To be pissed off that DH pissed the bed

[onlygirlinthehome]

It's not the first time and most likely the last and I'm raging I was the first time and have been every time.
He did it again last night he went out for a few drinks so I had our DS in our bed so he didn't disturb me when he got home as I'm not too well at the moment so he slept in our sons bed and he again pissed the bed I woke up at 4am to the washing machine going so ok at least he has made the effort to sort it out but that's not my point it's still gone into the new mattress.

thats pretty gross

If he can’t drink without pissing himself then he shouldn’t drink
It’s really that simple
Why would he even want to? Is he not embarrassed??

So, only now that it’s your son’s bed are you angry. It’s a start.

Does he clean up properly after pissing himself? Or does he not bother / do a half arsed job and you sort it out?

6 pints is at least 12 units. That is absolutely a binge.

Go ye to the hardware shoppe. Purchase there a Jubliee clip and a length of flexible hose drain. Conect one end to his todger the other to the lav and that Sir, is the only way you'll be allowed into this bed!

Or else go and colapse in the bath and make your mess there!

Seriosuly grown men, supposed men, adult men doing what perhaps they did whilst a child. Seems to me that they have real behavoral problems and need treatment!

Appalling:-(

I had an ex who did this 3 - 4 times in 3 years. He was mortified afterwards! It WAS on occasions when he was drunk after a big night out but he certainly didn't generally have a 'drink problem'. I also know other people who have very rarely done this (eg partners of friends). Likewise - they are not alcoholics. (My brother IS an alcoholic so I am well versesd in what is and isn't a drink problem after lots of reading up on it and personal experience of it). I have once wet the bed (in adulthood) and I hadn't had a drink - was stone cold sober. I was just very, very emotional that eve due to some stuff that had happened and I assume that affected me. OP - obv not acceptable for your DH to do this but some of reactions above sound OTT to me given we don;t have details on your DH and what/when he drinks etc.

I find this so friggin' disrespectful.
My DSis ex used to do this and then expect her to sort it all out.
At least your DH doesn't do that.
But my Ex did it once.
Didn't even tell me.
Then when I got a new mattress and was about to give away the old one (only a year old) I found the piss stain.
I gagged and a good mattress gone to waste.
It's fucking disgraceful.

7 times in 7 years is 6 times too many. Once only, I could forgive. But if he is at risk of pissing the bed when he is drunk he should not be drinking. I couldn’t look at my DH the same if he kept on doing that it’s vile.

I've been married 40 years. My husband has never done this.

It's not usual and it's not right.

And I would waterproof sheet your DC's bed because nappies aren't infallible and they also help if child is sick. The bonus is it won't be a problem when your husband pisses the bed for the 8th time.

How utterly vile. No way could I admit to being married to a man who did this, let along minimise it the way you have done OP.

Irrespective of your DH's drink/incontinence issues, and I am not condoning them, surely if it's a child's bed it should have a waterproof mattress protector on it anyway.

We have waterproof protectors on all our adult beds too, nice soft padded ones from M&S. Let's face it, I am sure many of us have split coffee or tea in bed at one time or another or had a very heavy period.

I feel sorry for both of you. Maybe it's a medical problem? Maybe a GP appointment and a mattress protector would be a first port of call.

It can’t be a medical problem if the only time he does it is when he’s drunk alcohol.

"It has happened 7 times which is 6 times too many!"

I disagree. It's 7 times too many IMO.

It's disgusting. If it's happened before he needs to take responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen again.

I would tell him he has to replace the mattress and dispose of the pissed on one. Then he needs to make sure in the future he doesn't get so pissed he can't control his bodily functions anymore.

You shouldn't need to treat him like a baby and provide waterproof mattress covers ffs. He's an adult so needs to behave like one.

I'm not saying he has pissed in our bed every time some times it's been in the living room or the hallway our bed once. FFS stop speculating you know my life I'm raging it my sons be once.

Ok, the more I read the better it gets .

So, your issue is not that he he drinks and wee’s beds/living rooms/hallways but the only problem you see with the situation is that he wee’d your child’s bed. Everywhere else is okay .

Now I’m not sure who has the bigger problem.

7/8 times in 7 years, is ridiculous for you to try and justify this as normal behaviour. I think you need to take your blinkers off and tell him to go to the GP and get it sorted.

OP - AIBU to be upset he pissed the bed?
Everyone else - No, that's gross and he has a problem
OP - it's OK really, not a big deal

Urine Off cleaner will get the smell out, it's in the pet section on amazon. Great for dog wee so should work for adult pee. He should get it clean. He should also wear man nappies if he insists on drinking like this - they're not the end of the world.

I would say as you have a 2 year old you'll be potty training at some point anyway kylie bed pads and waterproof bed cover on his bed will come in useful anyway. I actually use them myself as I have Crohn's disease and severe arthritis so can't always get up quickly enough (not envy) it's gross but the kylies and bed cover mean my expensive mattress is still perfect.

But the drinking causing it needs to be addressed.

My ex used to do this after a heavy night, it’s truely gross, one night he was cuddled up against my back and pissed on me too, I was livid.
I’ve been blind drunk on only a few occasions, I’ve never pissed the bed because of it though.
He needs to get his act together, not drink so much and buy mattress proctors on the bed. It’s foul and yanbu

I dumped men who did this once, during the dating stage. Wouldn't stay with anyone who did this and still drank. It's disgusting.

It can’t be a medical problem if the only time he does it is when he’s drunk alcohol.

This. While alcohol can exacerbate some forms of bladder irritability, in continence and have other various effects I would not class it as a medical problem. I’d class it as a bloody easy solution.

It's not exactly a regular occurrence but it is pretty unusual all the same. If it was me, I would be so embarrassed that I would not drink that much again, and if I really couldn't face that, I'd see the GP. Cos most people can have a few drinks without pissing themselves!

The issue is that he obviously doesn't even care that much/

This is absolutely disgusting and yes OP you are minimising it.

Six pints of lager is around 15 - 17 units depending on how strong it was. So he has had more than a weeks alcohol in one night. This is practically a definition of binge drinking.

If he pisses the bed/anywhere else that isn't a loo when he drinks alcohol, then he shouldn't be drinking it.

How can you stand to live like this?

Why is everyone giving OP a hard time? It’s not her fault