I tell him my next husband is going to be rich. I've got a stinking cold and he's assured me in the most sarcastic voice imaginable that I've never looked more attractive than I do at this moment. We've never insulted each other in anger though and the joking insults never go near anything we know the other is sensitive about.

It’s so said that you women set your bar so low that the men can insult you and you find it hard to believe that other men wouldn’t. Do you let them speak to your children like that? If the answer is yes, then you should be ashamed of yourself. If the answer is no, then why do you think you deserve less respect than your children?

Why are you blaming emotional abuse on the people being abused?

@PositivelyPERF it sounds like you are blaming wives for the way their husbands speak to them. It's not that I 'let him' speak to me this way. I don't want him to speak to me like this and vocalise this to him. He still does it.

Only jokingly, never seriously said anything insulting. Mind you he has put his foot in it a few times but it's more a case of things coming out wrong and I didn't take offence.

I'm trying to suss whether this thread is supposed to be lighthearted?DH called my "stocky" once. Worst part is he was trying to explain something to me and really thought about the word he was going to use! It's not quite as bad as it sounds - I'm pretty slim really and weigh probably about 2st more than I look. He was trying to say he doesn't understand how I am the weight I am because I don't look it

Many of these are very sad to read. My DP has never insulted me like these.
The other week after a taste he told me that he didn't like the bland shop-bought hummus ...but actually I'd made it. That's probably as bad as it gets for insults for us. We would never intentionally try and hurt each other.

Now I've had a chance to read the thread, I'm saddened to read of so many women who think this is normal. It's not. Your partners/husbands don't love you if they insult you. You don't insult people you love.

You don't deserve being spoken to like this. You can do something about it. It will be hard, but it will be so worth it.

@Deedee0208, I'm sorry your "partner" is a nasty cunt, you've got enough to deal with atm. I wish you all the best with your treatment. Be kind to yourself.

When he was drunk once my DH thought it hilarious to tell me (in a room full of people) that I looked like a fat Jo Brand. ( I don’t mean to be disrespectful to Jo Brand )

That I looked like Kenneth De Beke ( fat hairdresser in Benidorm TV series) n my shorts. Divorced now because of his affairs.

Some gems
"You have no self-respect". When I was saying about how my depression and anxiety manifests itself.
"you used to have something to say, now you just care what everyone else thinks of you" again when expressing my innermost anxieties in a naive moment.
"You can't handle life"
"sometimes I zone out because you talk about yourself so much".

None of these 'meant' as insults - just statements that I shouldn't take personally apparently.

My DH has never once insulted me in 30 years together, just as I have never insulted him.

It's so sad that some women think this behaviour is a normal part of a relationship. It really, really isn't.