Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

I have no idea how many people I've slept with either, more than ten but less than 25 I think.

It really doesn't matter either way, I only speak to one or two of them still anyway (not including dp)

There's impressive and then there's kinda yuck OP. I'm surprised you want to declare this stat quite so openly

Oh for god sake

There's impressive and then there's kinda yuck OP. I'm surprised you want to declare this stat quite so openly

Hahaha Yuck???

only 1 for me I sometimes wish it was higher! I think at my age 30, I would kind of judge someone for having more than 20 but not in necessarily a bad way, I'd just think you didn't place much importance in sex as for me I would only be able to have sex with someone that I really loved

So can I judge you for only having slept with 1?

Just don't worry. In similar boat, I like to forget certain people and certain situations, past is past. Yes I regret things but would I be where I am today? Who knows!

Couldn't be bothered tocount, but it's definitely in double figures. No I'm fast approaching 70 years old, I wish I'd made it into triple figures. Some good, so great, some meh.

I don't think it is a high number, But then mine is around 33ish (37 years old)
The only thing that freaked me out, is I can't remember all thier names. "the one with the blue hair" "the one in the car " etc!

Well I didn't get married till I was 48 and my relationships up till then never lasted more than a year, so I'd reckon I've had between 30 and 50 sexual partners over those 30 years.
The number of fucks I give if anyone thinks badly of me for this is 0.

I’d struggle to remember tbh. It’s upwards of 20, I know that!

Rightly or wrongly, I judge anyone who has fucked more than 50 people. Whether they're male OR female.

I notice that the people who HAVE shagged multiple dozens of people seem to be very vocal about how proud they are of it, and how they don't give a shit what people think......... Bit odd that they feel they have to state this.

I don't see the people who have shagged just 5 people, saying they don't give a shit what people think. Methinks the people who have shagged multiple dozens of people doth protest too much!

My magic number? Mind yer beeswax. Defo a LOT less than bloody 40 to 50 though!

I’m somewhere between 7 and 11sh, couldn’t tell you exactly how many. I don’t think it matters to adults does it? I imagine people who don’t really know are not the minority. It’s not like I have slept with loads of people I just never understood the importance of knowing the exact number

Rightly or wrongly, I judge anyone who has fucked more than 50 people. Whether they're male OR female

Why? Why are you superior or inferior based on your number of sexual partners?

I notice that the people who HAVE shagged multiple dozens of people seem to be very vocal about how proud they are of it, and how they don't give a shit what people think......... Bit odd that they feel they have to state this

Because we live in a puritanical society with some really weird ideas about sex and promiscuity, and most people who’ve shagged more rather than fewer partners will have internalised that judgment or experienced it from others at points in their lives.

Hope that helps.

The stigma for women having multiple partners is still very real. A man might talk with pride about having had many partners, but women are still labeled "slut" for doing the same thing. If we lived in a society where it truly doesn't matter then this post would not exist.

You, Summer, would also not be judging anyone for how many partners anyone has had, whether it be 50 or 300.

thisneverendingsummer

They're saying they don't give a shit to put people like you in your place. What the fuck has it got to do with you anyway? What makes you think anybody cares about your judgement?

I can only remember 11 but I thought it was higher. I have been with my husband for 17 years so they were a long time ago now.

Who genuinely gives a fuck how many people others have shagged, whether it's 1 or 100 why does so someone else's sex life matter. It's not 'yuck' or judgeworthy.

I do remember the exceptionally good however, but they can be counted on the fingers of one hand

My truly exceptional can be counted on the finger of one finger

If you're reading this, you know who you are

Who cares, really?

I have a rather traditional view of the world, and even I can see that this is a feminist issue. Have sex as you see fit.

When I think of it, I should probably care that I have only had sex with one man. I should wish I'd had more sexual experiences before I met him but I just don't care. The truth is I was too self concious to have sex until I was 22 and that is when I met my husband and I have been in love with him ever since. So its a moot point - I'd never risk my family by being unfaithful so thats that.

1 or 1000 really doesnt matter after all does it?

52 is just one good year. If you’ve been shagging for a while it’s not loads.

No idea here either. Don’t really think about it.

Mines somewhere between 25-30(5 maybe?)

I don’t remember either, but I loved my teens. No regrets, I feel far more satisfied at the fact I’ll be saying ‘I do’ soon, knowing I’ve tested a few of the fish in the sea.

No such thing as too little or too much, if you’re happy with it! And if you’re not then just count the people that were good

52 is just one good year.

I can't remember. It's probably 10-20 but I have no interest in thinking about it anymore!

I am glad I have had more partners, because my initial sexual encounters were really awkward. I wasn't sure what I liked or how to communicate them to a partner or figure out what my partner liked.

Communication got much better with experience and to me it's key to satifying sexual encounters. Picking partners who had similar desires to my own was in the beginning also tricky and it has let to a few mutual disappointments and generally feeling like it was a waste of time. However, through your mistakes you learn.

For me satisfying sex was definitely a learning curve.

@thisneverendingsummer there's always going to be 'I'm high & mighty judge-y pants' like you around.
To be fair people like myself actually don't give a flying fuckety fuck what folk like you think & that's why we say we don't erm actually give a fuck. People are different. Respect people's different views, Some people are more / less sexual than others. sexual encounters are part of life & part of finding out whom & what you like, it's human nature. Just like you liked shagging less than 40/50 people I loved fucking probably all 70 of them! Judgemental people like you are so bloody annoying!