...to not know how to respond to this message...

[WigglyBraddins]

...from a "gentleman" with whom I had a recent liaison?

"Urgh, this is horrible for me, and for you, and it could well sour things and I would hate myself if it did. But, I have to be honest. I said you were not my normal type, physically, and that is very true. I am really attracted to slim women, I can't help it and have tried before, with it not getting very far. I completely accept that circumstances and free time dictate how we are able to shape ourselves. I understand if you are hurt by this, and trust me I hate it having to be a thing. I hate the idea of men dictating to a woman what they should look like, and I am not telling you to do anything. I am just saying, in the past at least, this issue has got in the way. If you did feel like meeting me in the middle on this then I am realistic and not as demanding as you might initially think. As I say I totally understand that your circumstances and how they are not exactly kind in this respect. There are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe. Urgh, I am so sorry, I know how this issue can really fuck women up but as I say I can't help what I like, but I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not. Urgh urgh."

Suggestions for an appropriate response would be very much appreciated.

I would text back.

Urgh, no wonder you're still single

Absolutely, utterly don't reply. It opens up a 'discussion.' Don't even dignify him by telling him to fuck off.
I mean realistically I'd love to send a response back saying 'OMG I'm so glad you messaged me. I was worried that you were paranoid about the size of your cock. I know people say size doesn't matter but we both know it does. I know there's other ways you could pleasure me but I am used to having multiple orgasms through penetration. I'm sure we could meet in the middle and work on your technique in order to compensate for your lack of girth. Crikey I hope you don't mind me mentioning it, I know men have issues with the size of their winkie but I just felt I had to say something. I know what I like...'

🤷🏻‍♀️

But best say nowt 😘

Reminded me of this

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.littlethings.com/michelle-tinder-date-text/amp/

Don't even reply. Or do what the lady did in the article and send a great response ! Even copy and paste hers if you must. Shut him up for good.

@Joey7t8 It doesn't matter if he is, its about making him doubt himself like he tried to with the OP ;)

@nononsene

Actually yeah, this wins for me. Short, to the point and doesn't give him the satisfaction of thinking he's elicited an emotional response or has any power over your self esteem.

It makes my flesh crawl that there are people out there that think this is acceptable behaviour.

Reply. "1/10". You could be referring to his message or the shag. It'll bug him. But send no further replies, even if he does.

@longtompot the best way to make him doubt himself is to not respond at all. If he thinks that the OP gives a fuck, it validates him and gives an ego boost.

I love the very first suggestion from nothanksbyenow

I'm not sure what kind of response you're hoping to get, but I'm honestly glad you feel comfortable enough to be so open with me about this.
I did think something was up [last night] but couldn't quite put my finger on it so passed it off as you being nervous or inexperienced. It's a relief to know that this is the reason it was so lacklustre. I thought perhaps it was a communication thing, or even a lack of connection: I was worried that moving forward sex would always be disappointing.
I think I understand what you're alluding to, there's certainly some physical downsides on your side we should address too - what do you think is the best way to move forward?

Cannot wait to hear more!

I'm hoping that was just realistic enough to give him some serious hang ups about himself.

Then block.

"Have you seen yourself in the mirror?"

I bet he's not Brad Pitt exactly.

While it might be satisfying to allude to his micro penis I wouldn’t stoop to his level.
I’d just be honest and reply something like ‘Well this is awkward! Since my bmi is perfectly healthy for my height I’m not willing to risk my health to satisfy the fetish of someone I barely know and am not that into! As a bit of advice - if you do find someone attractively underweight enough for you I’d maybe wait a bit longer before messaging them with any of your strange demands. It makes you seem a little deranged. All the best for the future’.

Gosh what a cock womble he is!!

Agree with others that it's been written in an incredibly patronising tone and it's whole purpose is to 'neg' you.

He must be a woman hating, misogynistic little twat.

I think I would not reply at all, but I'd probably cause him some mischief in some way using his phone/ email.
Possibly to sign him up to some sites... 

At 5'9 a size 12 is no way overweight by the way!! I bet he was of course every bit the perfect Ken doll was he?!

I think "I choose cake" is best!
Or, make it even more non-committal with a breezy
'Sorry, but my heart belongs to cakes"

I wouldn't send anything. He obviously has such an inflated ego that he thinks his opinion matters to you. Ignoring-totally-and blocking with not a word gives him no satisfaction. No upset or anger from you, no ego boost for him. However you answer, it looks like you give a shit. If you don't answer he gets nothing.

LOL I wouldn;t say there are zero red flags. From my point of view there's red bunting all over the shop. Goodbye.

"Oh how sweet, you think your opinion matters"

'I am genuinely embarrassed for you.'

This ^^

I'm going to be really disappointed if you don't say "I choose cake"

I vote for ignore or breezy bye.

He's probably posting what he's done on an MRA website anyway, and they're all enjoying how burning his neg was (or some such shit - I don't know/care how they talk).

Just block, delete, no contact.

"Go fuck your inflatable friend then" or the classic "lol k bye".

But really, I'm a total fan of 'I choose cake'.

And what a fucking awful attempt as gaslighting neggy bollocks! Fucksake! I'm constantly amazed these menchildren and their crap still exist. Don't waste another second of your precious time on him.

Tell him only if he bleaches his hair blonde or similar and say that’s the only ‘red flag’ for you. What a complete tosser. Or maybe he can get a personality transplant somewhere