Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

Don’t worry about it, do you honestly think men worry? It’s a not an issue if you remember or not, it’s your body and your choices, no one else’s.

Where are you all meeting these people?! I'm impressed

Mine is 12 and I'm 37. Don't know if that's above or below average!

Can someone post a link to the other thread please?

I think I am at about 25ish and DP reckons about the same, we are mid and late 20's most of my numbers were attained form 18-20 and it was a bit of a blur at points...

Same for DP

We just liked to have fun when we were younger and sex is a lot of fun, we were both sensible in being "safe" and neither of us have ever "had" anything so I don't see the issue.

Only 1 for me but I think I’m a it used usual! Nearly 32 years with the same man.

Well I've only slept with y dh...so just 1. I did go through a stage of regret ...but I'm old and past caring now...I never give a second thought to anyone else's number,none of my business x

I used to have a list in my Filofax too!

I actually found my Filofax the other day and wondered if they're still a thing? Can you get refills still? I loved writing stuff down in there, made me feel like someone from America in the 80's.

I'm not in angst about the whole thing, just a little startled I can forget people I've been so intimate with.

But then I can't remember what I ate for breakfast by dinner time so won't beat myself up too much.

I went through my Facebook friends and remembered a few more.

Yes, the Filofax community is very much alive and kicking! I’ve been using mine for around eight years. Genuinely couldn’t be without it!

I’d think it was weirder if someone had a “high” number and could recall (or had recorded) every single one.

I had a ONS with a guy from work who I later found out kept a record of every girl he slept with, in a little list- there was over 40 and we were in our mid 20s. I was very very creeped out.

I got lost when I hit double figures.
growing up in the 80's was fun!

I don't think it matters as long as it was consensual, you had fun, and didn't hurt anyone.

No you aren't a slag if you sleep with lots of people, you are doing the equivalent of men sewing their oats

There's impressive and then there's kinda yuck OP. I'm surprised you want to declare this stat quite so openly.

They say if you can remember the 60s/70s you weren't there.
Don't worry op, enjoy life, we all change what we want over time

Should it be called a...

FiloFUCKS

I'll get my coat

1 partner for the past 25 years or so, but for the 2 years before that somewhere between 20-30? I can clearly remember about 15 of them, remember the names of about 6.

Maybe 15. I could work it out if I wanted to. Honestly I wish it were some much higher... But I think DH would be a tad upset if I upped it now

There's impressive and then there's kinda yuck OP. I'm surprised you want to declare this stat quite so openly.

oh for fuck sake

I just went through my archived WhatsApp messages and found one I forgot going to look through Facebook now

I don't know. Probably about 50 but I lost count when it was in the 20s...

I don't think it's actually all that strange to forget. I have forgotten lots of people with whom I've shared intimate moments. I may not have had sex with them, but people I met on nights out etc, who were briefly my new best friends. Couldn't tell you any of their names.

Name changed for this confession.... mine is easily possibly 60/70 ish ... late 30's not married (yet) recently confessed number to current serious love whom I will marry when time is right & he was shocked. His number is approx 12. Absolutely no regrets, had a good time and it's made me the person who I am today. Partner says I'm the best he's ever had .... but that maybe biased as we are well and truly in love & this is it for us... there won't be any others!

There's impressive and then there's kinda yuck OP. I'm surprised you want to declare this stat quite so openly. Oh Donald, stop lurking on MN and fuck off back to the White House and play with your equally dodgy pal Kavanaugh.

I can't remember either OP although my "count" is quite low, probably between 10 and 15. It all happened so long ago as I have been with my DH for twenty five years.

In fact I lived with someone when I was in my twenties, for about six years, and I realised that I couldn't remember their name either, until I looked it up. Other than that I have an extremely good memory

2 for me, and sexual stuff but not 'full sex' with a few others.

I can't imagine wanting to be so intimate with someone I don't know, and have regretted being intimate with the few I didn't know very well. However that's just me, others can do whatever they want, I wouldn't bat an eyelid! World would be boring if we all thought the same 🤷🏽‍♀️

That does sound a lot but then again I’ve only been with 3 so people probably think that’s pathetic.