To ask how you would react if your 15 year old was pregnant

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And was unable to terminate. I am interested in how you would react to this.

I'd be incredibly disappointed but if termination was absolutely off the table, medically, I'd be devastated.

I'd wonder why my teen felt having a baby was a valid life choice at 15 and how and where I went wrong for her to take this path.

Hugs and support all the time and so relieved she told me. I went through 2 wks late at 16 and was way too terified to tell my mum so in a way would be a bit hopeful that she and me can talk about it.

Why couldn't she terminate?

I've only got boys, and they're babies, but I'd probably be dying on the inside whilst trying to tell her everything will be OK.

I would give her a hug. Tell her she has all the options in this world

A baby isn't the end of the world

I would then lock myself away and cry for however long it took to calm myself down

I am pro-choice and would hope that my daughter would get rid of a baby. I would support her through this

However, if she chose to keep the baby then I'd also support her and the child for as long as they needed me - my children will always have a home with me

Be supportive and remember its not about me.

Difficult situation but it is not a disaster.

I'd be absolutely bloody devastated. But if the reason for the inability to terminate was that they were too far along I'd offer kindness and support, what's the alternative?

I have a fifteen year old boy but I'd tell him I loved him and would always support him and that he needs to be there for his girlfriend and baby.

Then in private, I'd cry my eyes out.

First shout and rant. Then calm down and as her her plans. Support her as much as I can.

I’d find it difficult to keep a lid on my anger to be honest, but I would try to be as supportive as possible.

I would be asking her for her plan to raise the baby, who is going to care for them while she’s at school and DH and I are at work, how is she going to afford baby care items, what about uni, what provision for childcare is there at her chosen uni?

I would try to be realistic, but not overly pessimistic at what parenthood actually entails, and making it clear that although DH would support her emotionally, we would not be taking on financially or caring responsibilities for another child if she ultimately decided to proceed with the pregnancy.

I'd love her and give whatever support she needed and wanted, would also try to arrange things so she could continue her education and adore my grandchild.

I’d hug her first. Then probably cry!

I think saying it’ll all be fine and brushing it all under the carpet isn’t good. Being hysterical isn’t either.

So a few days of spending time with the girl. Walks. Coffees. Slowly unwinding the story. Slowly talking about future options. Time.

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I'd be absolutely devastated.

I'd ultimately support her, but I'd be beyond sad.

I would be furious and very sad, but would do my best to get over it and deal with the situation. Because what else can you do?

I would get on my knees and pray for the messiah had come... I only have sons.

I would hope that the days of kicking girls out of the home for teen pregnancy are past

I should like to think I would be supportive whichever choice she made but I'm not a parent yet so who can say

Sorry, but I'd be at the police station. She's 15. Thats illegal.

Then talk and support her.

I have a (just) 15 year old dd. I would be hurried for her, but practical. I would need to know the context of “unable to have a termination”. If it was my dd it would be unlikely to be for moral/religious reasons. She would be equally horrified. We’ve talked about abortion, choice and as an eldest sibling she has some experience of babies. I can, hand on heart, say that she would not by choice continue with an unwanted pregnancy.

If it was too late, then we’d just make the best of it.

I don’t agree that a baby is always a blessing. It depends very much on circumstances. But if there were no option, then I would do everything I could to make the impact on my dd (my baby) as positive as possible and can see myself taking on as much as possible myself. And I’m sure that the baby would be loved.

Oh and if it was one of their girlfriends we would be going out and buying a ring at the threat of disinereting him in favour of his child if he didn't do the right thing.

Assuming you mean she's past the 24 week limit then I'd be upset but try to support her the best I could.

Well no one wants their daughter to be pregnant at 15. I don't care what anyone says.
However kicking off wouldn't help or change anything. There fore the only option is to be supportive and make the best of it.

I would hug her and say that everything will be ok. Then I'd offer all the support in the world. It's not a disaster.
My dds birth mums parents threw her out when she was pregnant at 15 the result was utterly catastrophic.

I've seen a friend be very supportive to her DD when this happened. It was not the way they wanted it to go but they were helpful and supportive to the young parents.

With the benefit of hindsight, I think they found out about the pregnancy because of another health issue, which they had to treat differently because of the pregnancy.

I would be devastated. Really really sad.

I dont think its worse for boys either as someone said. It will be the girl left holding the baby and having to raise it, going through child birth at such a young age, missing out on her childhood whilst the boys life will remain pretty much the same.