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To ask a girl to leave our netball team?

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Missjb87 · 16/08/2018 21:38

I've been playing netball in an organised league for 1.5 seasons. I initially joined alongside a group of strangers and we've stayed on as a team and paid for a 2nd season.

We're all of a similar level aside from 1 girl who really struggles to catch and hasn't improved since we started. She's ruining the enjoyment of the game for everyone but recognise she's paid up to the end of this season so persevere with her.

Would it be unreasonable to start a new team without her in it next season/ask her to leave? And if so, how should we go about it? Football

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BoneyBackJefferson · 18/08/2018 11:39

JacquesHammer

Why? Why is her desire to play for enjoyment more important than others desire to play with competent players?

But the opposite is also true.

In the end the OP has disappeared and even if she were still here I doubt that she would answer some of the questions that would help form more informative answers.

Mayra1367 · 18/08/2018 11:43

You are obviously very confident in your own netball skills, maybe there are skills you need to work on too .

BoneyBackJefferson · 18/08/2018 11:43

JacquesHammer

Saying you can only play competitively and to a high standard if you’re professional is nonsense

I agree, but then the club needs to decide what its ethos is.

Is it a fun club.
Is it a competitive club.
Is it a professional club.

Because of the way that these leagues work -money wise- the latter two are just taking money off people that will never get a game.

JacquesHammer · 18/08/2018 12:02

I agree, but then the club needs to decide what its ethos is

Absolutely. That’s a fair point. As I said earlier when I’m coaching I do two sessions - enjoyment for anyone and then more serious training.

I do feel for places that don’t have the resources to do that - you can’t please everybody and usually to the detriment of most!

TornFromTheInside · 18/08/2018 13:06

When Jacques says she's 'coaching' she means she's on the back seat of a day trip to Bangor with a canned G&T and egg cress sandwiches.

(Only kidding Jacques)

JacquesHammer · 18/08/2018 13:32

runs off knowing she can't catch him, cos she's injured!

I’m a very good shot though. And my arms aren’t injured Grin

TornFromTheInside · 18/08/2018 13:34

oh sh....!

BoneyBackJefferson · 18/08/2018 14:16

JacquesHammer

I do agree, we also ran two sessions, only to have the top players disappear off to other teams that won more due to not being interested in training the players up.

FermatsTheorem · 29/08/2018 11:54

Hope people won't mind me bumping this, but I got a really interesting email from the English RFU (DS plays rugby), saying they were instituting a "half game rule" for the coming season for the amateur game (at the moment it will be a "recommended best practice" suggestion rather than binding on clubs). The idea is that all players who're registered and show up for training regularly should be guaranteed at least half a game on pitch. The idea is to bring on weaker players, make sure everyone is included, and thereby raise standards overall.

Looks like a brilliant idea - inclusion, plus all teams have to do the same thing, so there's no incentive for strong players to bugger off to a different squad if weaker players get included - because the stronger squad will have to do the same!

OrdinarySnowflake · 30/08/2018 11:49

Fermats - I can't help seeing this will go a different way, ambitious strong teams will ask weaker players to leave the squad, rather than have them in reserve.

FermatsTheorem · 30/08/2018 12:49

I can see that as a risk, Ordinary - it certainly happens in kids' football (age 11 seems to be the cut-off age at which kids get kicked out round my way Sad Angry). I'm a little bit more hopeful about the RFU initiative as my experience of rugby so far is that it is a sport built much more round team work (my son's club has a massive emphasis on this) and less round individual prima-donnas (DS plays football too and you really see that in action, even at an early age). Also, rugby has less people playing in terms of sheer numbers, and you need a big squad because of the higher injury risk, so I think there's less risk of weak players being kicked out. But we'll see how it goes.

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