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to ask how many of you actually dress up nicely in bed

215 replies

Cringing123 · 22/10/2018 21:12

When you are having sex with your partner?

I’m doing an informal survey on behalf of my twat of a husband who told me that the attached pyjama bottoms are not sexy enough bedtime attire for me to wear for when I get in to bed, on the off chance that we may have sex (we are ttc so that’s happening more regularly than normal at the moment)

Am I unreasonable to wear something like this before bed or even god forbid, TO bed, when i know intercourse is on the cards?

to ask how many of you actually dress up nicely in bed
OP posts:
Dontfeellikeaskeleton · 22/10/2018 21:14

I'd be sleeping with someone else tbh

Justmuddlingalong · 22/10/2018 21:14

I'd use those as a method of contraception. But I see you're trying to conceive, so...

hidinginthenightgarden · 22/10/2018 21:15

If I know we are going to have sex I don't put anything on. I can't be arsed taking it off again!

WhiteCoyote · 22/10/2018 21:15

No point it ends up on the floor after 2.5 seconds Wink

What’s your husband wearing to bed that’s sexy for you? He should be putting in the effort too!

Iamtheoneandonly2018 · 22/10/2018 21:15

Where can I get a pair of those? 😅🤣😂

Nopuns · 22/10/2018 21:15

Meh , it's not like you have sex in them . I want to know what your OH wears , is that sexy ?

WishUponAStar88 · 22/10/2018 21:15

I don’t generally wear pjs but when I do they’re very similar to yours! I agree it sounds like he’s being a twat. Does he dress up for bed? Doubt it.

UnRavellingFast · 22/10/2018 21:16

When I was with ex, who treated me quite badly, to be fair to him on this point, he would have fancied me in whatever I wore and I always wore comfortable stuff to bed. To demand you dress up is not in the spirit of a loving rs imo.

user1471459936 · 22/10/2018 21:16

First child conceived whilst wearing stockings, suspenders, high heels.... Second child - big pants and towelling dressing gown. Make the most of it!

VictoriaBun · 22/10/2018 21:17

How about you make a hole in a seam, then you don't even have to bother with taking them off !

leccybill · 22/10/2018 21:17

Certainly don't 'dress sexy' for bed. Usually remove PJ bottoms (get too hot) and just wear normal cotton nightie.

ShirleyPhallus · 22/10/2018 21:17

I find that if I wear pyjamas during intercourse it makes it really quite difficult to actually get the cock in

Verbena87 · 22/10/2018 21:17

I don’t dress up but do sleep naked (though slightly feral bush probably counts as a garment by this stage of the autumn Blush ). Wear similar pjs for slouching around the house in the evening/early mornings though. They’re fine.

Lozxx · 22/10/2018 21:18

I think this is crazy, since when do men feel it's ok to tell women what to wear in bed. I love comfy baggy pjs

Faster · 22/10/2018 21:19

If you took scissors to them you could make them crotchless pj bottoms? Would that help him get it up? Fuck that.

bichonbaby · 22/10/2018 21:20

Wear what ever I like, old nightie and big pants usually! The days of dressing up are long gone!

NonaGrey · 22/10/2018 21:20

Any man who told me how I should dress for him in bed (or anywhere else) would be sleeping in the spare room.

Possibly the shed.

Whereisthecoffee · 22/10/2018 21:20

It’s not about the clothes! For me and d.p it’s far more relaxed and natural when we are laughing and enjoying eachothers company sat in pjamas!

LokiBear · 22/10/2018 21:20

My dh counts himself lucky if I take my bright pink fluffy pj top off at all! Grin Tell your dh that you want to see him dress up for you first, then you will consider it. I feel for you with the hell that is TTC sex. (Lighthearted) FlowersCake

ContessaGoesAMarching · 22/10/2018 21:21

Every man I've ever slept with all 3 of them has not cared what I wore in bed as it gets removed pretty swiftly anyway....

Getoffthetableplease · 22/10/2018 21:21

In the very early stages of living with an ex I made a huge effort every night. He was a cock though, grade A nobhead and once we split I vowed to myself to be myself in future relationships. Sometimes it's nice to dress up, but 99.9% of the time ESPECIALLY on a cold Monday night in October it's fine to just be comfy in whatever you want to wear. Crude but they aren't going to stay on throughout are they, what does it matter. Ugh, wear what you want, he's a tool if he's making you feel crap for otherwise x

MapMyMum · 22/10/2018 21:21

Tell him you'll wear something more appealing if he wears a full, nicely fitted suit to bed every night sex is expected - one of the sexiest things a man can wear so he's putting the effort in too. Id rather procreate with someone less twattish tbh, he sounds a right catch

Rednaxela · 22/10/2018 21:22

OH could nip down Primark get you a few new pairs more to his liking?!

He sounds a bit weird. Does he normally pass comment on what you wear? Red flag tbh

cheesefield · 22/10/2018 21:22

Get yourself a Batman onesie from primark.

Justmuddlingalong · 22/10/2018 21:23

They're grand for lounging about, but if sex is more frequent, why would you not whip them off before getting into bed?