To think sometimes when people are feeling down, or have mild depression, sometimes they need a strong talking too

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Not always
And not if it’s a reaction to something really huge like bereavement divorce job loss or some major event
And not if they are suffering of some sort of mental illness like moderate or serve depression

But sometimes I wonder if modern society’s attitudes actually really help people
Like myself when I think an actual good kick up the arse would actually probably be the best thing
To not be indulged to not have people making excuses

Mainly talking about myself but if I get like that
I could do with someone telling me hey your arse out of bed n in the shower
Put on something nice
Put on a smile and make an effort
Get the House sortedcit the grass
Eat well you will feel better for it

I don’t know just someone telling me to be grateful for what I have and to get up and get on

Although personas I’m mainly thinking abou tmyself here really

I’m not saying do this to people with huge huge issues and actually full blown medical proablems

As someone mentioned upthread, the thing with depression, is that you’re already giving yourself a stern talking to and kicking yourself mentally for all the things you logically know you should be doing to make yourself feel better. Not sure if having someone else do the same is helpful.

Fuck me. I have depression. It goes from the mild to the fucked up. I am in my longest stage of depression in my life. I have been in this state for over a year.
It was fucking shit like the op that has made recovery hard. When I was in the mild stages, I was told that BS. When I saw certain people they thought they were being helpful. They didn't see me when I was alone. Nor did they see me as I slipped further because whenever I was with these assholes, it became automatic to do what they wanted. To exist in their norm. I put on a mask when I was around people because it was easier for me to not feel as worthless (I am really, really minimizing the full impact).

Imagine that. I was already feeling like shit and these assholes were kicking me further. Oh your just a bit down, snap out of it.

The mask got tighter and what I was going through when alone got darker. I wrote journals during this and my decline as a way to try and release some pressure. I am slowly reading them now with MH people. It's not a nice happy read.

All because it's low mood. Nothing serious.

Every day I listened to this BS until I just wore a mask. I was afraid to seek help at this point because it was nothing. And I slipped further and further. A shower or a walk will fix low mood after all. What kind of person am I that cannot do these basic things like everyone else?

My children could do nothing but watch and live through their own pain of seeing me when I was in the house trying to maintain the mask. I severely declined and we will all live with the scars from this. Something that would have been dealt with a lot sooner if it wasn't for these fuckwits telling me to pull myself together.

So before you start spouting shit about low mood, and showers, and walks, fucking think. For some, it may help. But for most, it will push us deeper as we then have the guilt for you to live with, knowing that we are inadequate.

Why people without the expertise to understand shouldn't try and 'cure' those with depression or low mood. You never know what is buried beneath. You never know what they are dealing with. Be a friend yes. Listen yes. But suggest taking a shower, pull yourself together etc shove that shit up your arse.

Because there is a difference between a stern talking to & reasonable encouragement. Because OP has basically admitted that 'mild' depression doesn't count as depression to her - which is a bloody insult to people fighting to stop that 'mild' illness from dragging them further into the abyss.

OP asked if she was being unreasonable. People have told her that yes, in their view, she is. A basic understanding of what depression - however 'mild' - actually is would usually nudge someone into not posting shit about how if you don't do x y or z it is basically your fault.

I have a crispy clean bed and brand new jammies. I had a lovely hot bath.
I still feel depressed. I even put woolly socks on and even pulled them up before I got to bed. I still feel depressed. I have taken my meds I still feel depressed.
Analyse that OP

You are very ignorant, OP.

Depression, even “mild” depression, as you put it, is an awful illness.

100% agree OP

Another gf thread. So many of them.

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100% agree OP

Well, that's a fully reasoned response.

Nope, people with mild depression don't need strong talking to. They need pills, and/or therapy - whatever suits them personally, - and from a professional, not some untrained busybody with 'cheer up luv" attitude.