To think she was rude! Trick or Treating, am I a CF?

We always had school dances at the end of the year too. 6th year leavers were responsible for setting the theme and doing the decorations. Was great fun just a 'disco' but always well attended by pupils and teachers alike.
No different from proms really but without the expectations of costly prom dresses and limos you hear about now. (Not that i have noticed limos at ds's school so maybe its not such a big deal round here 😀)

I always say we only have guisers at our house and most of them do have a song or a joke even if they dont volunteer it till asked but for those who dont i still give them sweets why wouldnt i? Kids having fun how dare they! Not everything new is 'bad'.
Its just a great night, community spirit, lots of lovely costumes and houses decorated. Its a lovely thing to do when the nights are drawing in.

You’ve say he’s veggie and dairy free but you are eating this and breastfeeding? Do you not know this then passes through your breast milk? 🙄

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Fair enough! Seems I was unreasonable then. I'm happy to accept that.

Yes, I did mainly take the sweets for myself because most of them weren't suitable for my DS. But he's had the ones he could eat. Me and DH have eaten all the chocs, Haribo etc

Although I still think it was odd of her to be so peeved off by me. By the end of our walk around, people were telling us all to take a handful since they had so many left.

We left a bowl out of last year's sweets that we forgot to hand out. They were all gone too when we got back


😂 so obviously you were being unreasonable.
You freely admit you were collecting sweets for a child to not eat. You chose them and chose things he couldn’t eat, so you and you husband could eat them. She was right. You are rude.
And you left out sweets which were over a year old and therefore most likely out of date, also rude.

Yes. I think she was rude. The 1 year old was obviously enjoying taking part. Did she really not expect to put something in his bucket? What should she have done otherwise?

@rtmwales I did trick and treating as a kid and I am in my 30s!

I am in my late 30s.

I went trick or treating as a child in England. With my friends.

We would make a Guy for the bonfire with the Halloween pumpkin for the head and we would do penny for the Guy. And ran around chumping for wood to make the bonfire.

We were also mischievous on mischievous night. Nov 4th. We would cover cars in shaving foam, change the dates of events on the community notice board, egg houses, knock on doors and run away, raid on other peoples bonfires.

Then we would have a bonfire in the field on the 5th, burn the Guy nd let off fireworks.

Maybe we were little shits, I don’t know.

Tessabelle nail on the head.

I didn't just select sweets he couldn't eat. I looked for something he could have, and if there was anything, he got it. If they only had for example haribo and chocolate, I took some of that for myself. I wouldn't have done so if there were a suitable option for him!

He is one! No sweets at all are suitable. I would have given one token sweet at the end and left it at that. You didn’t need to collect for him at all.

He is one! No sweets at all are suitable.

Oh go away! If OP wants to give her kid sweets (whatever suitable means to her) then that's her choice.

Oh go away! If OP wants to give her kid sweets (whatever suitable means to her) then that's her choice.

But she didn’t though. She wanted to eat them which is the point of this thread!

I've four kids and until they turn 3 or 4 we never took them trick or treating, whethr their outfits were bog standard or not lol. Just because he had a nice outfit that doesn't mean you should get sweets for it lol.

You were joining in just by being dressed up and going out with the kids, you didn't need to collect for the baby (or you). The sweets are strictly for the kids who can knock and say Trick or Treat! ;-) x

Blimey, so many elements of the celebration of Hallowe'en have been completely lost en route from the US to the UK.

The candy is not a reward for making an effort.
The candy is not dished out only to those the door-answerer considers deserving or appropriate.
The candy could all be thrown out for all anyone knows, once the recipients get home.
The candy could equally all be scarfed by the parents or the dog and this doesn't matter either.

This is because the point is not the fecking candy, people.

Yes, candy is heavily involved, but it's the fun, the community, and once again, the fun that matters. The fact that young and old dress up and traipse around the neighbourhood meeting and greeting neighbours. It is the Unclenching.

The number one element to remember is that preoccupation with the concepts of deserving vs. undeserving, and appropriate vs. inappropriate - and strictness about rules in general - is not a part of Hallowe'en.

Unless you were grabbing a handful, IMO it was the height of bad manners to call you out on this. Did you ask for her opinion? I do dress up too, and although I don't take sweets for myself, a lot of households ask if I'd like one. Whatever the protocol, there is something seriously messed up about a person who stands around curtain twitching to see who eats what.

Is he vegetarian because he has an allergy to meat? I assume it’s not a ethical choice as you and DP are happy to eat haribo and he’s not old enough to make such a decision. Just asking because I’m curious, I’ve never heard of needing to be veggie due to an intolerance but I’m not very glued up in that area. Is an allergy to meat something that often goes hand in hand with an allergy to dairy?

Google PKU mynew it is a condition where children from birth need to avoid dairy and meat. There are other similar conditions with an inability to digest protein.