"Oh my goodness .... you still have the same bathroom, that's hilarious"

[BigSandyBalls2015]

AIBU and overly sensitive or is that fecking rude?

For context - this is someone I met at baby groups years ago (our kids are now mid/late teens), lost touch when they started different schools and occasionally bumped into one another out shopping etc. I recently saw her and invited her back for coffee and a catch up at mine, which took place yesterday.

The first thing she said was "oh my goodness ... you still have the same bathroom, that's hilarious" (bathroom by front door). I had forgotten she was such a rude cow .... things have started coming back to me since our coffee ..... I remember sitting in our garden with several baby group mums, kids in paddling pool, all lovely and she came out with the cracker "I so wish I had a tiny garden and house like this, so much easier to maintain".

I remember now why we lost touch.

She’s obviously insecure and superficial. Bask in your superior moral fibre. I’m sure you’re not the only person she’s been rude to in a vain attempt to feel better about herself.

What a cow!

Next time I would tell her that you only replace big items like bathrooms and kitchens every second Thursday so next time she comes which will be never then she can see your new addition.

Some people just thrive on this stuff and it is glaringly obvious they have issues regarding superiority and/or are very insecure.

She’d love ours - it was put in when the house was built in the early 90s! Though to be fair, we are looking at changing it as there are some problems with it now. Just trying to do it for a sensible price rather than the megabucks we’ve been quoted!

“Yes CF, we do, I do find that paying a little more for quality is worth it in the long run, how many times have you had to change yours now?”

Perhaps I have an odd sense of humour, or very thick skin but I can often find people's outrageously rude comments quite funny.

Years ago an NCT "friend" was introducing me: "This is WildCherry. She's amazing. I don't know how she does it. She lives IN A FLAT!"

Imagine that. Bringing a baby into the world while living in a flat.

Hang out with eco warriors, not people who want to keep up with the neighbours.
Silly woman.

Not you op obvs.

Seriously though, how often does everyone change their bathroom? We've had both of ours for 20 years now, white thankfully but have zero intention of changing/updating as can't imagine finding or justifying the money spent on it. In all honesty the kitchen needs doing and is falling apart - again 20 years old - but it would cost a fortune to do. Do people save up for years or get them on tick?

OutwiththeOutCrowd

"Funny you should remember our bathroom because I remember visiting yours once too and was especially impressed by the submarine-sized poo in your toilet."

😂😂😂👌🏻 she would think mine is hilarious with a corner bath and a ‘shell’ style sink. Fortunately I don’t give a Shit, and it’s massive and comfortable.

Some people will save up, some will pay on credit card/bank loan, some will remortgage to release money.

I have no idea how often people do bathrooms? Every 20-30 years? Of course some will do them more often (the more money than sense,keep up with the Jones, followers of fashion,can't bear to shit in a second hand toilet types). Some longer/never (the if it ain't broke don't fix it etc crowd).

DM has put two bathrooms in the house she lives in, but she has lived their over 40 years and the first one was to move it upstairs and the second time was to make it more suitable now she's getting on a bit (big walk in shower cubicle with a seat).

We've been here 13 years and still have the bathroom that came with the house - I'd say 80/90s vintage from the style. So no way modern, but good quality and still clean and functional. We could do with new windows more than a new bathroom, but we might replace it in the next 5/10 years.

OP, I'm surprised she's not sniffy (pun intended) about you having a downstairs bathroom too. Surely, you should have built a two-storey extension (with master bedroom suite) and moved it upstairs by now?!

We have one 1980s cloakroom which is mega out of style but is really solid. The bathrooms we had to replace (cracked bath/tiles) and ten years later we've had two showers as each one - in spite of not being cheap at all - just didn't last (runners broke, glass dropped). The toilets are flimsy and not a patch on the 80s one.

My parents didn't change their bathroom in 30 years - there was a loo with a heavy black toilet seat and chain flush and a cast-iron bath. Now it would be vogue-ish, but when my mother sold the house in the 90s viewers were screeching in horror at the sight of it.

Can't change it as the toilet has an absolute epic flush (unlike the noughties toilets upstairs which have wimpy little flushes; the modern bathrooms are altogether less sturdy than their ancestors)

Such a good point. I have a toilet that is beyond dated (almost vintage) but it flushes like Niagra. It laughs in the face of close-coupled toilets and concealed cisterns and floating bowls as it consigns even the most atrocious poos to the sewers.

She must be common. Imagine replacing your bathroom frequently! Hilarious!!

I bought a little two-up two-down 15 years ago, for 40 grand and still live there today, having paid the mortgage off. A snotty cow, similar to the one you know said "Oh, you still live in that little house do you?". My reply was "Well, of course, it's so lovely to be able to work PT now I am mortgage free. I couldn't imagine what it's like working all the hours God sends, just to pay for a house you're never in". That shut her up.

Am I the only one who simply wouldn't've understood? I probably would have stood there and said something confused like, "Hilarious? Where else would it be?" as the 'same' bathroom would take quite some time for me to realise it was something about decorating (I twigged after the first few replies here).

Like the door story :)

Puts me in mind of the comment a close friend said in front of a group of people, oh I could never live in a terraced house! I live in one, she had just moved into a large semi and I think she had forgotten that she had been given a huge amount of cash from her husbands family to enable her to do so. I really wanted to slap her one!.

she sounds vile..

Well I'd rather have someone making remarks about my bathroom than crapping in it!.
She'd have ended up in a and e if she went to my bathroom, 3 tiles are hanging off.

She sounds like scruffy twat.

*a right...not sure how that turned into scruffy

This made me laugh (at her, not you OP).
My Mum has the same bathroom suite that came with her house when she bought it in 1974. It was a good few years old back then.
It is white, pristine and really good quality.
She changed the taps & shower in the '90s but is FAR nicer than what we put in our house 2 years ago.
If it doesn't need replacing, why would you?
This 'acquaintance' of yours is an idiot.

Utterly rude

There's nothing like an epic flush or a long soak in an enamel bath.

How I miss those true pleasures in life.

She's rude. Don't see her again and don't let her attitude bother you in the slightest.