Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

I'm fairly certain I counted mine at 10 at one stage but I've forgotten one and only make it 9 now? Don't think it really matters does it?

I’ve only slept with one partner; DH and I are childhood sweethearts and still going strong

I wouldn’t have it any other way, but YMMV 🤷‍♀️

I used to have a list, in a Filofax

Here’s hoping you never got the page mixed up with your Christmas card recipient list

I'd have to write them down, when I count in my head, I always forget someone. It's around 13 or 14 so not a huge number.

PS: though I’ve only had sex with seven people including dh, I have forgotten most of the experiences.

I could probably make a list (of first names), and if I saw them again I'd know if I slept with them or not but I don't know the number. I stopped counting at 15 or 20 I think. I'd guestimate it's around your number. I don't see the problem. Been with DH for 12 years now so don't see why it matters. DH has a similar number and again can't remember exactly how many.

I can only remember 5 but I seem to remember having this conversation in my 20s and it was 9. Other 4 not worth remembering.

High or low - who cares! The question is did you enjoy the sex?

I'm late 40s and I just did a mental run through and got to 12. I struggled to remember all of them so it may be a higher number, so I can imagine if you had more you could easily forget some of them!

Mine isn't in the high numbers. Between 10 and 15 but I honestly can't remember the names of few of them!

Past is past and you can't change it so why care.

7 for me, but I don't think it should matter! As long as you're safe and consensual, who cares!?

I think if someone else is going to judge that you've slept with too many people, it's because they wish they'd had a bit more fun themselves 😁

I'm with you, OP. Moved away from home at 19, met my husband when I was 25 and had a cracking time for six years, I purposely didn't keep count. Some of them I could point them out in a line-up but couldn't for the life of me tell you their names. Some I couldn't point out in a line-up.

All that matters is that a)you've had fun and b)you've looked after your health.

I know people who married their teenage boyfriend. If I'd married mine, I'd have been doomed to a life of bad sex and wouldn't have had a clue it was bad.

I tried to make a list and I can only remember about half of them but I'm sure it's about 35-40
I kind of wish it was more. Aiming for 50 by my 40th birthday

Mine's 13 but I've been with DH since I was 21. I wouldn't remember the exact number as many were one nighters at uni, but I always chuckled inside at DH being 'lucky number 13'...

Completely don't see why it matters (why do some say a number is 'too high'?) as long as the sex you had was consensual, safe and didn't hurt anyone else?! Do we think it's a patriarchal 'women must be innocent' thing? Or just general dislike of 'promiscuity'? Genuinely interested!

I think I'm quite sexually confident due to amount of partners I've had. I would say exploring sex is a really healthy thing to do (as long as you're doing it in a healthy way!)

I don't really know what 'unusually high' would mean tbh. I would say 3 was unusually low based on people I know but I don't think any number should be judged!

My husbands number is well over double mine, and it doesn't fuss me at all. As long as it stays the same whilst we are together.

I had an ex who had one prior sexual partner and an ex who’d had ~100. Both were cool with me!

Mine is incredibly high.I was abused as a kid, I think I saw sex as a way to reclaim my body, every partner was an extra person between me and the man that raped me.

I loved the sex, the high that it gave me and being (undiagnosed) bipolar spent most summers hypersexual and sleeping my way through the population. I was at 50+ ish by age 17. I dread to think what it was by age 25. But I got married, then got diagnosed bipolar. Since being medicated my sex drive has collapsed, I no longer have a sex addiction..... and my poor husband is lucky if he gets it three times a week now compared to twice daily ten years ago. I'm not embarrassed about it but I do not volunteer the info. My best friend knows as she was with me in the bed quite a few times after we took men home. I don't judge anybody for their sexual past.

I'm the same op. Can't remember how many. It's a lot though over 60.
I don't regret any of it. I've been with my partner 14 years & completly faithful, I met him when I was ready to settle down.

My kids asked me how many boyfriends I'd had the other day. They said boyfriend people I'd kissed( therefore in truth slept with). I tried to write down as many as I could remember. It was at least 21, I'm sure there are more.

It’s only an issue if you are concerned or need to contact previous partners re an STI.

Hmm. Just tried to write a list. It's 23. I'm pretty sure I've missed some out, so maybe I can't remember them all!

Thing is no man would be in angst over this would they?

I'm at 6.

I wouldn't like to be much higher than that personally as I place an unusual amount of importance on my sexual relationships. However that is my judgement for ME and personally dont give much thought to other people's choices.

So long as it was safe and consentual, and not replacing something in your life (affection, love or self esteem) then who cares?

I don’t know how many - never counted! I think it’s probably between 5 and 10, god who cares!

I have racked up 22 which I don't think is too bad! I'm 40...