to ask how many of you actually dress up nicely in bed

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When you are having sex with your partner?

I’m doing an informal survey on behalf of my twat of a husband who told me that the attached pyjama bottoms are not sexy enough bedtime attire for me to wear for when I get in to bed, on the off chance that we may have sex (we are ttc so that’s happening more regularly than normal at the moment)

Am I unreasonable to wear something like this before bed or even god forbid, TO bed, when i know intercourse is on the cards?

I disagree with a previous poster it being a red flag. Men have a preference and an opinion, same as women do.
It’s down to the partner weather she takes on board, or not give a toss on his opinion.

I wear pyjamas at night most of the time... but if it’s sexy time i don’t rock up to bed in my pyjamas, mainly because I don’t feel exactly attractive in them and then it just kills it for me

I wear similar pyjamas to lounge around the house before bed... but only sleep in an oversized tee shirt if cold otherwise in the buff (90%) of the time. My DP has never commented on what I wear to bed, but sometimes I do surprise him with some sexy lingerie.

I'm torn.

I do see his point that wearing comfy slouch pyjamas aren't exactly mood enhancing. I don't know about anyone else but I do think that it's harder to feel up for it when I've been lounging around in my comfy clothes all day/evening so think he might have a point on this.

He says he wants it to be spontaneous, is that as in ooh look I want expecting sex or is it 'look don't tell me when you're playing or only be after it more for 3 days a month'. Again, if it's the second then he has a point.

Personally, I'm a fan of nicer pyjamas sort of lounge clothes (I think that's what they're called). Nice camis, comfy bottoms but are quite pretty.

• when you're ovulating

They're lovely compared to most of my pyjamas 😂

The ones I'm wearing now are at least 5 years old but they're Frost French ones and they're so god damn comfy!!

If I'm up for sex I go to bed naked. It's like his signal that he can try his luck.
Honestly though my husband is so sex starved he wouldn't give a shit what my pjs looked like

Is it a good idea to be ttc with this bloke? He can’t get an erection if you wear your pjs, and you’re arguing about what you wear to ttc... does he want to ttc?

Couldn't give a flying duck what the other person was wearing. When we're up for it neither of us care whether the other person is in a Kermit the Frog costume (or Miss Piggy for that matter).

*fuck!

I agree they're not sexy, but surely, er what's underneath is to him?

Sounds as if he's feeling under pressure to perform.

I tend to wear a bin liner. DH says he'd fancy me wearing anything, including a bin liner.

Honestly, I'd change the DH if I were you, he sounds like an entitled twat saying something like that to you. Definitely don't ttc while he has an attitude like that, it won't improve. Sorry.

I don't wear anything but knickers and maybe a strappy vest to bed OP so I'm probably on his side.

PJs like that give me nightmares 😬

I mean c'mon... even for Pjs Op they're pretty past it. Invest in new warmer bedding and skimp down on the nightwear. It's sooo much comfier to sleep in so much less.

I remember back in the early days dh (to be) asked me if I always wore my socks while dtd.

I just curtly replied 'yes!?'

He's still around and I even sometimes take my socks off. 

Taking away from the sex thing for a moment, can you actually sleep in them?. I'm 49 and haven't owned pyjamas since I was a child. I simply couldn't sleep in that much material. I wear thin shorts and a cami or knickers and a vest. I just can't imagine sleeping in all that material. Do you not get too hot?

But yes, to answer the question, I'd say they were the modern day equivalent of a Chasity belt and designed for lounging not sleeping.

I remember back in the early days dh (to be) asked me if I always wore my socks while dtd. I just curtly replied 'yes!?'

Well clearly it floats his boat but no way I'd shag a bloke wearing his socks. I can't imagine it's much different for a male to be honest. 🤣

Ugh, you actually want to have a baby with this prick?

If he’s feeling emasculated by his erectile problems, taking it out on you by accusing you of being unfemine/unsexy is a pretty shitty thing to do.

I must have dated a very unusual subset of men - none of them have ever shown the slightest interest in sexy clothes (interest in which many people would have me believe is "normal" for men). My various partners have only been interested in how quickly they could remove them to get me naked - which is the normal state of dress, or rather undress, in which to have sex, in my experience .

Maybe swap out for a pair of fluffy socks and a nightdress?

I dunno, I'd compromise a bit.

What’s your husband wearing that’s so attractive? Or is he ‘a man’ so he doesn’t need to? This is such a blessing for you because you could have actually ended up tied to this loser but now you don’t need to be. Please move on from this utter twat.

Ugh is be thinking twice before continuing to ttc with a neanderthal like that op

*i'd

I wouldn't want to sleep with myself in those, never mind anything else.

Tell him your pyjama bottoms are far sexier than his insecurity, which is a huge turn-off in my eyes.

Guys I have sex with really don't care what I wear, because whatever I where I won't be wearing it for long when I get busy. I'll never see the point of dressing up when the goal is to take it all off anyway, among other things.

I honestly thought most adults slept naked unless it’s super cold. I have PJs and I love them but I wear them before bed and before getting properly dressed.

So I was a bit surprised that OP puts PJs back on after sex or not sex.