to think staying in bed until 9:30 is okay?

[BelindaBrighton]

I am usually up fairly early but am 34 weeks pregnant with my first and sleep is not a thing anymore. Baby kicks wake me up, I can't lay on one side for more than 20 mins, I lay awake for hours on end because I'm so uncomfortable, I wake up sweating etc. I finally fall asleep at silly am and sleep through to 9:30/10 on the weekend. This still isn't enough and I'm still exhausted.

During the week I work so am up at 6:30 on weekdays which is almost killing me, to the point I've vomited a couple of times I'm so tired!

I'm really trying, but sleep is one thing I'm finding so hard. Once I am on maternity leave I will worry less as I'll not have work to worry about.

DP thinks I'm being lazy. Wakes me up at 8 telling me I need to get up. It's starting to upset me. I need my sleep and struggle without it. He thinks I'm milking it.

Anyone else have the same sleep issues? AIBU to feel like DP is being an arse?

Oh dear OP, he doesn't sound like a caring partner. Calling you lazy and expecting you to be up at 8, why? Just so that you can wave him off to the gym? Please don't tell us that you make him his breakfast and clean the house whilst he is out.

You have to put a stop to it NOW.

Gosh, I get up at that time everyday, tell him to fuck off, you need your sleep.
I'm surprised he doesn't know how tiring being pregnant is, has he engaged with anything to do with your pregnancy?

I agree you need to put a stop to this now, he sounds really uncaring.
I hope he reassess his morning gym when baby comes.

He's a knob. I dont think there was a weekend i didnt lie in when i was pregnant! Me and dp would not be together if hed made me get up at 8 every day!

Even now we take it in turns to have a lie in!

What an utter fuckwit he is.
WHo is he to say how much you should sleep?!
Tell him roundly to fuck right off.
And yes to waking him up several times a night then kicking him out of bed at 8am on the dot.

I don't like your chances of getting much help from him when the baby comes, selfish arsewipe that he is. :(

Make sure that if you decide to bf your baby, that you introduce a daily bottle early. Otherwise you'll find yourself doing every feed.

Your DP sounds like a prick. Unless you actually had somewhere to be at 8am there was no need to wake you at all. I didn't get out of bed til 11 today. I'm up at 6 the rest of the week and I just fancied a lay in. DD climbed into bed with me about 10am and DH got up and made us breakfast in bed. I'm not even pregnant, just tired because of work.

If my DH behaved like yours he would be under the patio. If I want a lie in I have a lie in, what with being an adult who works hard and deserves it.

You’re 34 weeks pregnant—do what you like! I don’t understand some men.

I’m a night owl and go to bed at around 1-2am. I do most of my work from around midday onwards (student/self employed/work from home) and my daily routine is to get up around 9am. Every day. And I’m not even pregnant!!

Maybe ask him to have some consideration that growing a whole other person inside you might be tiring and you need to rest. You shouldn’t have to justify yourself on this. What a crazy world.

Wow he's not very nice is he? Late pregnancy is very tiring and you need to rest. As you say, it will be tough after the baby is born. Its not for him to impose rules on you.

You really need to get him to understand this now as it is going to be very tiring after the baby is born and you will need him to be unselfish, supportive and kind - doing his bit whenever possible so that you can get rest.

Even if you weren't pregnant this would be cunty behaviour. Is he this controlling in other ways?

You need to have a serious chat about his expectations versus reality of what it will be like after the baby comes. He is already "But what about MEEEEEE????" now, it will get worse after the baby is born unless he grows up, wises up and removes his head from his self obsessed arse.

You're going to have to lose the plot with him.

It's irrelevant what you're tired for, whether you should be tired etc etc
You're a grown up, with no responsibilities on a weekend. YOU DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO.
It's isn't up to anyone else.

He is rude, selfish, self absorbed and just an utter arsehole to try and wake you up. Yuck.

On Monday talk to your boss about dropping some hours.
Talk to your husband,tell him that it is difficult to be upbeat when you are so tired, you're sleeping for 2 now.
I hope he already does half the house work, cooking and make sure that when you go on maternity leave it doesn't all fall to you as that pattern is hard to break when you go back to work.
He has been used to your undivided attention so it will get worse when the baby arrives as he will come second for quite a .while

Here's hoping the OP is asleep right now.

I am an early riser now ( never used to be, at weekends 10am would be early for me..lol).
My DH is ill, and still in bed! Wouldn't DREAM of waking him up! Left him to it. Whilst being pregnant is not ill, tell him you are enjoying your sleep now. You won't have that luxury when bubs is here.
Get a Fuck off sleep mask! And tell him to do one!

It's not nearly late enough- 10, 11 would be more appropriate!

You need rest for your baby, it will make you healthier and in the best possible state of health for birth and for dealing with all the sleepless nights to come. Explain this to DP and poke him in the eyes if nec!

Also when you're on maternity leave make the late wake ups part of your daily routine.

My kids aren’t up until that time at weekends so neither am I!
When you’re awake until the small hours be sure to keep poking your dp and telling him not to be lazy!

When I was pregnant the first time on a Sunday if we didnt have any plans we would wake and then DH would make a cup of tea and a stack of bacon sandwiches. We would eat them in bed watching tv til we could be bothered to shower 😁

That is very unfair - you need your sleep. I would tell him in no uncertain terms to stop waking you early on the weekends. Tell him your midwife has advised you must have lie ins at the weekend. Seriously once your baby arrives you will be seriously sleep deprived so you really need to get your sleep now. If you don't need to get up - don't. Sleep as long as you can - past 9.30 if you can and if you can't rest in bed anyway reading or whatever. He should be bringing you up a cup of tea and letting you rest.