Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Original poster

Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

999 replies

fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 13:07

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting! Confused

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

OP posts:
Myusernameisunique · 12/10/2018 14:57

I can't remember either. I know it's fewer than 10 but I honestly can't remember. DH and I have been together for 12 years and i was 19 when I met him so most people were flings or 1 night things at parties. I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of to be honest.

Lydiaatthebarre · 12/10/2018 14:57

Stonebake

Taking things out of context seems to be Hen's way of trying to win an argument.

It's pointless trying to debate with someone like that. I'm just going to leave this thread now.

Stonebake · 12/10/2018 14:58

I’ve asked you to stop hen.

And I’ve reported you as I think you’re being a bully now.

seeyouhen · 12/10/2018 14:59

Standing your ground? You’re doing more than that, as I’m sure you must know

Absolutely standing my ground, that's all.

seeyouhen · 12/10/2018 15:00

And I’ve reported you as I think you’re being a bully now

Oh FFS Hmm. Not one bit surprised you'd say that.

seeyouhen · 12/10/2018 15:02

You keep taking things out of context and seem rather vicious if I’m honest

But I'm the bullyHmm?

Belina · 12/10/2018 15:39

mine is about 18

Belina · 12/10/2018 15:40

would never tell anyone who nknows me that though

everyone has a hoe phase lol

VictorianPrint · 12/10/2018 22:20

No they don't (have a hoe phase), @Belina.

MissBanner · 13/10/2018 00:24

I hate this idea that women should be ashamed of how many men they’ve slept with whereas for men it’s an accolade to have slept with lots of women. Women like sex too - so what. The idea we should keep ourselves “pure” really rankles with me.

shearwater · 13/10/2018 04:18

I'm having a hoe phase at age 43. Have got into gardening quite seriously.

Stonebake · 13/10/2018 09:08

I hate this idea that women should be ashamed of how many men they’ve slept with whereas for men it’s an accolade to have slept with lots of women. Women like sex too - so what. The idea we should keep ourselves “pure” really rankles with me.

I hate that anyone thinks that their ‘number’ is an “accolade”. That goes for people saying how proud they are to have stayed pure for their husbands / wives as much as for people high fiving each other because they’ve fucked as many people as possible. It’s all pretty ridiculous and pathetic. Neither are anything to brag about, envy or aspire to.

And some of the comments on here from the people who have had higher numbers saying “oh what do you know about good sex if you’ve only had this many partners? No wonder you’re single” etc I find decidedly unfeminist.

I have a supposedly feminist friend who goes on like this; if you don’t fuck all round you, you’re somehow not a feminist Confused. When I once said I didn’t actually fancy the idea of a spit roast, she told me I was wrong, that I did like the idea and was only saying I didn’t because I was conditioned to by the patriarchy. Telling other women what they want to happen to them in bed then... that’s feminism is it? Fuck.off.

Original poster
fifithefoof · 13/10/2018 12:09

Stonebake, again, changing facts to fit your narrative.

I mentioned Lornar being single comment as she'd repeatedly, over a matter of days said how she found us ick, yuk, disgusting and how she'd never be with anyone like us and was surprised anyone would.

Over the course of DAYS she's put us down and used spiteful words. So yes, I pointed out that she people she has such revolt for were mostly in committed relationships whereas she was single.

We tried to engage nicely with her for a long time were even being very kind and understanding whilst she was clinging some pretty unpleasant stuff at us.

Sorry if we finally got sick of being told how nasty we were. Hmm

OP posts:
Original poster
fifithefoof · 13/10/2018 12:11

What on earth does what your friend did to you have to do with this conversation we're having?

You don't need to lump all 'feminists' together, there's quite a lot of us.

You say the word with such distaste. Very sad.

OP posts:
Original poster
fifithefoof · 13/10/2018 12:17

Said not did

OP posts:
Stonebake · 13/10/2018 12:41

I am a feminist! No distaste for the word at all.

Stonebake · 13/10/2018 12:42

You assume I am not liberal and not feminist because I don’t agree with the way you’ve been making your argument. Couldn’t be further from the truth.

Stonebake · 13/10/2018 12:49

And I don’t think “you can’t even get or keep a man like we can so nerr” is especially feminist. But yes, lorna hadn’t used very pleasant language on here, so I appreciate you were riled into possibly saying something you normally wouldn’t.

littlebluerose · 13/10/2018 14:16

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Eleanorsummer · 13/10/2018 14:52

Don't think it matters. I have a few I regret as felt pressured into it and didn't enjoy it, but don't care about the actual number.

BrightonGallery7 · 13/10/2018 15:05

that anyone could care whether a random woman on the internet has seen more pricks than a secondhand dart board, or not

Oh wowzers. Slooooow hand clap.

BrightonGallery7 · 13/10/2018 15:11

Your body is a temple? Lol
Not many advocates of that on this thread.

(People should indicate their disgust if they so wish, incidentally, whilst adhering to the forum rules.)

lornar123 · 13/10/2018 15:13

It's nothing to do with feminism to me, I feel this way about men who have had lots of sex with randoms. Despite how shagging random people you have no connection to is apparently the coolest thing ever, you will not that most people including the opportunity actually prefer sex in a loving relationship. So we're the same there.

Nastiest comment on the thread award goes to did what said on her death bed she would be thinking about mind blowing sex from some random ex. Bet her husband would love to hear that.

MicroManaged · 13/10/2018 15:44

I hate this idea that women should be ashamed of how many men they’ve slept with whereas for men it’s an accolade to have slept with lots of women

Who’s idea? I feel the same about both and wouldn’t be interested in a man who had had a high number of sexual partners.

Original poster
fifithefoof · 13/10/2018 15:53

@lornar123 lol. This thread has really upset you huh? Good luck finding a nice clean man who thinks sex is as disgusting, ick and grim as you do. GrinBiscuit

OP posts:
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread