AIBU: To be upset with what my mother did?

[PrettyPurplePanda]

Hello!

I'll get straight to it, I really wanted the set of "Kevin the carrot" soft toys, I showed my mother the ALDI advert and she said she wanted them too, so when it got closer to the release date I asked her if she'd like for me to buy them for her as a Christmas present (my mother is hard to buy for, no food or drink, no clothes, jewelry, candles, accessories ect ect) so she said yes!!!

Great! A Christmas gift I know she will like, so on November 22nd midnight, me and my partner fought online to purchase them, one set for me and one set for my mother, after 4 long hours we finally got them! success I thought, next day delivery and I had messaged her straight away saying I had got them (so she knew she didn't have to hunt them down herself)

Now, today she messaged me, the usual "hi, how are you" ect, and then she messaged "I have a confession to make, I bought a set of the Kevin the carrots yesterday, I love them" . . .

At this point I had broke down into tears, not of sadness, but of frustration, my mother knew I had already bought her a set for Christmas, but went out and got a set anyway . . .

I don't have much money, my mother knows this, when I had explained this to her and the effort I went to get them so I didn't run the risk of going in store to find they had sold out, all I got back was "it's not a big deal, I'll sell one set if it bothers you that much", meaning she will sell the set I give her as mine still have the tags on...

So here are the things I'm asking if I'm being unreasonable about:

1. AIBU for being upset/mad/frustrated with my mother over this?
2. AIBU for telling her how what she has done makes me feel?
3. Would IBU to not give her the set I have bought, seeing as she already has them?
4. Would IBU to not buy a replacement gift? (If I was to buy her another gift or gifts, it means I have to take more money out of what little savings I have)
5. Would IBU to sell the second set to get my money back? (I have no need for 2 sets and don't know anyone who I could give them to, plus the extra money could go back into my savings)

The Kevin carrot set isn't the only gifts I had gotten my mother so she wont go without a present, no matter how mad I am at her I wouldn't dream of being that spiteful.

I reckon so Buffalo.

I’m cynical like that...

I think it was a bit mean of your mum but stand back from it. Just message and say I thought we'd agreed I'd get them for you, it took me ages. Never mind though I'll take them back.

Then obviously don't take them back, flog them on eBay (why grown ups want them rather than children I have no clue) with the profit get yourself a lovely bottle of wine and a bathbomb and a huge slab of chocolate. There you go amazing night in.

Just get your mum some smellies, she ruined it for herself, that's up to her!

Oh and if she texts saying no I'll keep them say I'm sorry I took them back this morning. Never mind.

But if you were buying yourself an extra set then surely it wasn’t any extra time or effort to get your mum one?

The money bit is annoying but it sounds like you’ll more than make it back on eBay.

But then I don’t get this excitement over toy carrots so I may be missing something

I too get where the OP is coming from but Jesus the drama is so unnecessary!!

And staying up until 4am for a cuddly toy is just madness.

Also, don’t forget to allow for the percent that eBay and PayPal will take when pricing them.

This isn't about the fact it's a soft toy. This is more to do with her mother's awkwardness. I can understand her frustration!

OP, as others have suggested, put it on eBay.

Thank you, to be honest I wont hear from her for days and then she will just sweep it under the rug, I would never request a gift, know the person had bought it and just went and got it myself, especially if it's an item you don't need two of.

What is happening here? Have you posted this just to get people to come to you to buy them?

Ah, thereby cunningly avoiding eBay fees. Clever.

Your mum couldnt wait until Christmas for her cuddly carrots?

Anyway.... Whatever the gift is, that's not the point.
I understand your frustration of making an effort to buy a gift for someone difficult, and them deliberately sabotaging it. That would piss me right off too.

I'm with the concensus, sell the carrots and get her a gift set of smellies and/or socks.

I would understand your upset if the gift was something that was going to be really hard to sell on but these toys still have the tags and are in demand right now.

Just stick the set you bought on eBay and buy her something else for the original price of the carrots instead. Job done.

I understand your frustration. It has nothing to do with whether it is soft toys or perfume or whatever it is. It's the fact that she knew you were getting them and you spent time and money getting them and now you have wasted your money. Consider this - you would have spent the same time and effort getting them for yourself so it is only the money. Don't get anything else. Just give her what you agreed on. Her problem.

A hard to please Mum is a nightmare but since she doesn’t seem that bothered just recoup your costs by selling or keep them and just get her a token gift. Maybe stop trying so hard to please her just a thought.

I purchased online, they wont take them in store for a refund without the receipt, which I threw away as I thought I wouldn't need it seeing as I'm keeping my set and the other set was in perfect condition for gifting to another, also i said "to get my money back" not " to make a profit" so what others are doing with them on ebay is none of my doing.

She wont eat them or worse, eats them then blames me for her eating them, hence why I don't buy her food or drink items.

It's annoying that you've wasted your time and money getting something she specifically said she wanted especially when money is short.

Your mum is ridiculous, she couldn’t wait for her gift at Christmas. She knew and agreed that you would be getting she is completely in the wrong.
It didn’t matter what the gift is she’s behave really shitty and clearly didn’t give a dam. Is not get her anything if she is so difficult and then does this.

i can understand your frustration my other half is a nightmare to buy for as he has everything he wants already,
dosent wear jewellery, has a good watch etc,
so last year decided right he hasnt got a motorbike sat nav so thought will get him one, he then came in like a dog with two tails ive bought one off ebay, damm one idea down the pan,
so decided to get him bike handcuffs (you use them when out for the day) guess what the day after i ordered them he came in said ive ordered some cuffs for the bike, that was it i blew sat there and through gritted teeth said cancel the bloody order so he knew what he was getting but at least one had one set

Are these really in that short supply, my Aldi had 100s of the buggers still in stick yesterday ....

Just give them to her for Christmas anyway. If she decides to sell them then she won't make a profit then.

Thank you, I would but from past experience, she re-gifts them, throws away or eats them and blames me for "tempting her", I've seen her re-gift a gift set I gave her for someones birthday and one year she re gifted me the scarf I gave her the year before.

She needn't have even told you! She could have accepted the gift with a good grace (having put her original set out of sight) and then sold yours on or whatever. You would never have known.

Can't be real, nice try.

just say AIBU to try and sell kevin the carrots on MN

YANBU You're getting a very unfair response here.

Regardless of what the item was, you had agreed with her that you were going to buy her a particular present for Christmas, and went to a lot of trouble to make sure you got it for her. She has then just gone right out and bought it for herself, knowing you had planned to get her it.

It doesn't matter if it's a limited edition Burberry handbag, it's not very nice of her to do it, and i can definitely see why you're pissed off.

You ' fought on line ' ?
OMG. How does that work?
But I do think that she's a bit of an unappreciative so and so.
Get [santa] to give her a bunch of real veggies