To think it’s rude to tell someone going into a bathroom you’re about to have a shower

[catlovingdoctor]

Got home after work and went to use the bathroom. Relative says from downstairs “I’m gonna have a shower now”. AIBU to think it’s a bit impolite/ almost trying to be controlling?

There is not enough information here

Just say ' ok you can go after me'

Then you just reply, I’ll be finished shortly and both go about the rest of your day.

No need for drama, or a thread...

Maybe they are used to someone sitting on a toilet for half an hour?

Not based on the details provided, no.

Who is the relative? How can they have a shower if you're in there? 🤔

"Ok I'll shout when I'm out."

First come first served. You can't reserve a bathroom..
Unless due to working hours in our house!!

Well wait till I've run the bath would be the likely response in our house - is this a Combi management with 2 bathrooms issue?

Relative is step parent. I was upstairs walking towards bathroom and they heard me so called it up to me. For reference they’d been off work all day and I’d just come in after work. I think I just find it a bit entitled?

What were you going into the bathroom for?

Did they think you might leave an unpleasant odour behind?

It's really not a big deal though

Whose house is it?

"OK, shall I just piss myself then?"

@Heratnumber7 thought about the same. 😁

What were you going into the bathroom to do? If it was to go to the toilet (especially if to do a poo) and there was another toilet in the house, then I can kind of see her point.

I was living here for 20 years before they moved in.

I don’t understand what you’re upset about.

So were they suggesting you couldn't use the bathroom?

It is a bit entitled, but just say ok and carry on as you were. It's hard when everyone has to live together, so it's not worth a row.

If you are over 20 and working might be time to look for your own place.

What has length of occupancy got to do with anything?

In our one bathroom flat it would be rude to go and have a shower or bath without letting the other know in a "heads up if you need a quick wee, do it now" sort of way.

In my family you would just reply "mwahahahaaah!", sprint into the bathroom, slam and lock the door, and then become deaf to all entreaties re unfairness, bagsying etc.

Why should I move out of my home just because I’m over 20? I’m quite happy in it? I’m working to pay fees next year for a postgrad course I’m going to do