To find a 49 yo man dating a 19 yo girl creepy?

[NatVoll]

I am aware of the fact that "this is none of my business and yada yada", but come on!

Family friend, aged 49, just announced he has a new girlfriend. She is 19. I am horrified, but my sister thinks there is nothing weird about it.

AIBU to think that a 49 yo man dating a 19 yo girl is absolutely creepy?

I'm all for personal choice but this is just wrong. It'd be like my husband dating one of my daughters friends not sure that sounds right but if I found out my dd was seeing someone that age, I'd be all over it like a rash.

I would think dirty old man.

Massively creepy.

Well it’s not “wrong” as in underage but it is very strange, they’re at totally different life stages. I couldn’t see it being a happy long term thing.

God no, YANBU. Very wrong. He could be her dad. No no no. I'd be concerned he was grooming her.

I'd be concerned if it was my daughter, what the flip do they have in common. She's still a teenager :-(

Weird and a bit creepy.

I think its disgusting

Well they are both adults, but it probably wont' last long. Such a huge age difference means they have virtually nothing in common . It's probably exciting for both of them for the moment , but I wouldn't bet on it lasting until Christmas.

Live and let live. I’d find the woman in this situation more creepier to be honest.

YANBU as long as you would also find a 49-year old woman dating a 19-year old man creepy.

Yes it’s creepy. In our friendship group or family he’d be roundly told so as well.

Of course it's creepy. A middle aged man and a woman who was legally a child 2 years ago.

What could he have in common with her? How could he relate to her as a fully rounded person? She isn't yet! There is a power imbalance and it's red flag city.

YANBU and I say this from an age gap relationship. The life stages are too different but my guess is he is not looking for a deep and meaningful relationship!!!!

YANBU as long as you would also find a 49-year old woman dating a 19-year old man creepy.

Who wouldn't? However due to gendered socialisation this very rarely happens whereas old men and barely legal women is a disgustingly common dynamic

@NatVoll I'm interested to know how they met? 🙋🏼‍♀️

Very creepy. Follow the formula - half your age plus 7.

Also if they’re young / old enough to be your child / parent you shouldn’t be dating them

Gime they met in a bar.

No.. it seems very wrong to me.

19 is no age - she's only been left school for a year.

It is bound to fizzle out as they can't have that much in common in their daily lives.

It is a bit but if he hasn't got form for it then I guess they just clicked somehow. It not like people with that age difference can't get on well in other situations. It's probably novel for both of them and won't last.

Oh dear, very mid life crisis. That's the age gap between my DH and DD! 😂......I wonder if she's actually seen him dance yet!

An old school friend of mine has just got married to a man she has been with since she was 19. Slightly bigger age gap between them, he was 56 when they met.

Her DM disowned her at first but they have since made up. They seem very, very much in love but yes, we all found it beyond bizarre and he does look like her grandpa on photos.

Thanos- what’s that formula all about then?
It would have me dating a 32 year old (which I’d find a bit weird, but that’s beside the point). But I could legally be that person’s parent. Is it because by the time they’re 32 they’re old enough to know what they’re doing?

I think it's unusual but I would reserve judgement.
I would however wonder whether it'd survive long term because as people have said, they're probably wanting completely different things from life

@zippey......funny you say that. I recently had a chat with my teen DD and she told me that her and her circle of mates all had a 'thing' for the older male. Names that came up were Tom Hiddlestone, Benedict Cucumberpatch (he's a wall pin actually). When I asked why? She said, they valued 'life experience'. Mmmm......chat ended there!