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Original poster

To not bother with tomorrow's job interview because I can't even cope not working

208 replies

sanssherif · 06/09/2018 22:04

Brief history
Well qualified good job
Divorce, during unplanned preg. Now left alone no friends no support.
Disabled dd age 12.
Have had 2 years off work, dd2 is 3.
Applied for competitive but lower level role, was excited by the role and thrilled at the interview!
Its been a shit week back to school, my exH has given me the silent treatment, dd1 isnt coping and still awake (autism) and dd2 has just been sick everywhere.
I've been recently drinking more and am getting depressed at the no interaction/general skivvy mum role.
Really cannot be bothered to go, doesnt seem much point. Just want to crawl into a hole.
AIBU?

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GenericHamster · 07/09/2018 16:54

But you know you can have the worst night ever and still prepare for an interview the next day. You've learned a lot about inner strength and it's great prep for next time when you will smash it.

YouAlwaysTry · 07/09/2018 16:56

NadiaLeon you nasty

Thankewe · 07/09/2018 16:59

You were only unsuccessful this time and at the final stage too! Keep applying and you’ll get one soon.
If you hadn’t gone you would’ve been unsuccessful anyway so well done for going! Flowers

Etino · 07/09/2018 17:09

You’re so much nearer a job than you were this time yesterday! Please be kind yourself, you’ve done so well.

Foslady · 07/09/2018 17:11

I think you were successful - look at how far you took yourself. A night for binging on chocolate and licking wounds then onwards and upwards, you will get there Flowers🍫🍫🍫🍫

Littlechocola · 07/09/2018 17:12

It obviously wasn’t the right one for you. Hold your head high, you got to that interview after an awful night.
Don’t give up!

Original poster
sanssherif · 07/09/2018 17:17

Thanks all. Im glad I went but just a bit stung. Xx

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sanssherif · 07/09/2018 17:18

On the wine with a kebab and chocolate bar

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PinkFluffyFairy · 07/09/2018 17:25

U did good. Well done. Just keep going.

NadiaLeon · 07/09/2018 17:32

Churchill said "When you're going through hell, keep going"

burblish · 07/09/2018 17:35

I’m sorry to hear you didn’t get the job but massive kudos to you for getting that far, and for making the effort to go for it. Be kind to yourself now, and don’t stop applying for roles - one of them will be for you. Flowers

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sanssherif · 07/09/2018 18:04

Thanks Sad
Im ok. Just need to dust self down. Cannot go into it, but another opportunity has arisen from today, am looking into it. Onwards and upwards x

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Littlechocola · 07/09/2018 18:06

Ooh sounds interesting sans!

Redteapot67 · 07/09/2018 18:07

It wasn’t the right job for you. No one gets every job they go for.
Well done for going and hope you keep applying for things.

Redteapot67 · 07/09/2018 18:09

Ps I agree with others - your success this time was going to the interview. It’ll get easier and you’ll smash the next one.

JennyHolzersGhost · 07/09/2018 18:41

FlowersCakeWine for you OP! You’ve earned them ! Keep on keeping on. One day at a time. You’ll get there.

Confusedbeetle · 07/09/2018 18:44

I think you need to work to understand that you are an individual as well as a carer. Go for it. Give it your best shot. You can do this

Honey2018 · 07/09/2018 18:50

Well done for going!

I’ve been to loads of interviews and not got the job. It takes time when there’s so many people going for one position. Think of it as experience and keep going Smile

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sanssherif · 07/09/2018 19:10

I thought it went well. I think it just depends on luck a lot of the time, once you get to interview the calibre is the same. It is just who they like best/feel would be the best fit out of you all. There is very little control you have over the process.

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RickOShay · 07/09/2018 19:24

But the important thing is you made yourself do something you didn’t want to do.
Isn’t that a definition of courage?

JennyHolzersGhost · 07/09/2018 20:10

All good practice. Flowers

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sanssherif · 07/09/2018 20:25

Yes I suppose so (-:

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morningtoncrescent62 · 07/09/2018 20:37

Good for you, OP. It's so hard getting back on the escalator after time away, especially when your home life is so demanding. You did fantastically to get motivated to prepare for and go to the interview. Lots of people would not have got that far, trust me. Next time it'll be a bit easier - you'll know what to expect and you know you can do it. Have you been offered any feedback? If you are, take advantage of it.

Good luck next time - because there will certainly be a next time, you've shown yourself to be a candidate worth considering.

But the important thing is you made yourself do something you didn’t want to do. Isn’t that a definition of courage?

This. So lick your wounds, give yourself some treats, and then pick yourself up and do it again.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 07/09/2018 21:05

Sorry you didn’t get it. Flowers
Well done for going. If you hadn’t gone I think it would have been even harder to face the next one.
Onwards and upwards indeed.

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sanssherif · 07/09/2018 21:15

No feedback. Pipped to the post by someone with more experience.

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