AIBU to believe my husband (kiss)

[IloveGandT]

Hi everyone,
I think there will be a bit of a divide in terms of reactions on this thread but I really want to know what everyone thinks.
My husband went out last night for a few drinks with some of the guys from his work. They went round a few pubs in a town not far from ours and also went round a couple of clubs.
I went to bed at around 1am because he never normally comes home much before 4/5am on a night out so I didn't stay up to wait for him.
I messaged him when I got into bed telling him to stay safe and that I love him and that I was going to sleep. About a minute later, I had a message that simply said 'I'm so sorry but I've kissed someone tonight. I'm coming home'
He got home and I was very upset but he insists that the woman came up to him and kissed him and he kissed back but then pulled away.
He's never done anything like this before although he's a very flirty person and he's popular with women.
AIBU to accept it as just a harmless mistake?
I don't want to throw away an otherwise happy marriage

Red flag galore - may I watch too many episodes of Jeremy Kyle! On many occassions when the partner constantly accusses the other of cheating it’s one of two things .. they themselves are cheating or they on drugs and it makes them paranoid 🤷🏻‍♀️ I hope it’s neither .. but please rather sort your issues out before bringing a child into this world 🌷

Firstly, I smell bullshit about the 'kiss' and the subsequent teary confession. Absolute steaming bullcrap.

Secondly, I was thinking that while I would not personally be happy with my husband going out clubbing till 5am and, from what it sounds like, conducting himself like a single man, this is not my relationship. It all comes down to the personal boundaries that the two of you have set as a couple and to what your personal and unique marriage contract entails. Then I read about his double standards and I'm appalled. He expects a completely loose leash so that he can behave as he likes, yet there is no reciprocity for you to do likewise. Worse than that, he is jealous and controlling.

I am not going to say ltb, even though I would in your shoes.

But please- go back on the pill (and use condoms to protect your sexual health as I have my suspicions), start getting your ducks in a row in case you do need to leave.

He is an abusive man, You should read this book-

unityandstruggle.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

I'm with worraliberty I reckon he's been seen and he's telling you before someone else does. I also reckon he's done it a lot more times than he's admitting.

I'm going against the grain here, it would totally be a deal breaker for me if my partner kissed someone else