That sounds awful for your son, Anotherloverholeinyohead. While I'm sure many Scout leaders are great, that does read like really poor, lazy planning with little care for his needs and no thought for taking in 'the views of young people and their parents' but what was easiest at the time. I imagine my 14-year-old son would react in a similar way if it happened at his SJA cadet camp (SJA so far have firm no mixed sex tents policies - getting caught in one is on the list of things that can get you sent home - but that may change).
ItsScoob The stats commonly used to show lesbian are the most likely to be subjected to domestic violence doesn't show that at all. They actually place behind bisexual women regardless of which sex her partner is by a significant margin and slightly more likely to be victimized than bisexual men and heterosexual women. There has been a ton of research showing the whole 'lesbian relationships are the most violent' relies on very unreliable data so ItsScoob it's not really 'a fact'. It's data cherry picking and really undermines efforts done to make LGBT and female-perpetrated violence taken seriously when such bad data and oversimplification is treated as 'facts' and just as ridiculous and hurtful as people trying to claim all domestic violence is male-perpetuated to those of us who are victims of female-perpetrated violence.
All they want to do is 'be'. They aren't sexual predators or con artists; they are simply children.
I was a dysphoric child who wanted to be. I wrestled in high school on an otherwise all-male team in an almost all male district - so about as close and full contact as we can get with clothes on. I still wasn't allowed in the boys' changing room without two adult escorts who did a check before I entered and I got my own room on trips and distant away meets among other accommodations for my dysphoria. Most kids are lovely, and the vetting process can help reduce the risks, but kids can harm other kids and while same-sex abuse between kids very much happens, there are additional risks when it's a mixed-sex situation that can't be ignored. As kids we weren't considered old enough to make choices on those risks, that's what the adults are supposed to be doing for kids.
I was allowed to be and wrestled as I wished, but I wasn't allowed to put myself or others at any more risk than anyone else. I mean, for those who don't seem to get the sex segregation, would you put a female teen in a hotel room with three teen boys or in a changing room with 30+ of them just because the female teen has gender dysphoria - or would you find better, safer accommodations for everyone involved? Seeing as the youngest boy in the lowest weight class could easily throw me across the training room when I was months from graduating high school, I think my school made the right choice.
Same applies to male teens with dysphoria, there are reasons - for both the trans girls and the other girls - that being lazy and going for the easy cool option of just putting dysphoric kids in with the other sex is unhelpful. Being distressed by our sex characteristics doesn't mean common sense, consideration, and safeguarding go out the window. You can include trans and other dysphoric kids while also having separate sleeping spaces and showering facilities or times, we can be included without throwing us in with the other sex and thinking that will meet all of our additional needs. It doesn't, it really doesn't. Been there, tried that, it can actually make dysphoria worse having what you can never be in your face all the time before even getting to the physical risks. Dysphoric kids deserve better than that, they deserve to have far more consideration than what makes the adults look cool and is easiest for them even if none were ever a threat to anyone else, the risks to the dysphoric kid have to be considered too.