Worst insult from your partner?

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Not sure that thread will survive

Getting drunk and thinking I'm hilarious - I've never been at a wedding with someone who has a scooter, but after the fifth prosecco I'd probably think it was hilarious to have a go on one (if it was offered!)

Nope, never been insulted. Never had a row either, the nearest we've got has been some snippy remarks when we were both very sleep deprived.
You really don't have to put up with that kind of crap. Your spouse is supposed to be the person who loves you the most in the world. Insulting someone and making them feel bad isn't love.

Let's see:
"You're pathetic"
"You have no friends, no hobbies no life"
"You are damaged and you're too fucking stupid to realise it"
"You're not a nice person"
"You're never going to be happy, see if you leave me I can guarantee that in 20 years time you'll still be miserable and you'll know I was right"
"You're just like your father" (my father was an emotionally and verbally abusive bully who one of his kids or grandkids see any more due to his toxic and cruel abuse)
"Are you dead? Are you stupid?"
There is more but suffice to say I eventually decided to end our marriage and we are in the process of divorcing now.

Who none of his kids or grandkids see I meant!

to everyone who has something awful to contribute. You're worth more than this.

Mr sequins, after hearing me on the phone to someone involved in my Granny's care (I'm in the biz, and the nurse had seriously fucked up) looked at me askance and said 'you're the nicest, but also the scariest person I know,' I chose to take that as a compliment, but some of my friends seem to think it's an insult.
Other than that, nothing. He does laugh at my hair sticking up in the morning at times, but not in a mean way. Plus I rag him about his bald spot, so it's fine

from me too to many of you on this thread.
My DH is not perfect and we do argue sometimes yesterday but he is never, ever, unkind. If someone loves you they should not be insulting you.

He told me I was a fat bastard!

@Deedee0208
I've been through radiotherapy myself with breast cancer. It's horrendous. What an absolute Bastard to say that to you, I would never forgive him 😡
to you xxx

Ahh so the thread meant intentionally or unintentionally that wasn't made clear. My DH has never intentionally insulted me calling me names in arguments, or pointing out my flaws, but there has been once or twice he probably said something I thought that's not on, that hurt my feelings/upset me/ and he always apologised once i pointed it out. However I can't think off the top of my head anything specific so it obviously can't of upset me that much

We insult each other constantly. We love it

Christ, my H uses so many of these insults, I thought it was just me.

"That's you at EVERY wedding " As depressing as this thread has been at times, that's really made me laugh and unsettled the dog.

Christ, my H uses so many of these insults, I thought it was just me.

You're not alone April, but know that it's not you causing it. He would be the same with any woman he was with. Take heart that so many of us escaped, and that you can too. Speak to Women's Aid, speak to people who love you (family/friends), and start planning your escape.

The people on the relationships board can give advice on how to leave. The most important thing to remember, is NOT to tell him, until you've got everything in place.

Our daughter doesn't need you

When discussing that our lack of a sex life is very hurtful to me due to a past relationship: "Were you a fucking bitch to him too?"

When explaining why he made me wait for literally hours to leave a party when I was over 9 months pregnant and everyone around me was eating food I was allergic to (there was nothing for me to eat): "I thought you were just being a bitch because you were jealous."

Early in our relationship, when he was criticising me for working too much: "Look, you can even see the physical effects" pointing to a gross vein on my leg that I hadn't noticed (it's only gotten worse - it's genetic).

When complaining that I would prefer to look into other childcare options which may be more expensive but which our joint incomes could easily pay for: "You can't afford this. You just want to live beyond what you can pay for, like your mother" [who had a horrible surprise tax bill recently, and who then immediately adjusted her lifestyle when she realised she was living beyond her means] He went on to say, "Or I should say what you will pay for, as you could earn more, unlike your mum"

Early in our relationship, when he was criticising me for working too much: "Look, you can even see the physical effects" pointing to a gross vein on my leg that I hadn't noticed (it's only gotten worse - it's genetic).

@dellacucina

Why did you stay? Why did you have a child with him?

I’m not blaming you for this man’s vile behaviour - I’m just trying to understand because I just can’t imagine being with someone who is so cruel to me.

I am not sure. It was masked as concern for me I guess? I thought maybe it was just a bit insensitive.

Might not count but I took it as an insult for a day or two - ''You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. Well... not THE most beautiful'. Said the only time I've seen him drunk and I have no idea what he was trying to achieve. He doesn't remember saying it.

Some of these are really sad to read.

I'm nasty because I want him to rinse the porridge from Dad's dish, pick his laundry up and occasionally do a load and clean up his own pee from round the toilet. Words fail.

An ex of mine used to tell me I made him sick. It took me so long to leave that relationship, he convinced me I was hideous and would never do better than him. He was an absolute bastard.

How come you like salad but ya know... head wobbles side to side

Back story is I'm obese and I love salad. But also everything else.

I've never let him forget that... ever

Goddess, these are awful.

Um. Can't think of one? He's lovely and I adore him. We don't really insult each other, although we do have occasional arguments where one of us (usually me) ends up shouting 'you're so ANNOYING' and storming off.

I thought you had PND but you're just a miserable bitch.

He also called me a control freak in his wedding speech.

When we moved home we were arguing a lot. The stress of moving had got to us both very badly, mainly because we were forced to move because our rented home was going to be torn down. We had no help from anywhere and long term illnesses made it more of a struggle.

He got into the the habit of calling me a "fucking mental bitch" pretty much as soon as a new argument began.

I just took it until one day I just snapped and said, "and you're a fucking ugly cunt but I don't keep labouring the point".

He hasn't said it since.

Too many twat ‘partners’ here, it’s heartbreaking

I spent my 20s with abusive ‘bad boy’ boyfriends although none as bad as the average on here. DH has never been anything like this, he would die rather than be even rude (that doesn’t make him weak, just grown up and a mutually responsible person*) Take heart that there are better people out there & LTB!

• he does call me ‘fartybum’ sometimes, it’s entirely justified!