Why do parents of year 7 children do this?

[GuavaPalava]

So my DS has started secondary school this week. Prior to starting, we of course had parents evening, literature, uniform rules - it was made very clear what was acceptable and what wasn't

I was added to a 'new starters in year 7' FB group for my area a few months back and it's been used to ask the usual questions you may expect - apart from this week. It's all kicked off with the following ..

A parent in a fury as in day 1 she received a call saying her son's hair was not acceptable. Cue obligatory pic and he's got a half shaved head and tramlines

Another parent going mad as he DD had pink hair over the summer which she 'bleached out apart from the back' - she can't believe she's been told it needs to be sorted

And another moaning because she received a call about her DD wearing make up

All saying what you'd expect - it doesn't have any bearing on their ability to learn. And yeah, they're right - I get that

But why would you do this? You know the guidelines as a parent and they're very clear . AIBU to say that, knowing these rules, it's your child you immediately single out in a new school by sending him/her in with tram lines hair, pink hair and make up?

It's not just year 7 parents though

Ok that's a fair point

So, why are parents doing this? It's your child who gets the embarrassment of being 'told off' and at our school they're put isolation

I agree, sadly the days when Teachers and schools are respected are long gone. The age of entitled little shits and their hellspawn 😫

This is why i'm glad I'm not on one of those fb groups - you don't have to be you know!

And the furore that has followed these posts! All ' what fuckers, how dare they! He looks so smart with his hair shaved' and ' us parents should get together and complain'

The rules could not be clearer.

We have year 9 (!) Parents (upper school so their first year) on our fb page asking things the boys should find out for themselves at their age. How do they get a locker? Where do they go to use a phone? Yadda yadda yadda

When I was at school I used to have (it was the 90s) Nike logos shaved into my hair 🙈🙈🙈 It wasn’t an issue. I really don’t see the point in these rules. It doesn’t matter. Unless they are dying their hair in class or shaving tramlines when they’re meant to be concentrating on Maths or putting on make up during PE I really don’t see why it’s suddenly now an issue.

Oh I like reading deliphant! I wouldn't ever contribute but it's been good for snippets of knowledge

I'm not complaining about Facebook. That's not my point. What do you think about my point?

If the parents can't obey the rules, the school will have to enforce them. The parents are setting a rubbish example to the DC!

@MissionItsPossible but it matters when your child is singled out doesn't it? That would matter to you surely? Or would you just not give a toss and disregard the rules?

Although, yes, if the rules are in place and they disregard them and then moan, they ABU.

They should have read the uniform policy then, shouldn't they.

My old head used to remind said parents where the door was, and asked if they'd like to love their child, as he'd sign the paperwork there and then for them.

Cue rowing back from the parents and towing the line.

Rules are there to be followed by all. Follow them or move your kid because parents agree to them when they signed up to that school.

Parents are same as any other section below of society. Some great, some.....less so.

Well i agree ppl should read the rules etc, but fb groups aren't really necessary are they?

Whatever. I used to be a teacher and there's nothing I hated more than these stupid uniform rules. It's hypocritical and pointless. Give the school as many fuck yous as possible. I hope the craze for strict uniform policies but not enough teachers is over soon

Because people can't conform to rules then the kids moan when they grow up and can't get a job because they've got a spider tattoo'd on their neck or those things in their ear lobes that leave a big hole.

There are always some who think the rules will be bent for them, or that their infringement isn’t an actual infringement because X,Y or Z. Or that exceptions should be made because they’re new.

Move their child. Fat fingers.

Why dont you post on fb telling them that then?!

@Deliphant and again - the group isn't the point. Pretend I overheard all this or someone told me. You're either deliberately being obtuse or you're just missing the point

@GuavaPalava

I just don’t see the issue. It’s hair and skin. Don’t have kids though so not my argument! If I did, I’d make them follow the rules as it’s not worth the hassle. I just think it’s a stupid rule!

@Whisky2014 hmm now why would t I do that? what a silly question.

It’s silly but some use their child as a vehicle to rebel and make a point.

And I actually think the rules are OTT but that's not my point. They're there, they exist and they've been communicated to all.

Some parents must just not give a toss - it's the only logical conclusion

To tell them they are making a deal out of nothing and thems the rules! Then I might follow with a hashtag. Something like #rulesarecool or #beabetterparent
Haha!