Scalded for drinking alcohol by a stranger

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Went to Wetherspoons (I'm still there) with DP. I'm 28 weeks pregnant at the moment and had half a pint of cider with my meal. The woman who served it to me had no issue with it whatsoever, but the man stood next to me (not sure if he was slightly drunk) felt it appropriate to tell my DP that 'that won't be good for her or the baby' (hello I'm stood right here ). DP told him, 'it's fine' and told me to ignore him and the bloke then continued to discuss under his breath with his partner/friend my choice to have a drink.

AIBU to think he had no right? To think that it's fine that I had half a pint once in a blue moon? To feel pissed off with the constant judgement of my ever move since I've been pregnant?

Ugh. I've just had enough of today! Sorry for moaning...

Ignore. I remember when I was pregnant with DS I used to have one or two half a ciders once a week. Never on the same night and was out having a meal with dh one night and two women were glaring at me and tutting. I knew why.

He chose to tell your DP. That tells you all you need to know about what a sexist, controlling arse he is.

Although if he scalded you, rather than scolded you, you might want to get him arrested

You had half a pint of cider - which was, from what you say, a very occasional event.

YANBU. Judgy pants man was, I hope he got an atomic wedgie from it.

@MrsTerryPratchett I meant scolded! You'd never know I was an A* English language student back in the day though he did make my blood boil a little if that counts as a scalding...

He is an arse. I really think unless you are impacting others strangers should keep their unwanted opinions to themselves.

Ignore the prick OP. People really seem to think that pregnant women are public property. Hope you enjoyed your cider!

You should have seen the looks I got drinking alcohol free larger from a pint glass whilst heavily pregnant OP.
People love to judge.

I'd understand if I was knocking back a bottle of vodka with a one hand and had a fag in the other, but it's half a bloody pint of cider! No idea why it's pissed me off so much...

I would have looked him straight in the eye and told him it was absolutely nothing to do with him, then walked off. The cheek!

Sorry I agree with the women in principle.
I also think pregnant women shouldnT touch a drop of alcohol.
However. That said I'd never say anything to stranger. Its not my place. I'D secretly growl at you

@Pengggwn I really wanted to kick him in the nuts and pour my cider over his head but of course this would have drawn a little attention to myself.

You were in a Wetherspoons. What do you expect ?

Tell him your not pregnant. Tell him it’s Your symbiotic twin who you absorbed at birth. Offer to show him.

Man sorry

OP, ignore the judgy people, a 1/2 of cider with a meal is not going to do you or your baby any harm.

Ignore him. I drank during my pregnancy and will do again

@Awwlookatmybabyspider and that's your choice entirely. It's human nature to have an opinion. It's the need to vocalise it that bothers me.

@Numbkinnuts I know it's the only damn pub near me and I hate it!

He was rude, but I honestly think a LOT of people would judge you inwardly for drinking alcohol while pregnant.

Why do it? Unless you're an alcoholic, I'd understand there's a problem. But in 2018, it's widely known that cider could damage the baby. If you can't abstain for 9 months, perhaps there's an issue?

When I say I was drinking I mean champagne on my wedding day. Small wines topped up with lemonade, weak spirit and mixer. I had a lot less than I would usually, and made my drinks a lot weaker. But I still had them and will do again.
It's hardly like you were necking shots or having several bottles of wine. Not that would be any of his business if you were.

I would have said 'I'm not pregnant, dickhead, just fat' just to make him feel embarrassed.
Sympathies to you. It is not the business of random men to tell you what to do, though unfortunately there are too many men who think that women are public property.

@Flatpackjackie half a pint of cider with a meal over an hour is not going to harm my baby.

How do you know it isn't?

@Flatpackjackie my baby has taken revenge for me drinking a glass of wine - in a pre-1990s wine glass - and several sips of shandy since I knew I was pregnant by whacking my bladder constantly.

Yes he was wrong. No small amounts of alcohol will have no affect on your baby. A lot of this is moralising. The truth is some women who are alcoholics get away with causing no damage to their babies - although I don't recommend risking it.

@Flatpackjackie I know through trusted medical advice.