A wedding one - children 'begging'

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I went to a wedding yesterday, fairly lavish, although the night do guests had to pay for their own seats on the bus at £5 each way. That's not my AIBU though - there were 2 flower girls, sisters who are 6&7, nieces of the bride. There was an announcement after the wedding breakfast that, as a thank you for their flower girl duties, they will be going around tables collecting money in their money boxes. They then went round with their Mum, an older bridesmaid, and basically begged from each table. There were about 80 people there, 8 on our table and we all gave (because how can you say no to a 6yo!) anything from £1-£5 each.

AIBU to think this is a bit weird and basically begging? Surely the bride and groom give the presents to flower girls and bridesmaids as a thank you?! I think they could have skipped the candy floss stand, or one of the numerous other things they'd brought in, and used the money to buy the flower girls a present themselves?

I'm gob smacked at the box being passed around at the Christening. What are people thinking?

Very déclassé

Grew up with a 'scramble' at Scottish wedding where fistfuls of money was thrown to kids in the street as a gift (we kids used to look for weddings and wait outside the church until the scramble). At christenings a 'christening piece' was handed out to first child seen who was the opposite gender to the baby being christened. It was basically a two biscuit sandwich with money inside. So giving money out was normal in Scottish celebrations, not asking for it.
Sending your kids begging from guests is rude!

At my sister's smallish wedding I had to hunt down my 5yo son. He was behind the buffet table with some tongs asking the guests if they wanted him to serve the food. He came back with a pocket full pf pound coins!

" Very déclassé "

do you mean 'common as muck'? is that a fancy way of saying it that sounds less harsh?

Vulgar.

Just get a few wines down you and enjoy yer self let them have their day however they want..... put a quid in if you want if you don’t - don’t!

Bad enough charging for the transport, then that on top of it. Did the DJ and the caterers come round shaking a bucket afterwards for people to thank them with donations as well? lol

When did weddings become a money making enterprise to rook your guests?

I can see it now:

• Platinum tickets, 500 quid, get seated at the head table, unlimited photos with B&G, open bar and deluxe meal selection.

• Gold Tickets, 300 quid, preferred seating for dinner, upgraded meal, 5 free drinks.

• Silver tickets - 150 quid, standard meal, seating in the back of the hall, cash bar.

• Economy tickets - 75 quid, cold take away pizza, eat in the car park, cheap French beer 5 quid a bottle.

I may have to go on Shark Tank with this.

How vulgar.

I have never come across so many tales of mannerless oiks in RL - MN is still a horrible revelation.

What @Havaina said - with the additional word:

Trash

That is so tacky.

Weird, I doubt the girls even got all of the money. Probably took the lions share for themselves. Why do you even need to give flower girls, bridesmaids and best men presents. Its ridiculous - the honor should be enough, if they pay for their suit/dress that's their present to you, if you pay for their suit/dress that's your present to them.

Done. Get your heads out of your arse brides.

Tacky as can be, I've never seen that before.
My sister paid for her flowergirl's dress (obv) and she got her a bracelet to keep for her thank you present. I think along those lines is fairly standard but sending kids around cap in hand is horrid.

And I thought money trees at receptions were bad, but children coming right to you for money so if you don't give you look like a complete tool!!! Horrible. Just tacky AF too.

I bet the girls would have been just as happy with a toy that cost a tenner each.