to ask how many of you actually dress up nicely in bed

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When you are having sex with your partner?

I’m doing an informal survey on behalf of my twat of a husband who told me that the attached pyjama bottoms are not sexy enough bedtime attire for me to wear for when I get in to bed, on the off chance that we may have sex (we are ttc so that’s happening more regularly than normal at the moment)

Am I unreasonable to wear something like this before bed or even god forbid, TO bed, when i know intercourse is on the cards?

I wear my mohair jammy bottoms throughout the winter. ( translated into really hairy non shaved winter legs n twat) never any complaints from DH..kinky bugger!

I think it's nice to make the effort tbh. I'd be upset if I didn't want to be bothered anymore. But I have pj's like this that I wear a lot too.
It has to be both ways though, it's a waste of time making the effort for someone who doesn't give a shit.

Well they do look a bit "passion killer"

Im quite a visual person, maybe your husband is too.

I remember dating a guy years ago who wore huge white y-fronts. I just couldn't get past that. & Another who wore wide boxer shorts... It was no wonder his balls were hanging down almost to his kneecaps.

I like to wear nice lingerie in general, and in bed. Sometimes, certainly not all the time. It's almost long nightie weather now isnt it?😁

It's not that serious though is it? Why can't he just shut up and take them off? Mind you Im wondering how you can wear those in bed anyway, aren't you boiling...

We both sleep naked anyways

i also sleep with my legs hanging out

Op. Probably because they are too hot?

I'm finding the "Oh I didn't think ADULTS wore pyjamas" comments a bit weird tbh. Have you all seen the vast arrays of nightwear in M&S, Primark, Debenhams etc? Are all such items meant to be removed at bedtime? I've never heard such a thing

ContessaGoesAMarching
I agree.
Though I think there is a difference between some pyjamas and more comfy lounge wear (I've got some comfy pyjamas like clothes that I wear around the house but wouldn't sleep in).

I find the whole lounge wear/house wear thing odd tbh! Never done that.

But then I’m a PJs in bed person so I’m obv very odd. In my defence, I have v nice PJs

Ah, so he's blaming his poor sexual performance on your pj bottoms? Makes sense. Lol. Fwiw, I wear enormous, baggy, unattractive pjs to bed and my DH has absolutely no trouble - he'd dtd every night if I was up for it. The pjs are not the problem!

What does he wear to bed, to dress nicely for you?

Remember the Christina song 'Dirty'. Watch the video on you tube. Cut the are our of those pyjamas and turn them into chaps. I think she wore a string bikini with it. That might do it.

Those look like coat pyjamas, I like them.

He'd probably be wearing my fist 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

Personally wear nothing to bed, occasionally a pair of shorts and a vest top but I've never dressed up for bed time. I'm sexy enough 🙄🙄😂

How old is your DH? If my DH said to me that my lack of sexy underwear was a reason he wasn't getting 'arroused' and just tilt my head and say;

'Babe maybe you need to go to the Dr, erectyle dysfunction is common in men your age. There's nothing to be ashamed of'

Cheeky twat!

Can you avoid the problem by shagging as soon as DC is asleep?

Well they are sexier than my pjs, but with a toddler my OH is just delighted we manage to have the energy to have sex at all! I do have some sexy nightwear somewhere... at the back of a drawer gathering dust, dating from our honeymoon.
Also, the socks thing, I've def read that they help orgasm. Maybe you should buy DH some fluffy socks to help him along?

She's not said he can't get aroused. I really can't see why people are jumping to th conclusion he has erectile dysfunction because he said her pyjamas weren't sexy.

And I'm one that's confused people actually sleep in the array of pyjamas you see in shops. I thought they were for house wear. Folks are always posting on here about how they get home and put their pyjamas on immediately and dressing gowns also.

I'd sweat profusely if I tried to sleep in those, and would. feel like I'd gone to bed dressed. But I get that people do actually wear full on pyjamas to sleep in.

Pyjamas aren't meant to be sexy. No one is wearing something sexy all the time on the off chance of having sex, surely?! It's nice to dress up sometimes but not all the time. I'm wearing my fluffy Disney pjs to sleep in at the moment because its getting bloody cold. I don't remember TTC sex being particularly sexy either anyway regardless of what either of us wore.

Neither of us has worn anything in bed since way before we were married, but IF we were to have been habitual PJ wearers, I'm danmed sure that birthday suits would have been the order of the day (or night) if horizontal jogging had been anticapated, especially if when TTC. DH concurs!

I’ve asked DH about me dressing sexy, and he says he doesn’t see the point because he just likes me getting naked so it doesn’t matter what I’m wearing in the first place.

They look abit warm for me but I wear pj pants and a vest every night!
I can't sleep naked I feel like I stick together and sexy stuffs not really comfy is it. My OH probably hates me

A cami set in silk is a good bet - feels comfy looks sexy to a horny bloke - win win ! Happy babymaking !

If your intercourse is on a schedule, then I guess you could plan to put on something else :)

On the other hand, don't know what difference it makes seeing as it's all going to come off anyway ;)

Reads the comments about adults sleeping naked. Looks at my huge pile of pyjamas. Rethinks my whole existence.

I hate sleeping naked, its cold, sticky and uncomfortable!

Sure the pyjamas might not turn him on, but you take them off and then get in the mood? Not like he's going to be stuck picturing you in the pjs when your naked breasts are in front of him...

I find a blow job works wonders in distracting mine from what I'm wearing.

I don't dress up. I wear mid thigh, small straps silky nighties with no underwear on mainly. Because that's what I like to sleep in. And generally every Christmas DH buys me a lovely ted baker one as a treat.

DH for some unfathomable reason fancies the pants off me (literally). He even kept pawing at me when I was in a hospital gown the other day 😂 he doesn't care, I do have fluffy warm PJ's, cotton on sets I wear if I'm feeling a bit cold or under the weather, he still is up for it, and will pull at my bottoms and quite enjoys all the buttons haha!

I think this is your DP's problems not yours. Wear what your comfortable in. You have to sleep in it!