AIBU: To be upset with what my mother did?

[PrettyPurplePanda]

Hello!

I'll get straight to it, I really wanted the set of "Kevin the carrot" soft toys, I showed my mother the ALDI advert and she said she wanted them too, so when it got closer to the release date I asked her if she'd like for me to buy them for her as a Christmas present (my mother is hard to buy for, no food or drink, no clothes, jewelry, candles, accessories ect ect) so she said yes!!!

Great! A Christmas gift I know she will like, so on November 22nd midnight, me and my partner fought online to purchase them, one set for me and one set for my mother, after 4 long hours we finally got them! success I thought, next day delivery and I had messaged her straight away saying I had got them (so she knew she didn't have to hunt them down herself)

Now, today she messaged me, the usual "hi, how are you" ect, and then she messaged "I have a confession to make, I bought a set of the Kevin the carrots yesterday, I love them" . . .

At this point I had broke down into tears, not of sadness, but of frustration, my mother knew I had already bought her a set for Christmas, but went out and got a set anyway . . .

I don't have much money, my mother knows this, when I had explained this to her and the effort I went to get them so I didn't run the risk of going in store to find they had sold out, all I got back was "it's not a big deal, I'll sell one set if it bothers you that much", meaning she will sell the set I give her as mine still have the tags on...

So here are the things I'm asking if I'm being unreasonable about:

1. AIBU for being upset/mad/frustrated with my mother over this?
2. AIBU for telling her how what she has done makes me feel?
3. Would IBU to not give her the set I have bought, seeing as she already has them?
4. Would IBU to not buy a replacement gift? (If I was to buy her another gift or gifts, it means I have to take more money out of what little savings I have)
5. Would IBU to sell the second set to get my money back? (I have no need for 2 sets and don't know anyone who I could give them to, plus the extra money could go back into my savings)

The Kevin carrot set isn't the only gifts I had gotten my mother so she wont go without a present, no matter how mad I am at her I wouldn't dream of being that spiteful.

You were up from midnight until 4am buying soft toy carrots is that right???

Has your mum still got a receipt that you could use to return yours?

Trying to buy someone a present shouldn't be so difficult.

In future, if you don't know what to get her & she doesn't know what she wants-why bother?

Some really mean responses on here!!!

I totally understand OP. It really doesn't matter what the gift is. The point is that she knew you were buying her a gift, don't have a lot of money but has bought herself the same gift. Like there is no appreciation for what you have done. It's a bit of a kick in the teeth.

Get the second set on eBay and chalk it down to experience!

Sorry OP, but I’m just PMSL 😆. Thanks, just what I needed.

Bloody barking.

Wtf! Carrotgate!

Wrap them up and post them to her with a note. "Here's your gift, it's what you asked for and we'd already bought it when we heard from you. Hopefully they can keep your other carrots company, but if not then feel free to re-gift".

Thank you Gamerwidow for being understanding that it's not what the gift is but the effort behind getting it.

I purchased online, they wont take them in store for a refund without the receipt, which I threw away

But you would have proof of purchase in your email, and you could return using the order number

Are you OK OP? This is a bit of an over reaction.

Your mothers behaviour was upsetting.
Sell them and make a big profit, but her another (small) gift and spend the rest of your profit on something nice for you and your family for Christmas

What happens to the toys once the novelty value has worn off and they’re no longer relevant?
They get chucked in a box/cupboard/attic before eventually making it to the dump.
Fucking stupid.

Buy, not but

perfectpenquins Thank you for the comment, honestly even if I wanted to get something else I couldn't.

I'm currently feeling a whole lot better about my life.

Thank you, OP.

CaMePlaitPas Not an over reaction but maybe the tip of the iceburg and it just happens to be this :S

If you have to compare your life to another to feel better about yourself then you are most welcome Villanelley

Kevin the carrot is sold out and selling like hotcakes on ebay now that the American's have got on the bandwagon.
Sell your Kevin etc and buy your DM some bubble bath and chocolate as your efforts are clearly not appreciated

I am gobsmacked, 8 bids!!

Op if I was you I'd kiss my mums boots and stick that carrot straight on Ebay...

pictish You know how some families have Christmas tree decorations that are generations old, even if they don't match anything else? they will be like that for me, they are quirky and somewhat a funny little tradition to "get the carrots out" for Christmas.

I would be very surprised if you don't recoup the money you've spent. If you don't give her a gift voucher to the value of what you sold them for and remember to not bother trying to get her gifts that she says she wants.

Thomlin That must be fake? If not it must be US buyers as they don't have kevin the carrot in American aldi stores, a bunch of people on twitter said how they wished they had it in America.

Op I'd also forget your ideas about tradition and stick my set on ebay too and spend christmas in the Caribbean eating caviar covered carrots 😂😂

@RandomMess possibly but I just did a quick search and there are quite a few at £1k + with bidders. Absolutely mental!

RandomMess Honestly next year I'm not going to bother this much, I just don't like giving my best.