Not following CF’s instructions - AIBU or not?

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Background: Friend and Nob are separated with a child Z. Child Z is friends with DC and I am friends with Friend. I know Nob, but I don’t like him and, from some of the things Z mentions to DC, I think he can often be a very shit dad. Z is eight years old.

DC and Z went to a birthday party today. Friend and I decided to spend time going round the shops before I picked up DC.

About an hour after the party started I got a text from Nob (no idea how he got my number) who said that he was starting work two hours early so could I bring Z back. I asked Friend about it and she said if I didn’t mind it would be best to do what he asked (yes, he is a controlling twat). So I texted back, no problem.

Friend and I walked round the shops for a bit and then I got another text from Nob saying that he wanted me to drop Z off at his address, 1 Dickhead Avenue. Bit of a problem there because Nob doesn’t actually live at 1 Dickhead Avenue and wouldn’t be there himself when I dropped Z off because he would already be at work.

I asked Friend about this and she said she would just take Z home because the arrangement was that she would pick Z up from Nob’s at 6 and the party only finished at 5:30 so it would save her a journey. Worth noting that it takes 45 minutes to get from party to where Nob lives and he hadn’t told Friend that his contact would be overrunning so, as far as he was concerned, she would have been hanging around outside his house for 15-20 mins not knowing what was happening.

AIBU to be annoyed that Nob has texted a mutual friend to complain that I didn’t follow his instructions? I think he is a CF, I don’t think it’s right for him to ask me to drop an eight year old child off at a random address, particularly when her parent isn’t there to meet her, and also I’m not a fucking taxi service to be ordered whenever he can’t be bothered to make sure he’s available to deal with his own child. But when I said this to our mutual friend she said IWBU because she would have dropped Z off where Nob wanted and that in her opinion I was wrong.

Normally I wouldn’t care what someone like Nob thought, and I know he is a CF, but his complaining and then mutual friend’s reaction have annoyed me and I can’t stop wondering if IWBU.

who does live at Dickhead Ave then?

i'd have blocked him already, you are not his staff.

I don’t quite understand why nob didn’t ask friend to pick up child straight from the party, and why you were asked to child up.

Well if mutual friend wants to step up as Nob's taxi service let them. YANBU.

I'm a bit confused tbh. Can you explain it again?

I still don’t know who lives at Dickhead Avenue.

Nob doesn’t like Friend “taking over” his contact time so he would never ask her to pick up Z.

why did he text you and not your friend?

Yanbu, mutual friend and nob shouldn't think that it's your job to be chauggering z about let alone getting involved. Z's mother made the decision so it is between them. I would tell mutual friend it's not her child and not her business just as you aren't there to be his personal child taxi service.

Very odd. Block him
Does he not speak to his ex at all

Agree with telling mutual friend and nob that mutual friend has volunteered to be the taxi service from now on.

He doesn’t speak to her. He does send her texts in which he accuses her of being a bad mother and stealing all his money.

Stealing all his money = she finally went to CSA.

No need to ask why she left him.

Ugh what a cunt, and your mutual friend is a dickhead too.
Yanbu
Don’t give him headspace the cheeky fucker.
100% block him forever.

Does mutual friend have a thing for nob?

I’d be pissed off with bob too and block him.

Your friend the ex of nob sounds like she’s still scared of nob tho.

In reference to replying to nob's text; it is often stated on here that "no" is a complete sentence.

I'd like to add, so is "fuck off".

What a garbled post.
Why couldn't you just have dropped the child off?

I really think a lot of this post is confusing. You make no sense!

I'd have to told him I'm not his fucking taxi service or his servant so he doesn't get to tell me what to do and then blocked him. Mutual friend is a wet lettuce. I might consider blocking her arse, too.

@Tellthemnothing
Everyone else made sense of it!

Nob and Mutual friend are getting it on ??

No yanbu.

he wanted me to drop Z off at his address, 1 Dickhead Avenue. Bit of a problem there because Nob doesn’t actually live at 1 Dickhead Avenue and wouldn’t be there himself when I dropped Z off because he would already be at work.

This is the bit that makes no sense.

1. Why that address?
2. Why say it's his address then say he doesn't live there?
3. Why would he already be at work?
4. Why did he want a child to be picked up there?

If the rest of you got through that garbled mess, fair play to ye.

@tellthemnothing

Just read it slowly as it makes perfect sense.

I wouldn’t have been happy at

A) someone giving Nob my number
B) dropping kid off at random address especially when I was with the child’s mum

It does make sense

Dad (Knob) has dropped child at the party and he was going to collect him til 6 when Mum would pick him up.
Knob needed to work early so asked OP to return child to DH Av
Mum said don't bother - she'd collect child early from the party (I.e at 5:30 rather than 6pm agreed collection

This seems to be a better option - child has fun at the party and collected by mum
As opposed to OP collecting child early and dropping at a strangers house without any parent.

Totally agree with Fuckery

If I was giving someone else's child a lift I would only be dropping them back to their home of residence (mother or father) with the parent there to receive them. Unless the agreement is with a grandparent or the child is old enough to have a key and be home alone.

I personally would have replied and said. If you won't be home I can either take child back to my house for collection or drop off at mothers...

Yanbu, this is not your issue, it is between nob and your friend. If I were friend, if nob is being a knob about it all, I would have picked my son up instead, of having him dropped at a random address to someone I don't know. Delete and block nobs number.