"Oh my goodness .... you still have the same bathroom, that's hilarious"

[BigSandyBalls2015]

AIBU and overly sensitive or is that fecking rude?

For context - this is someone I met at baby groups years ago (our kids are now mid/late teens), lost touch when they started different schools and occasionally bumped into one another out shopping etc. I recently saw her and invited her back for coffee and a catch up at mine, which took place yesterday.

The first thing she said was "oh my goodness ... you still have the same bathroom, that's hilarious" (bathroom by front door). I had forgotten she was such a rude cow .... things have started coming back to me since our coffee ..... I remember sitting in our garden with several baby group mums, kids in paddling pool, all lovely and she came out with the cracker "I so wish I had a tiny garden and house like this, so much easier to maintain".

I remember now why we lost touch.

'oh my goodness, you are still a snide bitch!' Thats hilarious!'

I don't appreciate at all this (UK ?) tendancy to replace perfectly good bathrooms and kitchens because they are "outdated". Our kitchen is original (1950), all solid wood cabinets, though we have repainted, and we got new counters about 23 years ago.

The main bathroom is also mostly original, we love the tile, though we had the tub reglazed, and I have a vague memory of replacing the toilet about 20 years ago.

Btw I often say stupid things and have a reputation for being tactless. I really don't mean to hurt and I do want people to like me!

It's a horrible affliction

But it's not an 'affliction' at all, lemonsole. An affliction would be something you can't help, like an illness, not a habit of making tactless remarks. If you are aware that you habitually make tactless statements, and hurt or annoy people you want to like you, what on earth goes through your head before you speak?

Perhaps remind her that you could change the bathroom, but she'll always be stupid?

I admit I have an avocado bathroom suite right out of the 70s complete with avocado wet look wall tiles and a Moroccan light. I do joke about it and it would make a great film set as it's totally as new condition. If anyone wants it it's getting ripped out in the new year alone with its buddy the 80s kitchen don't really care what people think that they are still around but it's time to renovate the house and they will be going forward first. As for your back in the day friend she needs to go back and stay there in the past. If I meet a friend even one that I hadn't seen since school I am always polite and spend a few minutes talking and I even if I thought it would never say anything rude at all and just go on my way after.

HellonHeels Thanks, we did look at the bath paint a while back, but after nearly twenty years I don't notice it. If we ever decide to move and want to spruce it up for viewings we'll think about it again.

What espressobutler said - we'd love to hear gems from this person. She sounds like a real treat to be around.

But we understand if you think that life is too short to spend even a second more in her company

IrisDolmato I'm not sure, I'm getting a bit better. I think it's anxiety usually, it makes me blurt things out.

It's embarrassing and sometimes I think I might have aspergers.

“Well, it’s wearing better than you.”

"Yes, we'd prefer to invest our money into raising our children, as opposed to unnecessary home changes, but that's probably just because when I bring people back it's done out of kindness, not a desire to show off materialistic items."

'You know, I'd really forgotten what a bitch you are. This isn't a good idea'... while holding front door open.

I honestly can't imagine giving brainspace to remembering what other people's bathrooms look like for years. And I'm not exactly a top scientist devoting my thoughts to only cutting edge breakthroughs. How amazingly dull she must be.

Astounded she remembers what your innocuous bathroom looks like. I used to hate play dates when I had 2 toddlers because they always insisted on trying out the facilities. Much too preoccupied with avoiding puddles on the floor and gouges in the soap etc to notice the state of anyone's bathroom.

Also pretty sure my Gran (guardian of MC manners) would deeply disapprove of the lack of breeding on display when commenting on the fixtures.

"I can change my bathroom, but you'll be a bitch forever!"

I just sold my city apartment. It still had the original bathroom of 1983. I commented to the buyers that it probably was the first room for them to work on. They looked quite puzzled and said that if it still was working they weren't going to change it.

I don't know about you, but negative comments only bother me when they're coming from someone whose opinion I care about.

When they're coming from a walking sitcom-trope, I really couldn't give a shit, and if anything it becomes entertaining as a non-intentional-satire.

Just be glad you're not also a desperately insecure total bitch who drives people away.

‘And you’re still a pretentious twat’

We lived with our solid avocado suite for years before putting our flat on the market - couldn't be bothered to change it then as we thought the buyers would probably do it. One day I went into our estate agents to ask something about the sale, and while I was waiting to talk to the slimy fucker guy working there overheard him telling a couple about our dated bathroom. He was all of a fluster when I butted in to tell him that was my flat he was badmouthing!

My parents still have an avocado suite... apart from the toilet which is (now) white —nothing at all to do with a house party during my college days—
They had that bathroom before I was born and I am now 32. It doesn’t look amazing but it does the job and they don’t tend to have people to stay! People can be so rude.

Loving these responses

I do remember that I didn't like her much .... I'd forgotten quite how much!

She has got money, married a rich fella, never worked. Mutual friend is properly loaded, a different scale completely and I remember rude cow frequently turning the convo to money and properly loaded mate refusing to engage every time closing it down with "we have been very lucky". Obv a much more classy lady!

Wow! God bless your memory!
Are you big into bathrooms and that kind of thing?

What’s yours like?
Ah that’s brilliant! Good for you!

But the bath works you can wash your face and have a poo in comfort.

FuzzyDuck most people use the loo for that, not the bath!!

Oh! One doesn't need to keep replacing things if one buys quality to start with. Cheap things are such a false economy don't you think?

1 good thing about the dull beige ones is they never get dirty. I had the put in last year summer and ive never had to clean the actual tiles yet . They still look as good as new.