Scalded for drinking alcohol by a stranger

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Went to Wetherspoons (I'm still there) with DP. I'm 28 weeks pregnant at the moment and had half a pint of cider with my meal. The woman who served it to me had no issue with it whatsoever, but the man stood next to me (not sure if he was slightly drunk) felt it appropriate to tell my DP that 'that won't be good for her or the baby' (hello I'm stood right here ). DP told him, 'it's fine' and told me to ignore him and the bloke then continued to discuss under his breath with his partner/friend my choice to have a drink.

AIBU to think he had no right? To think that it's fine that I had half a pint once in a blue moon? To feel pissed off with the constant judgement of my ever move since I've been pregnant?

Ugh. I've just had enough of today! Sorry for moaning...

Maybe I have a very bitchy resting face so no one would dare but I have never had any of this crap while pregnant and also no bugger ever tutted at me breastfeeding and I really wanted them to

I love a good row

No you are still funny!

Read that article too...

Alcohol is more harmful than heroin or crack when the overall dangers to the individual and society are considered

Honestly I would stop if I were you...

Well I am enjoying my glass of red but maybe I should have some crack instead! not pregnant though so what’s the point.

I LOVE that people are equating FASD with half a cider.
Totally Fucking clueless!

It really makes me concerned for the abilitity of the human race to think critically!

@Veterinari I am completely baffled by it too... I do admit that starting this thread was probably a brave/stupid thing to do however... (hindsight )

@apriljune12 that's dangerous you know... I'm sure there's someone local who could sell you some crack instead.

everyone being all like "you cant place them in the same category" no, no I cant because alcohol is worse, and if you read the article properly you will find it says that "The World Health Organization estimates that risks linked to alcohol cause 2.5 million deaths a year from heart and liver disease, road accidents, suicides and cancer — accounting for 3.8 percent of all deaths"
so basically what your saying is it should be acceptable to have a line of coke with your meal too, because that isn't as dangerous is it??

@SavanahXx what the fuck are you talking about?!!!

SavanahXx isn't a shame that people have mocked you for being 19 and for pointing out that it's potentially dangerous to drink while pregnant?

Says a lot about the type of people on this thread.

Yes, I do suspect someone has a problem with alcohol if they can't manage 9 months without, for the sake of their unborn child.

bangs head on table

In fact, it confirms all the clichés about the type of woman who thinks her boozing is more important than her baby.

SavanahXx

What does the fact that alcohol contributes to road deaths or suicide have to do with the risks ot does or does not present in pregnancy?

You're very much entitled to your opinion about whether someone should or shouldn't drink, but do quit while you're behind, eh?

Agreed, SavanahXx. As would any sensible person. Fortunately the vast majority of pregnant women wouldn't be seen dead drinking alcohol.

thankyou @Flatpackjackie anyone would think I was the oldest here. I don't see why someone would be selfish enough to contemplate putting any risk at all on there unborn child, whether its from smoking, drinking or taking drugs, its all the exact same, there is still that risk your putting on your baby, and that's just really not fair.

@Flatpackjackie you agree that there's no proof that cocaine hurts a baby? Or that it's not as dangerous as alcohol? I am so baffled that you can't see the absolute shite that is being spouted on this thread.

Man was a dick, especially addressing your DP and not you!
I personally don’t think the odd 1/2 pint of cider with food is a big issue. I haven’t drunk anything more than a very weak shandy with food myself (for which my mum told me off, I ignored her, obvs). I did enjoy walking around my cousins wedding reception with a bottle of 0% beer though. No one said anything directly to me though, but I clocked a few judgey faces

@SavanahXx but you just said there was no proven risk to a baby when taking cocaine. Which is it?

I give up. Honestly, there is no hope sometimes!

Jeeesus there are some thickos on this thread tonight! Very entertaining though. Oh and Ecstasy is not made from plant extracts - it's a synthetic drug AFAIK.

OP - I also had the odd alcoholic drink whilst pregnant with both my DC.

Exactly, SavanahXx.

you wouldn't take ecstasy or cocaine, what makes drinking different

May I suggest you talk to frank if you genuinely don't understand the difference?

The only reason the uk government states "no alcohol is safest" is due to the fact that we are a nation of binge drinkers and cannot work out how many units are in the average drink. 1 or 2 units occasionally when pregnant does not cause FAS, stop pearl clutching!

I would judge you massively, but not my place to say anything to you. And the fact he said it to your partner not you goes to show what sort of person he is anyway.

I don't see why someone would be selfish enough to contemplate putting any risk at all on there unborn child, whether its from smoking, drinking or taking drugs, its all the exact same

No it isn't 'the exact same'. Some risks are high. Some risks are low. Some risks are low enough that they're practically zero.

I don't drink at all when I'm pregnant. I still do things that have some degree of risk to them: cross roads, eat cheese, climb stairs, pick up my cat. These are not the same risk as injecting heroin. Neither is drinking one small drink in the second or third tri.

OP you are both a woman and a mother (to be) surely you realise that you’re public property for anyone to comment on whether you invite those comments or not.
People will always have something to say about your choices, ignore.