AIBU: To be upset with what my mother did?

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Hello!

I'll get straight to it, I really wanted the set of "Kevin the carrot" soft toys, I showed my mother the ALDI advert and she said she wanted them too, so when it got closer to the release date I asked her if she'd like for me to buy them for her as a Christmas present (my mother is hard to buy for, no food or drink, no clothes, jewelry, candles, accessories ect ect) so she said yes!!!

Great! A Christmas gift I know she will like, so on November 22nd midnight, me and my partner fought online to purchase them, one set for me and one set for my mother, after 4 long hours we finally got them! success I thought, next day delivery and I had messaged her straight away saying I had got them (so she knew she didn't have to hunt them down herself)

Now, today she messaged me, the usual "hi, how are you" ect, and then she messaged "I have a confession to make, I bought a set of the Kevin the carrots yesterday, I love them" . . .

At this point I had broke down into tears, not of sadness, but of frustration, my mother knew I had already bought her a set for Christmas, but went out and got a set anyway . . .

I don't have much money, my mother knows this, when I had explained this to her and the effort I went to get them so I didn't run the risk of going in store to find they had sold out, all I got back was "it's not a big deal, I'll sell one set if it bothers you that much", meaning she will sell the set I give her as mine still have the tags on...

So here are the things I'm asking if I'm being unreasonable about:

1. AIBU for being upset/mad/frustrated with my mother over this?
2. AIBU for telling her how what she has done makes me feel?
3. Would IBU to not give her the set I have bought, seeing as she already has them?
4. Would IBU to not buy a replacement gift? (If I was to buy her another gift or gifts, it means I have to take more money out of what little savings I have)
5. Would IBU to sell the second set to get my money back? (I have no need for 2 sets and don't know anyone who I could give them to, plus the extra money could go back into my savings)

The Kevin carrot set isn't the only gifts I had gotten my mother so she wont go without a present, no matter how mad I am at her I wouldn't dream of being that spiteful.

Sorry, what?

Is this real? What a total over-reaction on your part if so.

For goodness sake, really.

Two adult women fighting over who is going to buy some cuddly toy carrots.

I’m embarrassed for you.

People get stranger and stranger.

Just sell the set that you hire her, make a big profit and get her something else at the price you would usually pay

YABU for buying the wretched things. Grown women going barmy over soft toys.

*Two adult women fighting over who is going to buy some cuddly toy carrots.

I’m embarrassed for you.*

This!

Get the carrots on EBay and buy her a toiletry set out of Marks or something instead. Bloody hell.

Ok, take the items purchased out of it, yes that's frustrating, say screw it though, she knew, just give it to her and be done with it.

Stick the set you bought her on eBay you'll double your money

Christ, I wish I had so few worries that I could get so worked up over some soft toy carrots. Get a grip OP and buy her a set of smellies or something.

There was a thread the other day where people were talking about selling these toys on eBay etc. for a large profit, so go with option 5.

Can't you just return one of the sets? Why do you have to sell them? Some child will want this set, and perhaps their parents will now have to pay over the odds for the set off eBay? As they have none in store?

I hear you OP

My mother often seemed to do something like this, and then just shrug when I tried to explain how much effort I had put in.

Only now that she is that much older are we realising how bad her hearing is. She was very good at covering up so we always thought she had heard.

In any case, the trick is to stop trying so hard to please her. Get your life and affirmation of life from your friends and just be pleasant to her. You will save yourself a lot of heartbreak. All the best.

You actually stayed up until 4am trying to get these!! Christ.

Every time I see this rage about Kevin the Carrot, I think 'FFS buy some fucking carrots, dip them in some hummus and get a fucking life'.

Two adult women fighting over who is going to buy some cuddly toy carrots.

I’m embarrassed for you.

This can't be real?!

I'm not fussed about getting profit, just get the same back plus p+p at the least and go to someone who didn't get a chance in the sale.

YABU I’m afraid. Your mother’s action were certainly annoying but to cry in frustration is a total overreaction. Just return the carrots (or sell them at a profit) and get her some nice biscuits from M&S or something.

What pissy answers . It doesn't matter what the gift actually was ffs.
Sell your spare set and buy her a selection box.

Ah I bet OP has pm’s right now offering to buy the bloody carrot!

People are so bloody rude on here.

Op is upset because she was happy she could give her difficult to please mother a present she actually likes and because she does not have a lot of money to buy yet another present. They are the issues, the thread is NOT about soft toys as the op would still be unhappy if the item in question was a high brow new release book or an item of jewellery.

Op Yanbu. I get where you are coming from

Really? How silly. We have a set, only because my 2 year old son was off nursery and came shopping with me. He saw them and his face lit up, hes been really poorly so to cheer him up i bought them. They are cuddly toys, I'm amazed that people were queuing up outside the shops and fighting over some stuffed toys!

I'm not fussed about getting profit, just get the same back plus p+p

So, sell them for what you paid, plus P&P.

You stayed up to 4am to buy them?????

You broke down in tears when you realised your mum had bought her own set?

Fuck me OP.

Sell them, but her a box of chocolates and a bottle of fizz and then move on with your life.

What is happening here? Have you posted this just to get people to come to you to buy them?