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Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

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fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 13:07

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting! Confused

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

OP posts:
marvellousnightforamooncup · 09/10/2018 13:09

I try to forget most of mine.

TwitchingEye · 09/10/2018 13:09

I think that is very highShock

I have 3 and am nearly 50

Mabelface · 09/10/2018 13:09

Nah. I'm the same. Past is past and I don't actually care now.

chestylarue52 · 09/10/2018 13:10

I have no idea. It’s a lot tho. I’m neither happy nor sad about it - it is what it is!

ihatethecold · 09/10/2018 13:11

loads for me. don't know the exact amount and I don't really care either. been with the same person for 20 years now (faithfully) so I cant see why it matters

PinkHeart5914 · 09/10/2018 13:11

I honestly think if someone can’t remember either you’ve had some truly bad sex or you’ve had too many partners tbh

Yes I think 30-50 is rather on the high side........

Presumably you didn’t care when shagging all these people, so why care now 🤷🏻‍♀️ Stop with the I shagged list already

CuppaTeaAndAJammieDodger · 09/10/2018 13:11

Yup OP, I'm with ya. Haven't got a clue but estimate around your number too.

Who gets to say what's too few/enough/many anyway?

hidinginthenightgarden · 09/10/2018 13:11

I mine is ten but I have been with DH since I was 19. If I had been single up to mid-late 20s it probably would be much higher.

RedPanda2 · 09/10/2018 13:12

Loads, men & women. God I loved my twenties

RedPanda2 · 09/10/2018 13:13

Judgemental much, PinkHeart5914

Racecardriver · 09/10/2018 13:13

It deiends doesn't it. If you have spent ten years single then it's really not that much is it?

DroningOn · 09/10/2018 13:13

Definitely not an issue.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 09/10/2018 13:13

I think it’s high, my number is 15? I think?

I don’t actually care either. 1 or 100 it’s really not important.

UserName31456789 · 09/10/2018 13:13

YANBU. It depends so much - if you happen to have been in a few long relationships or met your DH young then naturally your number will be lower. If you were mainly single through your 20s the numbers can wrack up fairly fast.

Doobigetta · 09/10/2018 13:13

It’s not relevant once you’re in a permanent relationship. And how high the number is is fairly closely related to how old you were when you did that. It’s not particularly virtuous (as if anyone cared anyway) to be smug abou having shagged a total of four people if you’ve been with the 4th since you were 17.

WhenIWasAYoungWarthog · 09/10/2018 13:14

I couldn’t guess mine to within the closest ten BlushGrin. It depends whether it was good sex as to whether you think it’s too high or not. I had a couple of fairly ‘lost’ years where I got a real buzz the first time I slept with someone, then got bored. There’s only been one in the last decade though.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 09/10/2018 13:14

That's not high. I've had over 100

Kenworthington · 09/10/2018 13:14

God I slept with loads when I was teen/start of twenties. Prob similar to op. I have no regrets , had a great time at the time but after being with dh for 22 years it’s not something that’s relevant. I don’t even think about it.

zukiecat · 09/10/2018 13:15

I think it's very high

My number is 3 and I think that's high!

I'm 51

flamingnoravera · 09/10/2018 13:15

I cant remember either- my twenties were a blur of sex and drugs and rock and roll. I am now in my 50s and am still living a life of have sex with whom I want, when I want. It is more than 100 though I am pretty sure. And I dont judge myself one little bit.

JellieEllie · 09/10/2018 13:16

Not a clue either. Probably a lot.
From the age of 16-20 I wasn't a saint.
Been settled down though for many years and have only slept with one person in the last 8 years.
Doesn't really matter to me if I'm classed as a slag for that though. When you are young you really don't care how many people you are sleeping with. It's not until later life you start to realise it's not good behaviour to be that way.

AuntBeastie · 09/10/2018 13:17

Who are you hurting, presuming they were all consenting adults and you had safe sex? You can sleep with as many or as few people as you want to, you can keep a black book or forget them instantly - it’s totally up to you and only your business!

liquidrevolution · 09/10/2018 13:17

WhenIWas I had a lost decade... BlushGrin

I haven't a clue. I suspect same as the OP between 50 and 60. DH on the other hand only hand a one night stand before meeting me so we are at opposite ends. He has never asked me how many and frankly it doesn't matter (apart from STIs and I was thoroughly checked just before I met DH).

RonniePickering · 09/10/2018 13:17

I think it's a lot, not in a reach-for-the-smelling-salts manner though.

My younger sister recently told me her number was similar, I was torn between outrage and jealousy Grin

PrimalLass · 09/10/2018 13:18

I can't really remember either.

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