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To think she was rude! Trick or Treating, am I a CF?

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forwhatyouare · 31/10/2018 20:23

Long story short, we went trick or treating as an extended family tonight. About 5 kids in total, including my 1 year old.

I came to the door for every knock (we only knock on decorated houses or those with a few pumpkins), and collected sweets in a bag for my DS.

On one of the knocks, I collected a sweet in the bag and the woman who answered pulled me to the side and said "He looks cute, he's getting these for you though I suppose "

I said "haha", thinking I had mistaken her tone and she was joking. She was not. She said "I saw you eating them from across the road".

If truth be told, I was eating a sweet a little earlier.

AIBU to say this is bloody rude?!

Just give sweets to wherever is dressed up or don't at all. It would be different if I was dressed for Halloween and there alone, but I was standing with DS in my arms, with 4 little children surrounding me... Hardly the cheeky fucker of the century.

OP posts:

Inniu · 31/10/2018 20:40

Usually an adult carrying a baby would not collect sweets they would just stay at the back of the group.


megamuff · 31/10/2018 20:40

You're not a CF and she was certainly not rude....


Doghorsechicken · 31/10/2018 20:41

You ate the sweets, she was right Grin


Celebelly · 31/10/2018 20:42

Oh I misunderstood the situation and thought you were just eating treats from the other kids after they'd got them. I agree that a one-year-old is a bit young to be collecting sweets and it's a bit pointless anyway (and a wee bit cheeky if the sweets are just going to be eaten by you). I probably wouldn't have said anything to you, though.


fieldgold · 31/10/2018 20:42

Leaving aside all the angst.

What is Tricking?

Guessing Treating is all that matters.


Bananacakes · 31/10/2018 20:42

Really confused, you were collecting sweets for your ds? Was that the 1 yr old? Sorry that is cheeky. Most people let the kids go to the door and just stand a little behind. We’ve had about 40 different callers this evening. No adults collecting for baby’s. Babies don’t eat or need sweets on Halloween. My nearly 3 yr old was shy but my husband went up with her so she could take one and say thank you. He didn’t collect extra for 1 at home or 1 who couldn’t eat them. That would be cheeky.
If an adult did that at my door I’d think they were rude.


Tink2007 · 31/10/2018 20:42

“Going to a lot of trouble” to dress him up was your choice though, wasn’t it? Nobody asked you to do that.

A year old baby isn’t going to eat sweets so I wouldn’t give any for that child either.


PrincessJuanita · 31/10/2018 20:44

Well... so she was right then? You took a baby trick or treating and ate all the sweets. Fine, it's not a terrible thing to do but I'm not sure why you're so cross with somebody who spelt it out!!


HurrahMoaningMyrtle · 31/10/2018 20:44

Halloween originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. Celts were from Ireland, the UK and Northern France.
The UK has always celebrated Halloween, it's not an American invention as much as they'd like to claim it. It is however getting bigger every year as the shops want us to spend more money


LascellesMoustache · 31/10/2018 20:45

When you say 1 year old do you mean only just 1 or are they nearly 2? Theres a big difference and I think if the other children are collecting sweets a nearly 2 year old would want to join in the fun of putting something in their bucket even if they werent going to eat it.


BackInRed · 31/10/2018 20:46

I love Halloween and have never cared about the age of trick or treaters. You ring the bell on Halloween, you get candy. It's that simple to me. Halloween Grin

People who call it glorified begging are truly bringing the spirit of the grinch about 2 months too early. Guess that goes with the heart that's 2 sizes too small. 🤔


BonfiresOfInsanity · 31/10/2018 20:46

I'm sick of the begging crap too. If I decorate the front of my house with pumpkins etc. and have a big bowl of sweets and chocolate ready then I am INVITING them here, they are not begging!

On the other hand, if they came round asking for cash then I may have a different opinion..


WitchesWeb · 31/10/2018 20:48

I'm sick of the begging crap too. If I decorate the front of my house with pumpkins etc. and have a big bowl of sweets and chocolate ready then I am INVITING them here, they are not begging!

Thats fine however not everyone had got the memo about it. DH had to stop grops this evening knocking on elderly neighbours doors.


0hT00dles · 31/10/2018 20:48

I always have sweets for babies. Safe stuff for them to eat. I don’t see the issue with you trick or treating with him.

I had my two dd’s our tonight- dd1 is 4 and dd2 is 9 months. People kept giving sweets for dd2 and I kept telling them she didn’t need them but they were insistent. She was only out with us as the two outfits went together and as we’re in Dublin, it’s manic and my dh was manning the door.

I wouldn’t dare pass comment as let’s be honest, I usually end up throwing most of the sweets away or popping them in a sweet jar for guests. Dd1 eats what she wants, and dd2 will try and rob stuff now


SummerGems · 31/10/2018 20:48

Get a grip.

My house isn’t decorated, never is. Man came knocking on the door with little kids at around 8:00 shouting to “open the fucking door.” When I declined he called me a cunt.

It’s begging and ought to be banned. Yes, I am well aware that some people go only to decorated houses, but too many don’t to make this a recognised bit of fun.


ProfessorMoody · 31/10/2018 20:50

SummerGems - I think it's you who needs a grip. That's not normal. You do realise that?


HellenaHandbasket · 31/10/2018 20:51

Sounds a bit curt. But I would have assumed the sweets were for you, why on earth would anyone collect sweets for a 1 yr old?


SummerGems · 31/10/2018 20:52

Actually I think it is very normal. There are a number of kids who maybe go out with a parent before about 6 PM, anything after that and over the age of five is begging. And if you think that it’s ok to call someone a cunt because they don’t open the door then I pity your children.


Celebelly · 31/10/2018 20:53

The kind of people who bang on doors swearing and call people cunts are going to do that regardless. I think people like that are in the minority (I can't imagine anyone around where we live behaving like that, especially in front of children!). I've never in my life lived anywhere where people have behaved like that, and I've lived in a lot of places!


ShesABelter · 31/10/2018 20:53

It's ridiculous collecting sweets for a one year old that you then eat. Pretty crap when that could of went to another kid before they ran out.


SummerGems · 31/10/2018 20:53

This man had small children with him BT’w, no doubt he’s raising them in his own image.

Story in the yorkshire evening post about a guide dog owner being attacked with fireworks in Hyde park this week as well.

Bit of fun my arse.


CurryAndCobra · 31/10/2018 20:55

cant you just go to a shop and buy some sweets for yourself? Why beg?


Cachailleacha · 31/10/2018 20:55

I wouldn't take sweets for a baby.


SummerGems · 31/10/2018 20:56

Celebelly we’ve never had any round here either and I’ve lived here for six years. We’ve had teenagers round at previous address though,and parents friend had some kind of acid poured all over his car. Not rough areas at all.

The fact that people do talk about it regularly and do shut their doors and not let people in is testament to the fact that intimidation is a lot more common than people like to admit.


ShesABelter · 31/10/2018 20:57

Summergems anyone over the five is begging? Don't talk shit. I made up 130 bags of sweets. My children didn't even get 10% of that from what they got.. if it were begging we'd of sat in the house and ate what I bought! It's fun and it's only miserable buggers who don't take part who says it's begging.

We only go to decorated doors and door with pumpkin. You don't even take part and want it banned for the million of people who enjoy it, get a grip yourself!

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