Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

I imagine my dh's many life experiences will flit through his mind too. And guess what? I don't mind as I'm not some repressed but case that wants to police his thoughts to think only of me. Get thee to some therapy @lornar123

*nutcase

Hasn't upset me in the slightest Fifi, each to their own eh.

Micro - Welp sorry to tell you that that apparently means you "don't like sex". News to you I'm sure lol.

I imagine my dh's many life experiences will flit through his mind too. And guess what? I don't mind as I'm not some repressed nut case

I would mind very much if I knew my dh’s thoughts on his death bed were of some bird he once shagged rather than his wife and children.

What an odd thing to think, that that would be entirely normal

Personally the best sex I’ve ever had is with dh...how disappointing it must be to be in a relationship where that’s not the case

Why is it so important to people how many people you've slept with? And why is it anyone else's business?

I'm amazed at the legs on this thread. Nearly 1000 posts.

This (the number of sexual partners, and/or not being able to recall exactly what it is) just isn't something that seems to matter so much to decent people in real life.

I don't recall the exact number of many things, I've done, to be frank. Why should this be any different. I'm reminded of Monica's 'it's definitely less than a ballpark' comment.

It's just sex. Lovely when it's with someone special, fun when it's not, and sometimes completely forgettable.

I hate this idea that women should be ashamed of how many men they’ve slept with whereas for men it’s an accolade to have slept with lots of women

It's how we are anthropologically hardwired.what is a 5 minute deed for a man can be a many-year investment for a woman.so men are hardwired to spread their oats, whereas women have a strict limit on how many children they can create so need to be more choosy.And the man does not want to be raising a child that is not his own
Not relevant in todays society, but these instincts cannot be undone in a few generations

We're not wired to be ashamed of anything. We're socialised to do that.

micro what a load of bollocks. I still remember fond encounters even though I'm perfectly happy with my OH.

No but hardwired to be choosy about sexual partners

No but hardwired to be choosy about sexual partners

And one of those choices can be to choose many partners.

Meh OP I don’t think that’s many. I had a lot of fun in my 20s. Well
Mostly fun some was awful! I can’t remember a number either..

No but hardwired to be choosy about sexual partners

So because people have a large ‘number’ they’re not choosy? I didn’t sleep with anyone who wasn’t nice to me and that I didn’t find attractive. There are many men in the world, You could find one a week for only a year and that would still account for 52 lovers.

Isn't feminism about supporting other womens choices? You don't sound very supportive

Re-read all my posts. Seriously.

I support any woman’s choice to have as much sex with as many people as she likes. I seriously don’t know how many tines I’ve said that. What I don’t like on this thread is the people high fiving each other over having a higher number, telling women they don’t know what good sex is because they haven’t had as many partners and saying that anyone with a lower number must envy people with a higher number.

I don’t know how to make myself any more clear. I don’t care how many people anyone has had sex with, unless I’m going to have sexual with them myself. Don’t care one bit. But I don’t like the shouting down of anyone who thinks differently to the op. It’s been aggressive, unpleasant and bullying at points. As I’ve said about a hundred times, words like “rank”, “ick” etc to describe people who have a higher number are equally unpleasant though.

Regardless of what you might think, I really don’t have a particular dog in this fight and I don’t care how many people anyone on here has had sex with. I won’t be dry heaving over the higher numbers and I won’t be high fiving either. But I don’t like the way people are trying to shut down any disagreement. It smacks of defensiveness.

I've not read the whole thread. It's great that some people think they are to be applauded because they have slept with lots of men.....

I slept with the grand total of 2 before I got married. I have no regrets in chatting to my daughter's about saving their virginity for the man who matters. I'm so pleased they did the old fashioned 'courting' thing before dropping their knickers. Both saved their virginity for the men who courted them for at least a year. At least they got to know them before thinking about having children with them... I'm just pleased my grandchildren have two parents who are both there for them and are sticking around. All children need a maternal and paternal parent to show them how to be parents. How can they be a successful parent if they have no role model?

Why do milleniums think it's great to have a child with a partner who meant nothing to them, other than a good shag or bragging that that they have slept with hundreds of men? What are they trying to prove - other than they will drop their knickers for anyone! I can't see that's anything to brag about tbh.. Have some self respect FFS!

Does the child not deserve to know where it came from?

Why would someone drop their knickers for someone they know nothing about and then expect the taxpayer to take on the role of 'dad'?

The taxpayer didn't father your children... in future keep your knickers on and your legs crossed and do Britain a favour! Unless you know the bloke you drop your kegs for will support your children you and he choose to create don't bother.. No taxpayer wants to.be burdened with paying for your offspring! If you can't afford children yourself...don't have them!

FinnegansWhiskers

So many things wrong with your post. Firstly, there’s a high chance your children lied to you. My mum is certain I was a virgin until I had my first child, little does she know I lost my virginity at 14.
Secondly, children do not need maternal and paternal figures in their lives, I know lots of fabulous single parents and gay and lesbian parents too. Not to mention widowed parents, that’s incredibly niave and narrow minded.
Thirdly, who is suggesting the ‘tax payer’ pay dad to their children? Are all people who have sex on benefits?

Have you heard of contraception? I have had ALOT of sex in my lifetime, yet funnily enough I only have two children - to the man I wanted to have them too.

Woman do not need to ‘do Britain a favour’ and keep our legs shut.

What a strange ridiculous post from an uninformed, judgemental perspective.

The defensiveness is palpable. Can’t imagine why...

I don't remember the number because it was a long time ago and it ceased to be relevant information as life went on.

I think that's the case for most women who have forgotten.

Either she posted on the wrong thread or she’s a fruitloop.

Imagine the number being so erm...high...that you can forget some of your conquests! Lol