My Husband has been taken into custody

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He has broken my nose, my left cheekbone and dislocated my shoulder. My children are with my mum and the police have called social services. I am paralytic with fear that they will take my babies away. He always said they would because one day he would kill me.

If he's given bail at all, it will be subject to strict conditions which will virtually certainly include coming nowhere near you or the children. When you are able to, you need to talk to the police about this, and get legal advice about an injunction. You may well qualify for legal aid for the purpose.

Your head will be buzzing because you are possibly in shock, plus the painkillers

Ask a nurse if there is someone you can talk to. Even the Chaplin can lend an ear, and should be able to direct you towards other people who can help

YOu can ask the nurse if she could make sure that no male visitors are allowed, and make sure they know who did this to you.

Also do the police know where your children are? They should know.

YOu are being very brave. You can do this.

I'm so sorry, you didn't deserve any of this.

Your children are safe, that's what matters. And so are you .

Your head is probably buzzing because that animal hit you hard enough in the face to break two bones.

Oh my darling girl. Do you have a friend locally that can come and sit with you in the hospital?
Sending you a huge motherly, gentle, hug. Have some flowers too

OP.

Let the police and social services and your mum help you.

Hopefully the police will keep him in custody over night at the very least (given the severity of your injuries, I can't see any other outcome). He will be charged and possibly bailed/possibly kept on remand. But if bailed, it will almost certainly be part of his bail conditions that he is to keep away from you. Again, given the severity of your injuries, I'd be quite hopeful he'll be kept on remand (i.e. in custody until the trial).

Longer term there are various forms of court order you can get (non-molestation order, etc) which will stop him coming near you.

Its the first time he has hurt me like this. Never like this. He used to hold my hair tight and tell me he would kill me. threats. how have I let this happen to me

. I’m so sorry. I’m glad your babies are safe. If you have any doubts that he may come to your mums house is there anyone,who can be with her or take them somewhere?

Sweetheart,i am so sorry that this has happened to you. You are a brave woman for calling the police and getting him taken away so he can't hurt you or the kids any more.

If your ex is bailed tonight and goes to your mum's, she MUST call 999.

Social services will not take your babies off you just because you're a DV victim. They'll be there to support you all through a difficult time. Just don't take him back! Poor you, I hope you are getting everything you need

Oh OP you haven't. None of this is your fault. IF he's released on bail one of the restrictions will be not to come in certain distance of you, DC or your Mum.

You didn't let this happen sweetheart, you aren't responsible for this. He did this because he is a piece of shit.

He's a piece of shit that was maybe very good at acting nice sometimes, but at heart, he was a lunatic. ANd you did NOT cause that.

And yes if he turns up at your mum’s she needs to call the police straight away and not let him in. They’ll come straight over. Definitely talk to women’s aid either the national number or if you google women’s aid and your local area (say women’s aid Rochdale or wherever) they should have one that’s local to you and might be easier to get through. Best wishes to you.

Hi OP. Your babies won't be taken as long as you don't return to your husband. If he turns up you must call the police immediately. Call Women's Aid for advice and see if you can find a shelter away from him. You're at your most vulnerable now. Good luck OP.

Also make sure he can't take the children anywhere.

They won’t but they may well slap a restraining order on the bastard and not let him have unsupervised access to the children.
Follow through on all charges and do not go bk to this bastard.

You have not 'let' anything happen to you. Only he is responsible for his actions, you are not.

Please call someone to sit with you and let your mum know he may come to hers.

Once you get the support from the domestic violence services - who are absolutately amazing (I had an injunction within 2 days) you will feel much more in control. Stay safe and take care of yourself.

If he comes near you or your Mums call 999. He will be arrested again.

I have no.further advice to offer, I just wanted to tell you how brave you are for calling the police and putting these wheels in motion. I hope you aren't in too much pain.

OP.. I'm sending you heartfelt thoughts and best of wishes.... you're never alone on here Lady....

You didn't let this happen, he chose to make it happen, that's the difference. Stay strong

this is not your fault you didn't 'let' this happen

They will prefer for a family member to look after them than take them until care until you are well enough, as long as you do not go back to him.

There will be a section 47 investigation as the children are at risk of harm. This is to support you and the family, view it all as support not people to be nasty.

Get the locks changed - this man is too dangerous to risk him getting back into your home.

You need to protect yourself and your children. Is there anywhere else you could stay for a while until you are feeling better and more able to cope?