My Husband has been taken into custody

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He has broken my nose, my left cheekbone and dislocated my shoulder. My children are with my mum and the police have called social services. I am paralytic with fear that they will take my babies away. He always said they would because one day he would kill me.

Didn't want to read and run, but not sure I can offer any helpful advice, I do however so sorry to hear about your injuries. Please keep yourself safe.

I have very little experience of this op but I wish you well lovey. X

You need to show SS you are doing everything to protect yourself and dc from him.He need to go, stay away and never return.

As long as you're never taking the POS back again and follow through with pressing charges against him, you're doing all you can to protect them and yourself. Please don't worry yourself about his cruel threats. Concentrate on yourself and your children.

They cannot remove your children unless you fail to protect them yourself. If you keep this man around your children you are not safeguarding them or yourself. As long as one parent/guardian is able to care from them and protect them all the services will do is support you unless they have concerns about your parenting skills or feel the children are at risk.

They won't take them as long as you keep them away from him.

Losing your children is a primal fear, but they will not take them from you if you stay away from him.

I hope you find peace. There are people who are not like him. Trust them.

Where are you now, OP? Are you safe?

I don't have anything useful to say other than sending you lots of un-mumsnetty hugs and hoping you've got all the medical care you need

Op i don't know how things work in situations like this, but I would assume they would keep the kids away from him (because he a danger and violent)...you are a victim, I can't see why they would take them away from you...

Whatever you do please don't take him back, stay safe and accept every bit of help and advice the police, social services, family, friends etc give you..

SS can help you be a family with your children without your husband. Use their support. I hope things improve for you all(except him obviously)

That’s awful. As long as you don’t go back to him you should get them back easily.

Look after yourself and be strong. No practical advice regarding SS, but you are not the perpetrator here.

24-hour National Domestic Violence
Freephone Helpline
0808 2000 247

And

www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

You are not alone.

Press charges, don’t even consider taking him back and cooperate with social services- remember they are there to help

Look after yourself x

Didn't want to read and run. I hope everything work out for you. aslong
as you are proving that you are doing what you need to do to keep your children safe they won't take then away.

He said your DCs would be taken away, precisely to frighten you. He doesn't have any special knowledge. Keep him away and you'll have nothing to fear.

Bloody hell OP, big hugs. I have no experience with this but women’s aid may be able to help & offer advice. Where are you now OP?

Hi OP. In my experience they won't remove your children as long as you do everything you can to safeguard them. Get in touch with Women's Aid, call your HV too. I'm so sorry this has happened. I'm glad these days police will now charge without the victim pressing charges.

I waited and waited until I was sure he wasn't going to come back and had definitely gone to work before I called my mum. I called her first, not the police. Does that matter? My mum called the ambulance. I feel like my head is buzzing and I cant breath properly.

can not give advice but just want you to know that I'm thinking of you. Take care xx

No, it doesn't matter. Your HV should be made aware as they will get a CID16 which is something the police do. Please call her, she will be able to support you too.

I'm sorry this has happened to you op.
Social services won't take your children as long as you show them that you are going to protect the children which will mean not having your husband back in the house.

Co operate with the police fully. When/ if he is released part of bail conditions will be for him not to contact you. Find a solicitor and Apply for a court order against him. Show the SS you are doing everything possible to keep you and your dc safe.
DO NOT communicate with him but save any texts/emails and call logs from him to show the judge when you have a court appearance that should be as soon as this Friday if you get talking to a solicitor tomorrow.
You say your dc are with your mum, can you go stay with her if your home isn't in your name?

No one is going to take your children away. Social services will want to ensure that they and you are safe. That will very likely mean assuring them that you and your children will not have any contact with your husband.
They can support you in safely ending your relationship.
I'm so so sorry for what he has done to you.
I left my children's father and my husband over 20 years ago after suffering dv. Please believe me that you and your children have a safe and happy future in front of you, and that there is support for you out there.
Contact Women's Aid. They have a 24 hour helpline 0808 2000 247.
They also have a very helpful web site
www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk
I'd be very surprised if your husband doesn't have bail conditions stopping him from contacting you. He may possibly be remanded in custody as your injuries are so severe.
The police should also assign you a dv support worker to ensure you are kept infirmed and ensure you are safe.
You will come through this. All my very best wishes and a gentle hug

Can you call a lawyer? There will be one available out of hours.

What are the police advising ?

YOU CANNOT GO BACK TO HIM