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To think she was rude! Trick or Treating, am I a CF?

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forwhatyouare · 31/10/2018 20:23

Long story short, we went trick or treating as an extended family tonight. About 5 kids in total, including my 1 year old.

I came to the door for every knock (we only knock on decorated houses or those with a few pumpkins), and collected sweets in a bag for my DS.

On one of the knocks, I collected a sweet in the bag and the woman who answered pulled me to the side and said "He looks cute, he's getting these for you though I suppose "

I said "haha", thinking I had mistaken her tone and she was joking. She was not. She said "I saw you eating them from across the road".

If truth be told, I was eating a sweet a little earlier.

AIBU to say this is bloody rude?!

Just give sweets to wherever is dressed up or don't at all. It would be different if I was dressed for Halloween and there alone, but I was standing with DS in my arms, with 4 little children surrounding me... Hardly the cheeky fucker of the century.

OP posts:

Sparklingbrook · 31/10/2018 21:25

I still don't see how if someone who has decorated their house for Halloween opens the door and offers you a sweet that means you are begging. That makes no sense.

I would not be dressing up or taking any sweets for a one year old, there's no point. Save it for when they can join in properly.


StoppinBy · 31/10/2018 21:28

We took our children T or T last night for the first time, our youngest is 17 months and they shared a goodie bag to put them in.

They got so many lollies that there is no way that I am letting them eat them all (surely no parent does and that's just normal?). Sorry kiddies but Daddy and I will be scrounging from your bag too haha.

That being said I would have said something similar to the lady, my youngest had so much fun that every time he saw balloons and decorations he started making his 'can I have some' signal lol, would have been pretty mean to keep him away and not let him get some as well.


SD1978 · 31/10/2018 21:29

Well yes, you're a CF. You were using the babies outfit to get sweets for yourself. I don't really see how the eleborateness of the outfit you chose, entitles you to use him as a prop so you can get chocolate from people. It's for the kids. Buy your own to munch. I find this pretty weird.


Almostthere15 · 31/10/2018 21:32

We joined friends today, including baby in a sling and no question of taking sweets for them. But I don't get the "policing" of who has sweets. DH stayed home (and probably sampled many) and they are never all gone. There's plenty for those that want them, including teenagers, nanas and mums. Who cares who actually eats them.

We only go to those houses that are openly displaying Halloween decorations. It's a nice night, we see lots of neighbours walking around and have a chat with those we see at the doors which is rare in winter. When we were done with people knocking we took the decorations in, no one has knocked since.

I dont think anti social behaviour/crime is inevitable on Halloween in all areas. That doesn't mean I deny its existence but it's not been my experience (and I've lived in some rather interesting areas!)


mollibu · 31/10/2018 21:32

... but she was right 


fieldgold · 31/10/2018 21:33

And tomorrow we will be talking about Bonfire Night.

And then Christmas.

But hey ho. Off we go! Anything to shorten the Winter. LOL


StoppinBy · 31/10/2018 21:34

By definition my child is 1 too by the way, while we don't usually feed them junk he sure loved eating chocolate and the gingerbread biscuits he was given and really did enjoy being able to pick something from the lolly jar that people were offering him.

One house even gave the kids a box of sultanas which was really nice, still not great for them but better than junk food.


HellenaHandbasket · 31/10/2018 21:37

Someone up the road near us had mulled wine out for the adults. Now that was a popular house.


SpareASquare · 31/10/2018 21:40

But she was right Confused

You used your kid to get yourself some sweets which I, personally, couldn't get worked up over but clearly she felt like calling you out.

No biggie really.


ChiaraRimini · 31/10/2018 21:40

Your 1 year old is dairy free and veggie so couldn't eat chocolate or Haribo, so you had to eat the sweets you collected "for him"??
Seriously OP just buy your own sweets!!!


lostfrequencies · 31/10/2018 21:41

I'd find it hard to get upset by what she said. And she was right anyway!


VladmirsPoutine · 31/10/2018 21:48

How do people manage. You both sound as batshit as each other. Her for pulling you aside to make you confess to your sin and you for frankly even letting it bother you and also using your baby as a stalking horse for sweets.


PurpleFlower1983 · 31/10/2018 21:49

She was right so she’s definitely not a CF.


VanGoghsDog · 31/10/2018 21:50

Who cares? If you're that thin skinned maybe don't knock on the doors of strangers and expect them to gift you things from the goodness of their hearts?


Boohissmiss · 31/10/2018 21:51

Yep she was right and you were wrong and grabby to collect sweets for a baby who wasn’t going to eat them.


SpottingTheZebras · 31/10/2018 21:52

I agree with PP that you are just annoyed that she correctly called you out for getting sweets for yourself from your neighbours.

By all means take a one year old with you but dressing them up for the occasion is up to you and you don’t collect anymore sweets they will eat. If an adult stranger came round to your house asking for chocolate and sweets, wouldn’t you think they were a CF? Because that is exactly what you were doing. Trick or treating is for kids; not adults. Go and buy your own sweets if you want them.


Willow2017 · 31/10/2018 21:52

Are you under the impression USA invented halloween?

Funny how the ones who claim it’s not begging are the ones who go out .. begging

Its not begging if people put up decs and pumpkins and WANT guisers. Why cant people understand that.
every fecking year


YoniHuman · 31/10/2018 21:54

I think you were being a bit of a CF. I dressed up and took my children plus 3 of their friends trick or treating at about 6pm this evening. We only knocked on decorated houses in our street , but several said they had already run out of sweets.
The sweets are supposed to be for the kids old enough to eat them. If someone asks directly if you want one, fair enough but having a dressed up baby in your arms is no excuse.


londonrach · 31/10/2018 22:01

You were being cheeky. I dressed my dd today but didnt take her out as too cold and shes too young at 2 for sweets.


PinkCalluna · 31/10/2018 22:05

Oh for goodness sake!

I handed out sweeties to 250 guisers this evening.

One wee mini mars bar for some poor woman hauling a baby and a bunch of children round in the cold and rain is hardly worth such a fuss!

We did have a few parents with babes in arms and yes, we gave them sweeties. What kind of meany wouldn’t?


givemesteel · 31/10/2018 22:12

Yes I don't think it's the done thing to take sweets as an adult even if you have dressed up your baby.

If you'd come to my house and taken a sweet if wouldn't bother me at all but I would think it was a bit odd.

I think she was rude for making you feel uncomfortable. But I wouldn't take the sweets yourself next year!


forwhatyouare · 31/10/2018 22:12

Fair enough! Seems I was unreasonable then. I'm happy to accept that.

Yes, I did mainly take the sweets for myself because most of them weren't suitable for my DS. But he's had the ones he could eat. Me and DH have eaten all the chocs, Haribo etc

Although I still think it was odd of her to be so peeved off by me. By the end of our walk around, people were telling us all to take a handful since they had so many left.

We left a bowl out of last year's sweets that we forgot to hand out. They were all gone too when we got back

OP posts:

W0rriedMum · 31/10/2018 22:12

He's veggie and dairy free so couldn't eat chocolate or the haribo
I also had kids saying that they didn't eat Haribos, or didn't like Crunchies or whatever. The vast majority took what was on offer and said thank you.
I did get a few requests for "the baby" Grin. I didn't think about it at the time but maybe I met the OP.


W0rriedMum · 31/10/2018 22:14

And if I did, the OP is welcome too!


Cherrysherbet · 31/10/2018 22:15

Everyone gets sweeties at mine on Halloween! I don't care how old you are! It's just a bit of fun.
The lady was rude. If she was so worried about who was going to eat her sweets, then she should turn her lights off and eat them all herself. How mean she is.

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