to book in to a hotel on my own...

[HaveSomeGrace]

and leave my husband and kids at home alone? I’m desperate for time on my own. If I don’t get it I think I might crack. It would be a massive inconvenience for my husband and my kids wouldn’t want me to go. I want to be selfish just once but no one irl would understand. I mean for weekend though, not like week or anything extravagant.

🙁

I’m doing this right now! No-one knows I’m here - kids are with my ex. No-one knows where I am, have been in bed all day after a boozy lunch. Popped down to the Spa for a massage, off for dinner in a minute then will come back to this gorgeous bed for TV & honey roasted peanuts!

I haven’t felt this relaxed in years!!!!

When you go, make sure you arrive home on Monday, after the dcs have gone to school, not on Sunday evening. Otherwise, might there be a risk that all the 'preparing for the week ahead' tasks might be left undone? (I remember reading such a thread here once. Was so disappointed for the poster).

I think EVERY frazzled mom should have 2 or 3 days away on her own at least twice a year!

But I do think it's awful that women (moms) feel the need to have to do something like this!!! Their men need to fucking sort themselves out, and be better husbands and better fathers.

I'm looking at YOU @OldSchoolDa

So many men do what the hell they want, and piss off to the pub when they want, and continue pursuing their hobbies when they are married with kids, but GOD FORBID a woman/mother wants a couple of days to herself.

JESUS WEPT!

Another one here saying a great big ‘yes, go, go, go’. It will do you the world of good. You are probably running on empty and this will recharge you. I do this when it all gets a bit much and it makes the world of difference. Please do prioritise your needs for once and be kind to yourself.

Sounds wonderful, I have been fantasising about getting away to a particular spa hotel since DS1 was born 17 months ago....just gotta wait for him to sleep through the night first 😐

DH is completely supportive of this as he realises that I need a break, but I would do the same for him too.

You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of your family, do it!

heismy shakeyour TAKE ME WITH YOU!

Right now I’m sitting in the car at the Fort with a hot chocolate pretending I’m being sneaky and indulgent, but a night away sounds blissful!

I read an article about uma Thurman who said that her doctor had told her to do this on a weekly basis to preserve her sanity.

I send DH and DC off to MIL twice a year so that I can stay home and do nothing. It's bliss!!!

😂 at op’s third post in which she says she could sheep.
I’m imagining her standing in a field, eating grass and baa-ing away to her heart’s content.

yes do it, Premier Inns are great - bed is always super comfy and great choice of breakfast. You won't regret it.

I did a job interview once, just so I could get a paid night away in a hotel. I got the job

Dunno, kinda sounds like you'd be better off checking the husband into a hotel on a permanent basis.

If he really loved you to the ends of the earth - or however he's phrasing his ridiculous public declarations - then you'd see it in his actions and he wouldn't need to tell everybody but you what a wonderful, loving husband he is. That's all for show. Not reality.

People who love us demonstrate that in the way they behave towards us, and the care and consideration they have for the impact their actions have on us. They would hurt if their actions (or inactions) were hurting us.

Leaving you hidden away upstairs while he socialises downstairs. My god. That's low. Something tells me the snippets you've posted here aren't rare.

Regardless, they're clearly having a significant impact on you, and that's not on.

Take care of yourself, op

@Papergirl1968

Lol!! I’m just imagining the peace and tranquility of sheeping in a little field somewhere!! 🐑

shakeyourcaboose heismyopendoor

We could book in there then go for a few on Ashton Lane?

If you find yourself there, have a pineapple Danish for me, go to the cinema at The Grosvenor, and visit The Chip :) And the University Cafe on Byres Rd.

I could just go for a weekend doing that and watching one film after another at the GFT...

Plan it OP.
Book a weekend when you are free. Or nearby and have Friday/Saturday/Sun then off to work from there if you work every Sunday.
Just knowing you have it as a light at the end Of a tunnel makes the tunnel just a little bit more bearable

@AnoukSpirit

Thank you 🙂

YANBU. I went to Barra in the Outer Hebrides this July - 3 days on my own. I think I spoke to 5 people the whole time I was there. I walked, sat, took photos, read, slept, and had an incredible recharging time. I thoroughly recommend it. Go for it.

Book something, OP, quickly! Just work out how you can avoid your husband accidentally 'forgetting' and going out that night.

@arranfan what a fantastic looking place! Never heard of it before but how lovely.

@offtocornwall

I’m lucky enough that my job is very flexible so I’d come home Sunday and be leisurely about it.

I’m still looking though.

This is my absolute dream if anyone asks me what is the one thing I would love to do it would be this!! Just imagine getting into that hotel room, pjs, tele on, room service ordered and chill sleep when the frigging hell you want to!! I'm getting goosebumps just thinking about it 😭

Do it do it do it

Do it OP. Don't worry what your husband thinks.... you've said that you feel like you might crack, that sounds like you need a day or two just for yourself pretty badly. And you're allowed to! You matter too xx

There are some great hotel deals on at the moment, now that summer is over and the schools have gone back. Premier inns can be had for £30 - £50 a night right now. It sounds like you just need peaceful sleep in a comfy bed, food ,and some alone time and premier inns (or similar) are great for that. They have big tellies too :)

Do it now!!

I do this often- 6 times a year at least. In fact, I'm doing it tomorrow. Coming home Monday.

All joking aside from my first few posts, it is pretty obvious that you aren’t getting the down time that you need. You can’t pour from your cup if it’s empty!

You should have as much time to socialise/hobby/chill out in a hotel as your husband gets.

Without being a bit dramatic, if you don’t get what you need, you’ll end up having a break down, snapping and farting, or worse.

afish and the other Glasgow lady (can’t click back and see your name sorry) we should have a Glasgow night out!

Everyone one of us who needs this, should do it, and it should be totally guilt free.

(If finances can’t stretch, then a night in a friends house while they are away, or similar)

Mental health is absolutely vital for us all - have a great , re-energising time everybody!

This is my dream night. I'm going to do it soon.
Go for it :)