To find a 49 yo man dating a 19 yo girl creepy?

[NatVoll]

I am aware of the fact that "this is none of my business and yada yada", but come on!

Family friend, aged 49, just announced he has a new girlfriend. She is 19. I am horrified, but my sister thinks there is nothing weird about it.

AIBU to think that a 49 yo man dating a 19 yo girl is absolutely creepy?

My dad was 40 and my mum was 17 and they married when she was literally just 18. They adored each other and when my mum died fairly young (54) he just carried on living like she was still alive, even signing our birthday cards etc from her.

I don’t know. Depends on the guy and the girl I guess.
When I was 20, I was seeing a guy who was 43.
We had a lot in common, same hobbies etc and that’s how we met.
There wasn’t anything untoward or creepy about it. I loved him so much.
Sadly the age gap did get in the way in the end as I got to the stage of my life where I wanted to settle down and have children.
He didn’t want that and felt he was too old.
We’re still friends and still occasionally speak. He’s a really lovely guy.

@ZanyMobster Of course, sorry after reading that last rant back I sound furious 😂 It's been a long day 🙈😅

It's totally fine. I wasn't intending to offend at all it's a strangely emotive subject.

It is in my house. The week that DH is "a year" younger than me is the source of much glee 🙄 Longest sodding week of the year. 😅

Choli of course it’s what people think even if they don’t admit it. I see my mum looking into old age in her own. And my dad off galavanting with a much younger woman because my mum isn’t good enough anymore. Any woman who is with a much older man is essentially causing an older woman to be on her own. Especially as a lot of the younger women are from elsewhere upsetting the ratio even more. Russia in my case.

Any woman who is with a much older man is essentially causing an older woman to be on her own

I’m not quite sure I understand this train of thought unless you’re implying that ALL younger women are somehow tempting a defenceless older man from their marriage?

It’s just a numbers thing isn’t it. Plus you only have to spend a bit of time on the relationship boards to see that this is what happens rather a lot.

And I don’t think older men are defenceless at all!

Any woman who is with a much older man is essentially causing an older woman to be on her own.

Or she could hook up with a younger man. It can be done!

And I don’t think older men are defenceless at all!

Good news. It seemed to be what you were suggesting from your post.

I’ve never been the other woman nor indeed tempted a man from a woman his own age. It’s rather insulting to all parties, no?