Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

I'm 38 and my number is probably about the same as yours op. Been single for six years and I also slept around quite a bit in my late teens early 20s. In fairness I had pretty low self esteem back then and my number is probably higher as a result but these days I prefer fwbs as I just find it easier

It's high but I find most people are very low, or very high so averages are skewed. I know plenty of people on 50-150 (women) and many on 2. I know most of my best male friends have only ever slept with 1 person and I have slept with 10.

It's individual and if you were happy at the time, haven't developed any health issues and had fun then it is really nothing to be ashamed of.

We have nicknames of some of a friend of mines conquests because we can't remember their name.

only 1 for me I sometimes wish it was higher! I think at my age 30, I would kind of judge someone for having more than 20 but not in necessarily a bad way, I'd just think you didn't place much importance in sex as for me I would only be able to have sex with someone that I really loved.
But having said that I wouldn't think you were a bad person or easy or anything like that, just that you view sex differently to me.

Oh, and I haven't counted the women and met DP at 18, so if I hadn't my 10 would have definitely reached at least 30.

@zukiecat that's ridiculous of course 3 isn't high!

For me personally, I'm glad that I experienced varied and numerous sexual encounters before marrying. Extremely happy with my lot now, and feel no shame for my past. Definitely no horror!

The ages 16-20 doesn't count. That's what I'm sticking with anyway. Ok 22.

I don't think it's necessarily bad or unreasonable to have lost count of sexual partners, but I can't imagine being in that situation. DH is my only sexual partner to date, and I didn't meet him until I was 30!

About 30 for me, met dh when I was 32.
There are two I would rather forget but fond memories of the others.

It shocks me that there are people who have only had 1. Oh, the fun I'd have missed out on if I'd stayed with my first. Although he was pretty good , I've had a blast along the way to meeting dh.

Six up to and including DH.

I don't think there can be "too many" or "too few". People have their preferences, even in the world of sexual partners.

I don't have any trouble remembering, as it's only one!

I stopped counting after 10. I don't care how many partners I've had.

My friend and I tried making a list around 10 years ago just for a laugh. Laugh we did because we could barely remember then... I don't care.
I'm in a committed relationship now so my 'number' may never go up but oh the fun I had in my twenties. Wouldn't swap it.

It's hard to forget when it's three and each was a relationship for years and years.

I guess anyone would struggle if they slept with over a certain amount. I don't see it as bad or unreasonable either, but I also wouldn't choose to have sex outside of a LT relationship so I'll never rack up high enough numbers to forget anyone I guess.

The people have been with their one and only and are happy, that's so lovely. I would have loved that to be the case.

40 ish? I'm 34

I wish I'd had enough to forget

I can't remember and I don't really care. My last new sexual partner was 25 years ago and I think there were about half a dozen before him, but I'm not sure.

Gawd I am in my 60s and was a teenager/in my 20s during he 70s before Aids scares. I flat shared in that London and partied every weekend. I have no idea what my life time number is and have forgotten many, many, many of the lucky chaps but probably around the 40 mark .

Age 55 and slept with between 50-60 - most of them in my 20s.
Lost my virginity age 19 and liked it so much I went out and made up for lost time.

It may be higher than average, but that doesn’t equal bad, unless you’re a mysoginist or think sex outside of marriage is wrong!

I don’t know my number either, probably mid - late 20s. I’m never going to regret that, if anything, I regret not experimenting with a few more women as I always saw myself ending up with a woman, but I didn’t, I ended up with a man.

I'm glad I got it out of my system as I'm completely happy with Dh of 7 years and the thought of just sleeping with him forever is actually quite nice!

Off to find refills for my fuck o fax.

Over 200 but less than 300 is my best guess. 55 now and fully enjoyed the days when contraception was easy and AIDS hadn't been heard of

I don't remember exactly.

It's certainly not 30-50 but I don't remember the exact number.

My number is 5 but I've been with dh since I was 21. I think the number would be much higher if I'd met him later!

I just think everyone if different and as long as you’re happy and have no regrets that’s the main thing. I was / am very precious about my body. Didn’t want to share it with someone I don’t love so I’m on a low number. Don’t think there are any rights or wrongs tbh.