to ask how many of you actually dress up nicely in bed

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When you are having sex with your partner?

I’m doing an informal survey on behalf of my twat of a husband who told me that the attached pyjama bottoms are not sexy enough bedtime attire for me to wear for when I get in to bed, on the off chance that we may have sex (we are ttc so that’s happening more regularly than normal at the moment)

Am I unreasonable to wear something like this before bed or even god forbid, TO bed, when i know intercourse is on the cards?

"Is your bedroom cold or your bed coverings thin?"

I feel the cold, like lots of people do. It's true that I haven't put my winter duvet on yet, but that doesn't change much because the bed jacket is mainly for my shoulders, which are not completely covered by my duvet.

I wear a t-shirt or nothing.

I don't wear anything. Pants sometimes when necessary.

Horses for courses though - sleep in whatever you're comfortable in!

I'm usually naked in bed, but also have some Joseph silk PJ bottoms (quite tactile), and Joseph cotton vests that I wear if we are away.
He's usually more interested in stripping me off when I'm in PJs, than bothering when I'm naked.
Weirdo!

I sleep naked but if not wear similar and DP doesn't care as he thinks IM sexy... not what I'm wearing

Buy a nightie with a fur hem. At least it will keep your neck warm :)

Thanks for your responses

Right I’ve been shopping today and invested in some underwear (not too risqué, but modern, lacy and, well, new).
2 long night dresses - although it took about half an hour trying to find something that didn’t have a picture of a unicorn on it or cheesy slogans like “sleep well, dream big”. Ironically there was one that simply had “sexy” written across it and I was very close to buying it 😂

I also bought a cami and some non-polkadot leggings . I’ve been wearing these since 7pm tonight and DH has not batted an eyelid.

Never!

They don't seem to do proper nighties anymore, do they? Ones without 'hilarious' slogans on. There's M&S, of course, but even I balk at those.

Sounds like you've done well, op - non-polka-dotty leggings, how can he resist?!

Struggling with this whole 'she'll be cold" thing. I roast in bed. I go to bed naked and throw all the covers off and have the window open, with the bedroom door open so as to have extra draught from the landing window, which is also open. DP insists on having two duvets and a blanket, and grumbles about the draught from the windows. I sleep on top of all his duvets and blankets. If I wore pyjamas (which, btw, I have never owned, as I like my foof to breathe in bed), I'd die of heat.

Maybe a few times a year , usually if we have a night away just the 2 of us. OH is very partial to me wearing a basque with stockings and suspenders , it's worth it to see the smile on his face

DP was all over me on Sunday night, we both had PJs on we had had on all day, after lounging around hungover all day, and I had definitely probably slopped food on mine. Tbf the only thing that would turn him off was a lack of pulse probably [lighthearted]

I would say you agree and after thinking about it, the attached DH needs to go because he is not kind, caring, considerate or sexy enough to even be in my bed never mind raising my children!

"Struggling with this whole 'she'll be cold" thing. I roast in bed."

Not everyone is like you. Even your DH is not like you.
I had PJs and bed socks last night, still had really cold shoulders this morning and had to keep pulling the duvet up to my chin.

If you sleep naked on top of the bed with no covers and all the windows and doors open all night in the uK in October .......then I suggest you see your doctor . Because you clearly have some health problem.

@ladyhooha please tell me you live in Mexico or Barbados or somewhere?!!

@Rigamorph Ha ha. No - the frozen wastelands of Northern England! I am perimenopausal, which might explain some of it - but I've always tended to feel a bit on the hot side.

@Olga I really don't think it's a health problem. I think it's just the way I'm made, with a bit of perimenopause thrown in for good measure.

If you are perimenopausal then you probably do use a cover for part of the night and throw it off when you are hot. Which isn’t the same.

Just asked my OH what he thinks of my floor length nighty. It's a resounding woof woof from him. Tbf we're not ttc.

I settled on two XXXL mens crew neck tshirts from Next lastnight (2 for £10) as my new 'go to' slob about nighties. They'll be comfy. And huge. And look quite sexy when my hair is long enough to stick in a messy bun again of a morning 😁 in a 90's "look darling! I just decorated the nursery again!" with paint on the end of my nose sort of way.

Yes very often. I love my expensive lingerie. My DP often gets me Anne Summers gifts

I really like www.charlotteandco.co.uk/

I wear very similar to you. With often his old tshirts which are abit baggy on me...

He doesn't care what i wear, which is one of the reasons i love him

I had a lot of nice nighties and things before we had dts. Now it's all about warmth for when we have a to get up with them in the night. Tonight I'm wearing tracksuit bottoms and an old brewery t shirt as ds threw up over my pj's. I have added an old cardie and dh's socks as I've been up with DS for the last hour and I'm cold. DH is also up with DD2. He has on pj's bottoms and a very old Transformers t shirt also with thick socks and a dressing gown. We're too tired for sex though anyway.

I have those pjs!!!  better still mine are god knows how many years old and slightly discoloured too!

Started feeling a bit bad after reading some of these comments..then remembered Dh's scabby boxers and got over it.