To ask how you would react if your 15 year old was pregnant

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And was unable to terminate. I am interested in how you would react to this.

I would hug her and tell her everything will be okay.

I would reassure her that she had all the support in the world.

I'd reassuring her that I'd be there to help in anyway that I can but also tell her I'm a bit disappointed she didn't wait at least 5 years..
Then I'd probably go over the top with baby stuff.. if she was in that frame of mind.. if she was upset about the situation I'd support her.

Basically.. I'd be there for her as best I can.

I have no idea how I would feel, but I was faced with having to tell my dad I was pregnant when I was 15. He gave me a hug and asked me if I was okay, what I wanted to do, and told me he would be there for me whatever decision he made. He was my hope and a complete angel in that moment. Sadly I had already miscarried and am now pregnant with my first baby at the age of 27. No idea how my life would have changed had I not miscarried but I guess I won't ever know.

I suspect my dad was devastated internally.

I have a boy. Which in some ways I consider even worse. He could have a baby which he could then not have in his or our life (like he was). I would say everything is going to be fine. It is not the end of the world. A baby is a blessing.

*whatever decision I made!

I'd start making a plan with her to keep her in education. I'd tell her I loved her and would support her all the way.

If it was too late to terminate I'd worry about why she'd felt she couldn't tell me. But like others I'd hug her and tell her I'd support her and she could stay in school and go to university, just as she would've done otherwise.

I think context would be very important.

Why couldn't they terminate, religious reasons, moral objections, too late, illegal depending on where they live etc
Are they barely 15 or almost 16, how mature are they, could they cope
Are they in a relationship, was it a one night stand, was it assault etc

I think if they were pregnant and couldn't/ didn't want to terminate there is not much you can do except be there for them and support them. Being pregnant and having children is hard enough in your 20s or later in a serious relationship/ marriage. I would worry about her and how she would manage, but I'd hopefully do my best to support her and not push her away.

Easy to say when it isn't you in that situation though!

What paris said
Then I would go somewhere private to scream and cry and rant and rave and swear and tear my hair out and bite a pillow............
Aaaaaannnd back to what paris said..........

I hope with love, acceptance and support.

That there's nothing we can't get through together. That her life isn't over.

And give her a big hug.

Just love and support, lots of hugs and talking, with a hidden - great, lumbered with another baby just as I thought I was going to be free . Not much else you can do really.

Is this happening to you OP?

I would be very sad indeed. 15 is far too young and studying for a good job will be harder, saving up to buy a decent home will be harder. They cant got traveling or live a life care free even for a while. I want better than that for all my dc.

My recommendation would absolutely be an abortion, it would be such a waste to be a parent at 15.

Having said that I like to think I would always support my children and offer any help I could, even if I didn’t agree with the choice they make.

Be there for her 100% I can't even imagine how scared a 15 year old would be. I hope I would be there for her so she could be a wonderful mum or be her rock if she didn't want to carry it on.
Are you O.K OP?

Horrified and disappointed. For a few minutes. Then i’d Hug her and tell her it will all be fine. Rage with DH in private. Be excited for the baby in public.

Similar has happened to an old friend of mine. Her and her DH have stepped up. But they are devastated and it’s aged her 10 years. She tries to look fine about it all but their plans for life /retirement are in tatters.

Support and love and help.

Why is the teen unable to terminate - are they too far along?

If termination isn't an option for medical reasons, there's not much to do but to tell them it will be alright, plan for keeping them in education and start preparing for baby.

A friend had a baby at 16 and she went on to a RG university and a good career - but she did have a great deal of help from her own parents.

I'd be pretty sad as it's bound to make her life much more difficult. I'd support as best I could and try to encourage her to continue education. I'd also want to be involved with the child.

My initial reaction would probably be to check that anything had been consensual if I wasn't certain. Then we'd go from there, but with much love and support.

Just try and love and support her in a practical way so that she can stay in education...

I would be petrified, horrified and very angry and then we would have a lot of tough decisions to make and to ensure that she or he grew up very quickly and took responsibility of a situation they got themselves into.

I would like to think that I might be sad but supportive. It would be very scary for her.
I would encourage her to think about her options and probably do a lot of lip biting to be honest.

I would hug her and ask her what SHE wants to do and support whatever decision she made, but provide guidance and opinion if asked.

I would also ask if it was consensual, who the father was and if he is going to take any responsibility.

And then give her another hug.

She's still a child.

I don't have a child, but I imagine I'd be pretty gutted. I would absolutely like to think I'd keep a lid on the disappointment and do everything possible to support her, though.