To be pissed off that DH pissed the bed

[onlygirlinthehome]

It's not the first time and most likely the last and I'm raging I was the first time and have been every time.
He did it again last night he went out for a few drinks so I had our DS in our bed so he didn't disturb me when he got home as I'm not too well at the moment so he slept in our sons bed and he again pissed the bed I woke up at 4am to the washing machine going so ok at least he has made the effort to sort it out but that's not my point it's still gone into the new mattress.

Is this only happening when he’s drunk?

Why dont you put waterproof mattress protectors on?

Oh OP that would have me raging too. You say a few drinks but it sounds like a whole lot more than that to me. What does he have to say about it? Do you think he has a drinking problem if he's having so much he's wetting the bed?

God, how disgusting

YANBU I'd be livid and DH would know it.
If he can't have a few drinks without pissing the bed he shouldn't be drinking at all.

Or rather, why doesnt HE put mattress protectors on?

This is not normal. Therefore it's a medical or psychological issue. Which means you're mocking him for a medical issue.

I feel your pain - my xdh used to do this after every night out drinking.
I used to nag him about how many drinks he'd had, and plead with him not to have any more to drink. He would always have to have "just one more drink, it'll be fine".

I was furious about it all the time. In fact it was 10 years ago and I'm still annoyed even though we are not together anymore.

Put a waterproof cover with a big bath sheet on top of it, under the sheet, to protect the mattress.

It does happen when people are drunk sometimes but, really, he shouldn't go out and get drunk. It must have been humiliating for him but as you say, at least put the bedclothes in the wash. I hope he tried to clean the mattress too, it is possible.

A few weeks ago DP was so drunk that he got out of bed in the night, walked to the end of the bed, pulled his trousers down and then started pissing on the corner. I shouted at him and he walked to the toilet still pissing. I was so so angry. It's never happened before thankfully, one of his friends is notorious for pissing into the wardrobe after a night out. You have my every sympathy OP, he had better be making it up to you and promising it won't happen again.

Gross

Gross... I wouldn't allow him in any bed when he was drunk! Blow up bed with waterproof sheet only!

my ex used to do this...ended up he was an alcoholic, its gross and he needs to understand that it can't carry on, that's more than a few drinks

My ex used to do that regularly. The mattress ended up with a big hole in it.

melondramatic If a woman posted that she was drinking so much she was pissing on the mattress, she'd be advised to seek help to address her drinking problem. I don't think people would be recommending waterproof sheets, far less that her husband should put them on the bed

I won’t judge as it either sounds like a medical issue or an issue with alcohol as that’s not normal. You should speak with him.

Not sure why it's OP's responsibility to waterproof the bed for an adult who is continent when sober.

Probably worth him getting a check up to make sure all is functioning normally but perhaps also, if he's going to get that drunk, he finds somewhere else to stay and piss.

Of course allthegood..but OP cant MAKE her husband address his drinking problem.

Umm...it makes sense to put waterproof sheets on to protect mattresses, if this is a regular occurence. She said she was pissed off about it soaking into the mattress

Only on mn have I come across people pissing themselves, I don't think it's common at all!
I'm sorry I think this is completely unacceptable behaviour.

Op doesn't need to put a waterproof sheet on but her partner needs to sort himself out. If he can't drink without losing bladder control then he can't drink. It's disgusting.

marklah it ISNT *OPs responsibility to waterproof the mattresses. If her husband is pissing in the bed, it is HIS responsibility. However, if this is drinking related and he is in denial, he isnt going to do it. It makes sense for OP to do it so she doesnt have to deal with piss soaked mattresses

My solution, would be to get rid of the husband tbh, but presumably OP wants to keep him

People are suggesting the op puts waterproof covers on?!!

How utterly disgusting. So your DS has to sleep on a mattress soaked with your DH's urine? I would be telling him to sleep in that room full time.

This is a problem that he needs to deal with. Waterproof mattress protectors are not going to stop him from pissing the bed are they? Either it's a medical issue and he needs to see the gp or it's an alcohol issue and he needs to stop drinking/seek help with stopping drinking.

My sympathies. Horrible for you.

How long until the child is too old to come into your bed and you’ll be stuck with it again?

This needs sorting now. And HE needs to sort it. His drinking is causing you distress, damaging the relationship, and therefore costing him more than money.

busybarbara, alcohol is a diuretic. It's entirely possible that this is neither a medical or psychological condition and that the OP's partner is just drinking to excess and can't control his bladder once he's passed out drunk.

He needs to either stop drinking, or cut back considerably.