To ask a girl to leave our netball team?

[Missjb87]

I've been playing netball in an organised league for 1.5 seasons. I initially joined alongside a group of strangers and we've stayed on as a team and paid for a 2nd season.

We're all of a similar level aside from 1 girl who really struggles to catch and hasn't improved since we started. She's ruining the enjoyment of the game for everyone but recognise she's paid up to the end of this season so persevere with her.

Would it be unreasonable to start a new team without her in it next season/ask her to leave? And if so, how should we go about it?

unreasonable

surely she can stay and be part of the training, even if she doesn't play in many matches

Depends what level you're playing at. If it's a hobby/social thing, you'd be unreasonable (and mean) to do this. If higher than that, it depends how much higher.

Very unreasonable and cruel I'm afraid. Frustrating but play your strongest team and if she needs to be on the bench so be it.

If you're entering the World Cup, fine. Otherwise, just let her enjoy her hobby without making her feel shit.

She may well improve. Please don't destroy her confidence...imagine how you'd feel. Maybe switch positions more? Work on catching drills in training?

As a non sporty person myself that seems a bit mean!! Why is she ruining the enjoyment for everybody? Is it just because you don't win? Talk to her, if you're actually a nice bunch and have just come across badly here, she may still want to join in socially and for a bit of exercise. No harm in her training with you and helping out behind the scenes on match day is there? Alternatively, if you make it clear that your team only accepts players of a certain standard she may be happy to join a more inclusive team. Could you ask around and find a more social team that would suit her better?
Please be kind, we can't all be good at everything!

You should definitely ask her to leave. She should be practicing in a team until she’s good enough to be in a team.

Oh.

Or maybe pick her off then the next most crap person can leave. Then the most crap person after that. It’ll be like the Hunger Games of Netball.

This is sounds like something from “mean girls”. The kinder option would be to have some training sessions focussed on improving her weaknesses.

Girl? How old are the team members?
Yes, I think YABU to ask her to leave.

Really cruel. I agree that you should play your strongest team. If you're in a high division and she's not getting many matches you could signpost her to a team that needs players in a lower league but if you're already in a lower league you're just being unkind.

Unless you have a trial system for players then you are totally BU.

Why not try and improve her play rather than ditch her?

When are you 12, op.

Wow you sound nice

And i think you mean ‘woman’

Unless you actually are 14, which thinking about it, isn’t that farfetched

Jesus, this has taken me right back to my school days. Some people never mature past that stage, it seems

Very mean. Have you all discussed this (cringing for the poor girl) or are you leading this?
Horrible anyway. I'm sure she'd understand if she wasn't picked for league matches but to ask her to leave would be awful. Aside from anything else you don't know what this hobby and (what she might think ) friendship group means to her.

God this is the sort of thing I imagine happening to me if I joined a team sport. Frankly my imagination of stuff like that happening is one of the primary reasons I stick to individual sports only. Fair enough to play your strongest team, for sure - I agree with NerrSnerr - but does it do any harm if she comes to practice etc?

I really miss netball but never made it out of the B team.
So many people have suggested I join a local team but I always suspected they'd be full of thwarted ex county women...
can't think why
By all means leave her on the bench but really OP - did you need to ask?

Well if you want the rep of being one of the bitchy netballs teams, sure.

Didn't get picked for netball team when I was 11 ever. Still not over it. YABU

Oh god, this totally reminds me of school PE lessons and why I gave up team sports as soon as I finished them. Being the weakest link and ‘ruining it for everyone’.
Interestingly the ‘solo’ sports I’ve done since have been really welcoming and accepting from people coaching me and lending me kit to two friends recently walking with me as I waddled at 6 months pregnant round the ‘run’ part of a triathlon having finished their own races.
You’d be unreasonable but if the team is going to make her feel uncomfortable and unwelcome then she’s probably better off not involved.

I hate to say this but netball is one of the bitchiest sports I've been involved with. I think it's because grassroots teams don't seem to have got the memo from the British association. It's badly organised at local level.

drwhy triathlon is so friendly,!

m.youtube.com/watch?v=jsP0W7-tEOc

Do you remember this great advert “ This Girl Can” with the Missy Elliott track ? It’s designed to get more women playing sport. Women who might have been put off at school or maybe have put on weight and feel a bit self conscious. Congratulations for being part of the problem and not the solution.